Vanilla Female Led Relationships…

Contrary to what mainstream media has portrayed female domination to be, female led relationships are not the same thing. While a female led relationship does focus on a woman’s ability to be a leader, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she must dominate her male partner to be in a successful female led relationship.

The social normal, portrays women to be objects of mens sexual desire, and so this has many men seeing their desires instead of her beauty. So when a woman is broken down by a males own desire, it is only her body that becomes his focus, and so, as a result, men chase women, and once they have had her body in a sexual way, the woman loses her value to some degree in his eyes. We see this by the use of hookers, and by the porno industry, one night stands. How many women out there are wondering what’s going on with their man after a few dates? So women are broken down to their sexual worth to a man and often tossed aside once that worth has been spent…

Now I am not trying to insult or bring men down by saying these things, these things happen every day, and they are by no means subtle. It is not men’s fault, it is the conditioning of society that keeps men enslaved by their own desire and their lack of knowledge on how to free themselves from it. A female led relationship can come in very handy here. When a woman knows her own worth, and makes a man wait for sex, until she’s truly ready and able to open up to him in trust, she has the power to help him see beyond his own desire, and to see her beauty. He gets to know her personality before sex, and this enables more chemistry to build up, which means, more intimacy and passion will enter the relationship.

When a woman screens men in this way, she filters out all those men who cannot see beyond their desire and only want her for sex. This is a woman in control, yet not being dominant at all. She is simply refusing sex, which is her right, until she’s ready, and she will not be pressured. If she is, she is strong enough to tell him that they aren’t compatible, and she knows her own worth is greater alone, than having a partner that doesn’t compliment her self worth. When a woman does meet a man that goes the distance, then the framework for a successful relationship has already begun with a solid foundation and open communication.

Another thing a woman can do, is tell him that he doesn’t get an orgasm until she does, ensuring that she is sexually satisfied, instead of just him. If he is serious about her, this will be something he will be happy about, and it’s another test for her to determine if he is a good match, and she can continue to do this, every time sex occurs. It happens too often that men orgasm before their women, and once they have, she usually remains unsatisfied, and we’ve all known women that have never even had an orgasm before…

A female led relationship makes it so it is not only about mens desire, but also about womens. It brings about a balance between them, and this helps them understand each other on a deeper level, a level that breaks through the communication barriers and the social conditioning, to create a relationship based on love, rather than sex. Intimacy, passion, trust, honesty, and communication become the forefront, the foundation, the lowest level from which the relationship sits. Which means, it can soar to untold heights, beyond what most people ever experience. All it takes, is a gentle, vanilla, female led relationship to make all the difference in the world…