Is it hard to imagine what a real femdom-relationship would look like, if all BDSM experience you have until now is watching femdom porn and fantasizing about the women you see there? No.
Let’s take this apart:
“Female Led Relationship”
It is a relationship, right? What do you want from a relationship? A real life partner? A friend? Someone who understands you and supports you in your life goals? First, determine those everyday relationship needs of you. Look for a woman to love who provides this and loves you, too. Oh, you’ve already got one? So much the better! Do you think she wants the same things from a relationship? Support, a friend, etc? Right!
Okay. Next point. Why do you want a relationship with a lifestyle Domme, then? Because of the kinky sex? The feeling of being owned and to belong to someone you look up to? Because you want someone to care for what you have to give and to accept and even want the submission of your wishes to theirs? Because you want to adore her and be respected and loved for being, in fact, a slave to the love of your woman? Because you crave the constant wanting? The denial?
So what do you have to do now?
Bring the two points together, they’re not that different from each other, really.
But first you have to bring yourself to believe, that there really are women out there who truly want submissive men, want to play with them, tease them, live together with them. Good girls. Healthy, mentally stable women. Real women. Just “normal”, inconspicuous people. Strange and disabled people. All sorts of people.
Now: Imagine loving, caring for, adoring your woman. Worshiping her as a perfect human being. Treating her as your superior, your Queen, when she wakes up, when she has to go to the doctor, when she watches her favorite tv-series… Imagine being her knight. Working for her. Presenting her with gifts. Making her cum. Cooking her dinner. Fulfilling her needs in the relationship, in everyday life, at special events… Always being wanted by her as her slave, her subordinate. Being hers. All the time. Feeling at home. Feeling aroused by her beauty of mind and body. Feeling empowered by her giving you orders and obeying her to her fullest satisfaction, being used by her for her pleasure… You are open with her. She knows all your secret desires to tease you and keep you aroused constantly and you know hers so you may satisfy her even better. Whatever that may mean…
Was that hard to do?
Probably it was, if you never really thought about true love and a relationship between two consenting adults. But otherwise? So please stop telling me you can’t imagine a non-porn-fantasy, life style femdom-relationship because all you’ve seen of femdom is porn and therefore don’t know what a Domme would want in real life. Watch the couples around you. There is many a female led relationship unacknowledged (by both partners). And those who are kinky and know it aren’t aliens, too. The women don’t wear a strap-on in the mall (um… only occasionally…). Femdom couples go grocery shopping together and eat at fast food restaurants and do volunteer work at the dog shelter, care for their children and their feeble parents. Maybe a lifestyle Domme is putting those onion rings on your burger right now! So grow the fuck up you little porn spoiled babies, be the man you are born to be and see the reality around you. See the strong, dominant, women of this world. They are literally everywhere!
If you only want the kinky sex, you can get that without a relationship. But if you want a 24/7 relationship with a Domme, behave like you’re in a relationship, not in a porno!
She’ll command you to do the porn for her, if she wants it, soon enough. And if she doesn’t want porn acting? If, what she wants, doesn’t align with your needs, end the relationship. Otherwise, you’re in a female led relationship, pull yourself together and give her whatever she needs from you! There is a thing called “service dom”, be that for her, when and if she says she wants it. You’re a good sub! Your service is wanted, you are acknowledged for what you give. You are her love-slave in your absolute submission to her words!
Of course a female led relationship has to be consensual. For both sides!
Do you still think you can’t come up with ideas what a certain life style Domme would want from her 24/7 slave? Or what you could provide for your Domme? Do you still think ALL you can do FOR HER is to fuck yourself with a butt plug and tell her how hot she’s making you?
Let’s take this apart:
“Female Led Relationship”
It is a relationship, right? What do you want from a relationship? A real life partner? A friend? Someone who understands you and supports you in your life goals? First, determine those everyday relationship needs of you. Look for a woman to love who provides this and loves you, too. Oh, you’ve already got one? So much the better! Do you think she wants the same things from a relationship? Support, a friend, etc? Right!
Okay. Next point. Why do you want a relationship with a lifestyle Domme, then? Because of the kinky sex? The feeling of being owned and to belong to someone you look up to? Because you want someone to care for what you have to give and to accept and even want the submission of your wishes to theirs? Because you want to adore her and be respected and loved for being, in fact, a slave to the love of your woman? Because you crave the constant wanting? The denial?
So what do you have to do now?
Bring the two points together, they’re not that different from each other, really.
But first you have to bring yourself to believe, that there really are women out there who truly want submissive men, want to play with them, tease them, live together with them. Good girls. Healthy, mentally stable women. Real women. Just “normal”, inconspicuous people. Strange and disabled people. All sorts of people.
Now: Imagine loving, caring for, adoring your woman. Worshiping her as a perfect human being. Treating her as your superior, your Queen, when she wakes up, when she has to go to the doctor, when she watches her favorite tv-series… Imagine being her knight. Working for her. Presenting her with gifts. Making her cum. Cooking her dinner. Fulfilling her needs in the relationship, in everyday life, at special events… Always being wanted by her as her slave, her subordinate. Being hers. All the time. Feeling at home. Feeling aroused by her beauty of mind and body. Feeling empowered by her giving you orders and obeying her to her fullest satisfaction, being used by her for her pleasure… You are open with her. She knows all your secret desires to tease you and keep you aroused constantly and you know hers so you may satisfy her even better. Whatever that may mean…
Was that hard to do?
Probably it was, if you never really thought about true love and a relationship between two consenting adults. But otherwise? So please stop telling me you can’t imagine a non-porn-fantasy, life style femdom-relationship because all you’ve seen of femdom is porn and therefore don’t know what a Domme would want in real life. Watch the couples around you. There is many a female led relationship unacknowledged (by both partners). And those who are kinky and know it aren’t aliens, too. The women don’t wear a strap-on in the mall (um… only occasionally…). Femdom couples go grocery shopping together and eat at fast food restaurants and do volunteer work at the dog shelter, care for their children and their feeble parents. Maybe a lifestyle Domme is putting those onion rings on your burger right now! So grow the fuck up you little porn spoiled babies, be the man you are born to be and see the reality around you. See the strong, dominant, women of this world. They are literally everywhere!
If you only want the kinky sex, you can get that without a relationship. But if you want a 24/7 relationship with a Domme, behave like you’re in a relationship, not in a porno!
She’ll command you to do the porn for her, if she wants it, soon enough. And if she doesn’t want porn acting? If, what she wants, doesn’t align with your needs, end the relationship. Otherwise, you’re in a female led relationship, pull yourself together and give her whatever she needs from you! There is a thing called “service dom”, be that for her, when and if she says she wants it. You’re a good sub! Your service is wanted, you are acknowledged for what you give. You are her love-slave in your absolute submission to her words!
Of course a female led relationship has to be consensual. For both sides!
Do you still think you can’t come up with ideas what a certain life style Domme would want from her 24/7 slave? Or what you could provide for your Domme? Do you still think ALL you can do FOR HER is to fuck yourself with a butt plug and tell her how hot she’s making you?
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