The male has it pretty easy in a FLR: Do as you’re told. No, I’m joking, but there is some truth to this, and it’s a big part of the attraction. Not having to make decisions, having simple rules to follow, no pressure to be assertive etc. are all major positive factors. Of course, the male is also expected to do a whole lot of work, to always be ready to pamper his woman and to give up many pleasurable things, so it’s a mixed bag. But with proper motivation, these sacrifices become a source of pleasure in themselves, and most males in successful FLRs are very happy campers.
I’ll keep this article pretty short, because in many ways the male’s role is the opposite of the female’s role, which I have described in some detail in a previous article.


IN THE BEGINNING

When you’re just getting started, and you haven’t quite found your footing yet, the male should focus on boosting your confidence and helping you become comfortable. He should be extra careful about challenging or making light of your attempts at becoming a more dominant woman. He should instead try to gently guide you where he feels that you could benefit from some input, to react “in character” even if he finds a situation slightly amusing, and to change his own demeanor to be less assertive.

Above all he should take every opportunity to show you how pleasant this new life can be. He should let you make more decisions, ask to do more housework, focus more on your pleasure in bed, start pampering you in everyday situations and so on. Eventually, you will demand that he does this and much more, but in the beginning, before you are comfortable even asking him to do them, he should go out of his way to do them without you having to ask. This will get you into the right mindset early on.
AFTER A WHILE
Once you are more comfortable making decisions and have taken charge in the relationship, he should shift his focus to making your life as pleasant as possible. He’ll certainly have rules to follow and expectations to meet, but in addition to that he should start having your well-being front and center of his mind at all times. Proper motivation plays a big role here, and that’s your responsibility, but if you play your cards right he’ll be thinking about you all the time, and how he can make your life better.

Here are some examples of things he should do continously, all on his own:
  • Learn what you like - in every aspect of life
  • Work on perfecting his execution of every task you give him
  • Suggest new activities that he thinks you may enjoy
  • Surprise you - gifts, trips, cultural experiences etc.

The common thread is of course that all of this will make your life more pleasant and enjoyable. It really is quite simple.


RESPONSIBILITIES

His responsibilities are simpler than yours - remember, that’s a big part of the appeal. For sure, he will be expected to do more than you, but I’m talking more about things like making difficult decisions, judging real objections vs. playful objections, enforcing rules and enacting corrective behavior. Those are taken care of by you.

However, it is his responsibility to talk to you about any issues he might be having. And he needs to be an adult about having bad days. Sure, he can ask for a timeout every now and then, but depending on his personality there can be plenty of bad days when it would be pleasant to go back to the old way, and he can’t keep asking for timeouts all the time. Either he is interested in a Female-Led Relationship, and does his part to make it work on less inspired days too, or he should just talk to you about ending it.


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