How i will serve my Mistress in a typical day by LizakPL

Morning:

– I get up first. Goddess is still asleep. If I slept at the bottom of the bed, warming the feet of the Goddess, I get up carefully to not to wake my Goddess.

– I make coffee (or tea) and breakfast. Not for me, but for my queen.

– I bring breakfast in bed. Carefully I wake my mistress.

– Mistress eats breakfast. At that time I lick her feet.

– If goddess has a need, She using me as a personal toilet.

– Lady gets up from the bed. I give her leash. I follow her into the bathroom, walking down on all fours right on her leg. I help her in the morning toilet. Am assisting with making make-up, or I lick her ass clean.

– In bathroom goddess opened my chastity belt for a while. I wash my worthless worm. Goddess closes it again.

– I inform her that according to my diary, today may be the beginning of her menstrual period. I have given her tampon. As a reward for my memory, the Queen promises me that I could lick her pussy as soon as it starts. After these words, my penis becomes hard, which is very painful when it is locked in chastity belt. The Queen laughs at me.

– I combing her beautiful hair.

– I help her get dressed. (clothing is prepared the day before. clean, washed and ironed, of course, by a slave).

– I help her put on shoes. She is not saying goodbye to me. Instead, she pats me lightly on the face, like a dog. I am the subject, I’m her property. She does not have to speak to his property. Sometimes she slap me harder or spits on my face. It all depends on her mood.

– Lady goes to work. I’m starting to miss her.

My day (time without my lady):

– Work for 6 to 8 hour in home. I do not have a lot of money from my work, but it is a chance that this will change. You should treat this as a quarter-time. In full time I take care of the house and my goddess.

– From time to time I stop working and start strength training. I want to look good, to please my Goddess. I usually train from one to two hours. Expander, dumbbells, push-ups, abdominal muscles, jumping rope or bike (if possible).

– During this time I also do laundry. Put up new and gather yesterday.

– I wash myself (cold shower) and shave my entire body.

– If need, then I finish early and go shopping.

– An hour before my goddess come back, I start to prepare lunch.

– Every two days I do also sweet dessert for the evening, or bake a cake. I am a good housewife. I like to bake and cook. Today I made a coconut beads in dark chocolate. I always try to surprise my mistress.

Afternoon:

– My queen finally returns. I kneel and kiss her feet, helped to pull off shoes and serve as a pisuar, if necessary.

– I serve food for my goddess. When she eats, I wash her feet in a bowl of water. Ladies always eats first. I do not even know if I get any leftovers. If I get the leftovers, then I eat them, thanking for every bite.

– Lady resting after work. At that time I clean after dinner. When I’m done, I kneel on the floor and wait for the orders.

– The Queen orders to clean up one of the rooms. Immediately I take to work. Vacuuming, wash the floor, clean the shelves. I’m doing all I need to do.

– When I’m done, my lady checked my work.

– If needed, I clean another room.

– At that time, my lady reading or browsing the Internet. But I have to be careful and listen. Cleaning does not relieve me from the obligation of serving my goddess. I have to be ready to make her tea when she snaps finger.

– Household chores under the watchful eye of my beautiful owner is a pleasure. When she wants to humiliate me, then I’m a female maid for her. I wear a dress and apron, and she laughs at me. Sometimes she likes to disturb me when I clean the apartment. she likes to kick me in the ass and whipped on the back, when I clean the floor. I love her for it. With this torture I work better and faster. Later there will be more time to personal service.

Evening:

– After performing my duties, the Queen opened my chastity belt, but I can not touch, because I can not have an orgasm without her permission. If I had a spontaneous ejaculation, I will be sternly punished.

– She likes to see me excited and hard. She loves the power that she has over me. I love her, and she sees it, but she does not love me. My erection makes me crazy. In this state, I will do everything what she wants, and she knows it. She uses it, and I love her for it. My orgasm is a reward for my service, but I receive this honor not often. At the beginning we agreed that I was allowed to orgasm once a month, but she changed her mind. She was the goddess of the law. Now, three months go by my celibacy. She sees the suffering in my eyes, and it amuses her.

– I service my mistress. I massaged her whole body, feet, legs, back. I’m also a footrest, a punching bag and a spittoon. I care about is that the queen was relaxed, rested and happy.

– She knows that all this excites me, and that I can not touch my penis. Telling the truth, this is not my penis. He belongs to my goddess. Every piece of my body belongs to her. She can do with my body whatever he wants.

– At this time, we watch movies (I’m footstool), talk (I listen and politely answer) or play something (I always lose). This is the free time (but not for me).

– It’s also a good time for a pedicure and manicure. I learned this on the internet. Time to try out my skills. I’m afraid of punishment if they do not succeed. However, I am well prepared.

Late evening:

– I am preparing a bath and dinner for my goddess. Dinner is served during the bath.

– I help her dry off with a towel, then drought and combing her hair. I’m training to be her personal hairdresser. She has beautiful hair. Although I deal with them carefully, then a few times I was punished. It is not easy to please my mistress.

– After leaving the bathroom Goddess choosing clothes and shoes for tomorrow. Am assisting her in this. She sits back and gives orders. I pull out of the closet more dresses, and she chooses.

– I irons clothes and clean the shoes. When I’m done, I report in her bedroom.

– If goddess wants, then She use my tongue for their own pleasure. Sometimes She puts a dildo in my mouth and my face is used as a vibrator. This is the most beautiful moment in my life. I love to give her sexual pleasure. This is for me the most important part of the day. Her orgasm is the meaning of my life. On the number and quality of Her orgasms depends on everything. For this I was created, trained and appointed. That’s why I’m alive. Her pleasure, of course, it’s my duty, but it is the most wonderful duty, which was entrusted to me.

– At the end She checks to see if my penis is hard. If not, then I will have a cruel punishment. If it is, then she gives me order, to cool it under cold water (a bowl of ice is prepared under the bed). When my penis would decrease, then she locks him in chastity belt.

– My Goddess goes to sleep. I sleep in the bottom of the bed, warming her feet, or on the floor beside the bed, or in another room (decisions are made by the Queen, depending on her mood).

For Mistress Katarina J.

This weeks orgasm challenge:

Get naked and bring out the chess board. While it is your turn to move he licks your pussy. While it is his turn, you stroke his cock. He is not allowed to cum and if he gets close to cumming he must make a fast/bad move for you to stop. You can of course cum as much as you want and take your time. If he wins the game he gets to cum. If he loses he gets to try next week.

Rules for your femdom relationship

1) He must obey any order you make
2) His body is yours to do what you want with.
3) He must service you sexually in any way you like at any time you feel like it.

4) He is not allowed an orgasm without your permission. If he is being stimulated and feels he is getting close to coming it is his duty to tell you. Denying his orgasms for longer periods of time should be the norm to maintain his interest in serving you. This is not considered a punishment, just the norm.

5) He is not allowed to ask for sexual favors from you, your pleasure should be his only objective.
6) He is not allowed to touch his penis while it is erect.

7) He is to keep his genitals and ass shaven and clean at all times.

8) Your body is his temple and it is his duty to worship it whenever you request it. This includes massages, washing you in the shower, shaving your legs and genitals (if you want them shaved) and other services you might like.
9) Touching, kissing or licking any part of your body including your feet, ass or arm pits is considered a privilege for him and he should thank you properly for it.

10) He must complete any household chore in any way you tell him to.

11) His ass is yours to play with and should be regularly penetrated to signify that you are in control of him. He must prepare any tools you wish to use and willingly submit his ass to you for easy penetration. If you do not have time to fuck him yourself, you can tell him to use a dildo or a buttplug on himself.
12) If he fails to follow your commands or please you in the manner you expect he should be punished in one of the following ways:


- Slapped across the face (minor)
- Pull on his balls (minor)
- Wear butt plug for an hour (minor)
- Spanked across your lap (medium)
- Put his cock and balls in a bowl of ice (medium)
- Attach clothes pins to sensitive parts like his balls (medium)
- Rub toothpaste or menthol on his penis or asshole (medium)
- Slap his cock until it goes soft ( medium)
- Whip his bare ass (major)
- Fucked in the as with a large dildo (major)

The punishments above can also be done for no other reason than to amuse you, even if his behaviour has been good.

13) He should be rewarded for good behavior by allowing him to kiss your ass, feet, hands or other body parts of your choice. Only on rare occasions should he be allowed an orgasm as a reward.
14) If you want to give him an orgasm, but doesn’t want to give him the pleasure you can ruin the orgasm by stopping all stimulation as he is about to ejaculate. This signifies that orgasmic pleasure is your privilege and his ruined orgasm are just needed to keep his prostate healthy and not intended to feel good.
15) Any of the above rules can be changed by you at any time if you feel like it.

The 30 Day Anal Orgasm Test

It is a fact that ALL men, CAN cum with no stimulation to their penis.

All that is required is to not let your man cum under any circumstances, for any reason. Before we show you how you can accomplish this, one might ask, “Why do I want to make my husband have an anal orgasm anyways? The answer is simple. The transformation that will occur during the following process, will be sure to make your man more obedient, a better and more attentive lover, and overall better partner in life in and out of the bedroom.

So lets begin…

Set The Stage.

The first thing you need to do is let your husband/boyfriend know your intentions. Tell him know right now that you are going to run an experiment on him for your amusement. Tell him it will be tough on him, but the reward at the end of your experiment will be well worth it. Let him know that you are going to teach him how to have an “anal orgasm” where he will feel a full orgasm and cum without any stimulation to his cock whatsoever. Let him know that when he has it, that it will be the most intense orgasm of his life, and that the wait for this will be worth it. Also let him know that you do not know how long this will take, but it will involve lots of sex, but he is not allowed to cum. (this will make him interested for sure.)

Stage 1.

Every day you must tease your husband or boyfriend. You must make him hard, and if possible EDGE him every day. This is where you bring him really close, and then stop prior to the point of
External imageno return. Also be sure to tease him verbally, and talk dirty to him. Remind him how much you own him, and how he is to serve you. Make him bring you to orgasm as many times as you like, and for him to do things like lick your ass. This is a giant turn on for submissive men.

The main point of this stage, is to tease and deny for approximately 2-5 days following his last orgasm.

Stage 2.

This is very much the same as stage 1 except after 5 days, you will start to anally penetrate on a regular basis. After you tease him and his cock is really hard, flip him over, and start working his ass. Plant some triggers here while you are doing this. Tell him how horny he is, and how much he likes it when you fuck his ass. At this point, use your fingers, dildos, anything you have ever used in the past, and use lots of language to keep him turned on during this. Let him know what a good anal slut he is for you, and that good boys get great rewards. The point is, keep the tease and level of excitement high, while you penetrate his ass.

As you are using your dildo, fingers, strap on, or whatever you want, ask him how it feels best. Slow it down, and speed it up, and try different things. Get him to tell you what feels best. Find out if slower or faster is better, and find the perfect speed that he likes a lot. Don’t just take his word for it, judge by how his body is reacting along with what he is saying.

At this point it would be a good idea to do this at least once every second day. Every day is better, and at the same time too, so it becomes something he expects. This is part of the brain conditioning that it will take for him to have release without stimulation to his cock. For the ultimate and best results, at some point, switch to strap on only. Teach him that this is the way good boys get fucked. They get taken by their boss, where and however they want. Use varying rhythms, and lots of verbalization as you take him each time. Ask him to thank you, and let him know how much you are turned on by his obedience. Always let him know that there is a big reward at the end of this experiment. Also tell him while you are taking him with your strap on, that there is a big reward at the end of your strap on.

Stage 3.

1. Pretty much, keep on repeating stage 2. Do it daily or at least very regularily. Make sure you talk to him while you are doing it. Make sure you make him hard everytime before you start doing this. Train him that when he gets hard and horny, your strap on cock is going in his ass. The more you do this, and the hornier he gets, the more he will crave your strap on. At this point it is really only a matter of time. The only rule you need to get from this point on, is that he does not get to cum EVER again normally UNTIL he blows his load from you anally entering him. At some point his semen buildup will need to be released, and between your verbal encouragement, and cock teasing, it will happen. Definitely. The only thing that will vary is the amount of time it takes, and this will vary due to these 2 conditions:

• how old he is
• how often he had orgasms before you started this experiment

Generally the older a person is, the longer this might take, and also the less frequent your man masturbated, or had orgasms, the longer it will take.

If your man is past 50, and only orgasms once per week, this might take up to 2 months.

If your man is 18 and is used to cumming multiple times per day, this might only take 3-4 days.

Most people will fall in the middle of this and will cum within 30 days of this type of training.

One thing is for sure though. All men can cum through anal penetration only, and this exercise is to find out how long that is for your man regardless.

HE DOES NOT GET TO CUM AGAIN NORMALLY ONCE YOU START THIS UNTIL HE DOES BY ANAL PENETRATION ONLY.
Some women elect to make this the new way PERMANANTLY after this happens.

Why? Because keeping your man in a suspended horny state that only cums from anal penetration at your control, will make your man more obedient, compliant, better lover, better house boy for doing chores, and much, much more. This experiment will open both of your eyes to a world of extreme production of the male, and blissfulness for the woman.

HAPPY ANAL TRAINING!

A lot of wannabes are curious about what they can expect when they lock up - What To Expect

1. You will be horny. This is to be expected, and yet I still wasn’t prepared for it. When you first attempt to put your cage on, you’ll probably have a tough time fighting your erection. I like to think of it as your dick’s last hoorah. And once locked up, all you’ll think about is being locked up. You’ll spend hours browsing your favorite chastity blogs, reaching in your pants, and just looking at yourself. And every hour that horniness will build. It gets to a point where it’s unbearable… But there’s nothing you can do about it so you have no choice but to bear it.

2. You won’t be able to masturbate. This is kinda the point, but it actually surprised me how real this is. The cage prevents pretty much any simulation, and attempting to masturbate will cause discomfort. This is going to be very weird at first. All of your life up till this point, if you stroked, you built up to orgasm. No longer. You think you can get simulation, but you just can’t. You think the birdcage design will allow you some feeling through the bars. But it doesn’t.

3. But there IS a way to masturbate. You’ll just feel like a girl doing it. Because your glans is not becoming fully engulfed with blood, it is highly sensitive to vibrations. Much like a woman’s clitoris is soft, so too is the glans. So vibrations will cause stimulation and orgasm. Back massagers, Hitachi, cell phones, can all be used to masturbate.

4. If you’re like me, you’ll use a vibrating device to masturbate once, and then never again. So I admit that I did it once. But the orgasm took away the horniness and I instantly unlocked from my cage and put it away fora few weeks. I’m horny as a teenager when locked up, and I like keeping it that way. When I’m not horny, I don’t want to be in chastity and when I’m not in chastity, I don’t reach the same level of horniness.

5. Your balls will actually grow. I thought this was just a fantasy but it’s actually true. From not emptying themselves through orgasm, your testicles will swell as their sperm reserves are built up. Take a picture every day and you’ll see what I mean.

6. Sleep will not be as easy(at first). When we sleep, our body has a system that causes multiple erections to keep everything functioning down there. But the cage interrupts that and your body wakes up as the discomfort becomes noticeable. And when you do wake up, these attempted erections do not fade quickly. They can last for well over an hour. Interrupted sleep may go on for two weeks, a month, two months, it’s hard to say as each person is different. I have found that after a month, I still wake up, but it’s not as bad.

7. THERE’S A TRICK!!! So I said that those pesky attempted erections don’t go away easily. What I should’ve said is “They don’t go away easily ON THEIR OWN.” A while back, I saw a post on Facebook saying that flexing any muscle for 60 seconds will kill an erection… And it actually does. So I just flex a bicep or two for a minute and, sure enough, it subsides and I can fall back asleep. Some nights it may take 75 seconds, but it does work.

8. With few exceptions, your days of standing to urinate are probably over. I thought I could avoid this one going in, but I was wrong. The ability to accurately predict where your piss is gonna fly is robbed from you, you sitting is the only way(unless you’re outside where it doesn’t matter). This is actually humiliating and took some time to accept on my part. Being able to stand and direct your piss is a true male privelege that is now gone. You must sit, like a girl, because you’ll make a mess otherwise.

9. Hygiene takes a little extra effort. At first, you probably won’t be good at it. Then you’ll develop a methodical routine, and then you’ll perfect it. When I first developed my routine, it took around 5 minutes just to complete. Now I’d say I’m down to 1.5 to 2 minutes. Drying actually takes more time, IMO.

10. Many men report an ache in their balls from not orgasming. I personally have never developed any ache. Just something you may wanna prepare for.

11. Leaking. I feel like I could write an entire book on leaking. The first time I noticed any true leakage of precum was about 2 weeks into a lockup. That lockup lasted 22 days. Until I unlocked and wanked it, I leaked almost constantly. Now, when I lock up, It begins much sooner, usually around day 4. I can get it going sooner by attempting to masturbate, but it’s only a few drops. The real steady stream comes on its own. To be clear, I LOVE LEAKING. But it can get tedious. I sleep naked so I end up washing my sheets frequently. My underwear end up crusty or soaked. I was once leaking so badly that it began to show THROUGH MY JEANS. Thankfully I had a spare pair and more underwear with me where I was.

12. Your body will adjust. Eventually, your body will stop attempting erections, or they’ll become very rare. Your scrotum will soften and hang more loosely than at first. And your penis will “shrink”. Fear not, it isn’t permanent, but lack of erections will cause it to assume a smaller state. The size will return to normal in about 2 weeks after removing your cage. But it takes a long time to cause noticeable shrinkage. My longest lockup was 6 weeks and I only lost a half inch. Two weeks later I was back up to my normal 6.25".

13. You’ll go through a “puffy” period. This one is kinda weird. I first heard mention of it on Tumblr and definitely notice it when it happens. For me, it happens about 10 days into my lockup. My penis will appear swollen in my cage, almost like a balloon, but not an attempted erection. And it stays that way for a while. In my longest lockup, it was only gone about a day before I ended my lockup. I’m not sure what causes it, but it always happens. I think it’s the body trying to compensate for a lack of true erections. And, from talking to other people, when it goes away is when your body just kinda gives up. Sleep becomes easier, arousal occurs without erections. I wish I had known this before, but the cage I was wearing at the time was a bitch to clean, so I’m kinda glad I didn’t.

14. Your attitude will change. At first you’ll be cheery because you’re happy to be locked. But as the horniness grows, you’ll become grumpy without realizing it. Again, I think this is just a reaction by your body for not feeding what it wants. But, for me, about a month in, I adjust and become relaxed, docile, and even the word submissive becomes appropriate. I don’t know why, but it feels… I can’t quite describe it. It’s really nice, it was a surprise to me, and within a day of orgasming, it was gone. Now I want it back.

15. I don’t know if this is just me, but when I first lockup, I’m afraid people will find out my secret. But the longer I’m locked up, the less I seem to care. Maybe I’m just getting better at hiding it, but I also get the feeling that I WANT others to know. This is a dangerous one for me, but very real.

16. Chastity is a giant loop. Actually, several giant loops. The first is simple: Chastity makes me horny so I look at porn which makes me hornier so I view more porn, and so on and so forth. It gets even worse because the longer you’re locked up, you start to find things arousing that you didn’t before. For example, wearing women’s underwear isn’t normally a kink of mine. But, in my long lockup, I even began wearing them out in public. Another giant loop of chastity is: the longer I’m in chastity, the more I want to stay in chastity. It’s like a challenge, of sorts. Kinda like Forrest Gump. “Well, I’ve come this far, might as well keep going.” You make a bunch of progress and you don’t wanna ruin it by stopping and having to work a long time just to reach this point again.

That’s really all I have at this point. I’m sure there’s more. As always, don’t be afraid to ask questions.

It’s crazy how much romanticism happens with the bdsm community from the vanilla community

It’s like they don’t grasp that for majority of bdsm people, it isn’t just “a sex thing” or “we did this 15 minutes, and that’s it, not doing it again” type deal.

Slaves will typically go through extremely strict protocol when interacting with their Sirs/Mistresses. Yes, every relationship is different, but theres “basics” that remain typically the same (speak when spoken to, ask permission to do specific things, keep up with house work, etc.). Being a slave is a 24/7 commitment. You will very likely get bruises, splinters, welts, and other types of injuries, mainly from how rigorous it is (and what it demands of the human body).

Submissives aren’t typically under as strict protocol, but it is still very demanding mentally and emotionally. You need to think about your Dom’s AND YOUR own needs. You need to make sure your Dom is as comfortable as they can be and when they’re having a bad day, do your best to comfort them.

For the Masters and Mistresses, you need to keep your subs and slaves in top condition so they can preform at their best. You need to inspire them to kiss the ground you walk on (and not force them to do it by making crazy demands in messages). You need to respect your subs and slaves real life situations (real life emergency , work schedule, school schedule, etc.). You need to pay super close attention to your subs and slaves body language (yes, every square inch) to see if their body is saying something that they are not vocalizing to you.

There is no integrity is beating your sub or slave to the point where they’re black and blue without giving them any kind of aftercare. There’s no integrity in calling your sub or slave every humiliation term in the book without giving them proper aftercare.

Bdsm isn’t just orgasms, chains, humiliation, or seeing how much of a “doormat” you can make out of someone. Even RACK (risk aware consensual kink) is built on community, trust, honesty, and being aware of your partner’s needs and limits.

How to embrace female superiority - by Lana Voreskova

How to embrace female superiority - My Story
I am a Dominant Woman.

I am a 32 year old Russian woman living in Ireland. I have been in a wonderful female led relationship with an Irishman for the last eight years. It is not a BSDM relationship. My dominance over him is our lifestyle choice, not simply a bedroom game. I am not interested in inflicting pain on someone I love. For me, pain and sex do not mix.

First of all let me make one thing clear. My husband is strong, tough, assertive, highly educated and successful. He is the first to stand up if there is danger. He is a man that other men defer to and admire. He is in no way a weak man. I could not be with a weakling. I need a strong shoulder sometimes like everyone else.

Secondly I am also assertive and confident but not aggressive or abusive. Most people would probably describe me as quiet but self-assured. Aggression and dominance are two different things and people often confuse them. Aggressive women are often those who lack self-confidence and try to compensate for that by being obnoxious. A truly dominant woman has no need of aggression.

My husband and I met, dated and fell in love in the usual way. My dominance over him was introduced about a year after we first moved in together. I had been in relationships before but they had left me feeling unfulfilled. I craved submission from my man. I wanted to be obeyed and worshipped. One day I asked him for a foot rub. I suppose this happens in many “normal” relationships. He complied and began to massage my feet. At one point he made some cheeky remark and I jokingly replied – “be careful or I will make you lick my feet”- I was testing the boundaries here and his response was music to my ears. He became very serious and said, - “I would love to lick your feet.” Ten minutes later he was kneeling in front of me and calling me Mistress.

Over the next few days we talked openly about what we both wanted. I explained to him that I had a deep need to be obeyed and to be in control. He told me that he had always craved dominance by a woman and had played the dominant male role only because he believed it was what women expected of him. It was like a massive weight had been lifted off our shoulders.

The first thing we introduced was what I call my Venus Medallion. It is a large bronze medallion with a Greek style etching of a naked woman. Whenever I wear this medallion then I am Mistress Lana. He must kneel if I walk into a room and remain kneeling until I give him instructions. He must obey my commands without question and he must never speak without permission.

When I am not wearing the medallion our relationship is more equal. He is not required to kneel or call me Mistress. He can answer back and he has the right to disagree with me. We often have long intellectual debates about various issues and I respect his intelligence. However he is still expected to be obedient.

I wrote up some rules and boundaries for my dominance which are as follows.

Normal day to day –

01. You will treat me with respect at all times but you will also be treated with respect.
02. You will listen to my opinions as I will respect yours but you will always defer to my decisions.
03. You will serve me and obey me as required.
04. You will carry out any tasks that I require of you.
05. You will not watch pornography or masturbate ever. Your sexual pleasure is at my discretion and you will have no other sexual outlet.
06. You will always give me the administrator password for you computer and you will never delete the history files.

When I am wearing the medallion -

01. You will address me as Mistress.
02. You will kneel if I enter the room and await instructions.
03. You will speak only when spoken to.
04. If you wish to say something you will first ask permission to speak
05. You will do exactly what you are told without hesitation or question.
06. You will accept any punishment you are subjected to.

When in public or in company –

01. You will never be humiliated or obviously dominated but you are still expected to defer to my wishes and show me respect at all times.

Training

I decided that basic training would last four weeks and I wore the medallion around the clock for training purposes. Training mostly involved ordering him about, making him worship at my feet and some mild humiliation. I suppose it was a bit like military training in some respects; making him do endless pointless tasks just to reinforce his obedience. I would make him go and fetch an object from the garden shed and then tell him to bring back again. I would make him do this maybe twenty times in a row until he was just obeying me automatically. During training he was not allowed to speak, eat or go to the toilet without my permission. He was not allowed any sexual gratification. By the end of the four weeks, he had become completely submissive and would obey me without hesitation or question.

I was looking forward to the end of training myself because I missed talking and cuddling with my man. I don’t want to be wearing the medallion all the time. At the end of the four weeks I made him kneel and swear an oath of obedience to me.

Punishment

Sometimes it is necessary to impose punishment upon my husband. There are two reasons for this. Firstly the punishment is used to discourage behavior that displeases me. Secondly punishment reinforces my dominance and reminds my husband who is in control. Punishments are not a sex game and he does not enjoy them. They would be pointless if he did.

Punishments are usually mild. I will make him kneel for an hour in the corner, or carry out some repetitive pointless task. Of course I will deny him any sexual pleasure but then that’s something that most “normal” women do anyway. The only time I ever inflict pain on him is when he has committed a serious act of disobedience. Then he will be ordered to strip naked and get on all floors on the floor. He will be lashed on his bottom with my riding crop until I am satisfied that he has learnt his lesson. Again this is not a sex game. This is painful for him and he does not enjoy it in any way. He does everything he can to avoid being subjected to this. I have only whipped him four times in the eight years we have been together, but it’s something he knows I will do again if I feel the need. He once told me that he hated being whipped but he loved the fact that I had the power to do it if I wanted.

I believe a dominant woman must be very careful about punishing her man. He should always understand why he is being punished. He wants to serve his Mistress but he doesn’t want to live with a sadist. You should punish your man only when he deserves it and never just because you had a bad day.

Sex

As I have already said, my domination of my husband is not primarily about sex. However sex is the glue that holds a relationship together and his complete obedience to me also extends to the bedroom. I have heard people say that a dominant woman should not allow her man to cum or should force him to masturbate. I think this is nonsense. I think that women who espouse this are man-haters or they are just repressed and terrified of a penis.

I love my man. I love his body, and I like to pleasure his penis. I do use orgasm denial sometimes just to reinforce my authority, but usually I allow him to cum during sex. I was very sexually experienced before we met and he had little experience. This made it much easier to train him how to please me. I have trained him well and he will spend hours to give me pleasure in whatever way I require. So although I am in control, I do believe that sex is more about giving that taking and I like giving to my man. I also know his fetishes and I will incorporate them into our sex sometimes as a treat if I think he deserves it.

I have a high sex-drive and I occasionally have sex with other men provided they are also submissive. I allow my husband to watch at his request and he enjoys it. I never cheat on him behind his back. I would not do anything to hurt him and if he asked me not to have sex with other men, then I would consider it.

As for masturbation. I would never allow him to masturbate. He is completely forbidden from pleasing himself in any way. He must always depend on me for any sexual release. I was away for work recently and he called me to ask me permission to masturbate. I refused to give it. He will always remain frustrated until I decide to release him and he must be conditioned to understand that sexual gratification is a gift that only I can bestow.

My Advice

So as I said our relationship is built on love, respect and communication like any relationship should be. My dominance is only one aspect of it. I know that my husband loves me and loves to serve me. I think that’s how it should be. I also love and respect him and appreciate his need to serve. Women have always been dominant in relationships in many ways. It’s just that most women don’t realize it. Look at any couple in a restaurant and see how he defers to her and tries to please her. It’s quite normal for a man to try to do anything to please his woman. Men in “normal” relationships are constantly offering submission to their women. All the woman has to do is find the confidence to accept that offer. There is nothing better than being in a relationship with a man who will love, respect, serve and obey.

A lot of people would read this and think – “Oh no, all relationships should be equal”….. This is politically correct nonsense. If you think you believe that then you are being dishonest with yourself. I know a lot of couples and I know of none that have an equal relationship. There is always one dominant partner even if it is not usually acknowledged. It is perfectly natural and you should not try to deny a rule of nature just because you don’t like it.

I am not any kind of expert and I can only speak from what I have experienced and observed. My advice to men would be to take it slowly. Many women would be horrified to hear that their partners want to be dominated by them. Remember that women and men have been conditioned by society to accept that any form of relationship that is not “normal” according society, is therefore in some way perverted. You ask a woman to be dominant straight out and she immediately conjures up images of a leather-clad dominatrix torturing a man in a dungeon.

To a man I would say this: Your partner is already dominant in many respects. Many woman are naturally dominant and just don’t know it. Write a list of the ways in which your woman is dominant and then try to expand upon it. Coax her out of her shell and encourage her dominant side. Defer to her in arguments even when you know she is wrong. Do chores for her. She is sitting at home and suggests a coffee; you get to the kitchen first and make it for her. Get up before her in the morning and make her breakfast. Always do anything she asks you to do without question. Try giving her a foot rub. Now try kissing her foot. See how she reacts. If she reacts well, then gradually make worshiping her feet a regular thing. In the bedroom, start asking her what she would like you to do to please her. Ask her permission before you climax. Do not suggest any kind of bondage or discipline early on. If that is something you want you can ask for it later when she has become comfortable with her superior position. Gradually cede power to her in subtle ways. The more you submit, the more she will begin to dominate openly. Finally you will both be confidant enough to discuss the parameters of your relationship honestly. It sometimes takes time to break down taboos that are thousands of years old, but it’s worth it in the end. You will finally be living with the dominant woman of your dreams.

Thanks for reading.

Lana.

Houseboy Becomes Human Pet - Servitude & Worship

A picture of a male slave kissing and licking one of his Mistress Owners’ boots. Boot service is an extra kindness, even on this joyous day. He has puppified.

For a bit more than two years, he has served as the Domme’s houseboy. He has cooked their food and washed the dishes thereafter.

Every day is laundry day. His Mistress Owners’ clothing must be cleaned with care. Everything is hand-washed. Touching their garments always gladdens his day.

When entering a room, he checks for traces of dust, objects out of alignment. The slave is ever mindful that perfect women deserve perfect habitation.

The yards are beautiful. Impeccable lawns. Neatly trimmed bushes. His Mistress Owners’ cars gleam as if newly bought.

His life has changed considerably during his service. In the beginning he was locked in a tiny, empty room, when chores were complete. The Dommes take no pleasure the in the presence of males.

Unceasing mindfulness of his lowly status, instant performance of every task and self-effacing demeanor slowly made his presence acceptable. His sincere servility gave pleasure. Few slaves are so visibly devoted to their Owners.

Even now, unless summoned, he warily stays in an empty room, normally the kitchen. His Mistresses often forget he is near.

A few months ago the Dommes permitted him to sit or sleep near their feet. They watched movies and read books. His silent, worshipful gratitude pleased his Mistress Owners.

How he may become their pet.

When his chores are complete, they lock his ankles together. He must crawl to move. Standing is forbidden.

A blindfold covers the human pet’s eyes. Nothing is visible.

During his puppy training, he will learn to crawl in response to a woman’s directions or the tug of a leash.

Unable to see, his trust must be complete.

If he is a pleasing puppy, his life will change. A new houseboy slave will take his place.

The old houseboy will be permanently puppified. Never again will he stand or walk. Nor speak. Even to thank his Mistress Owners. His tongue is for licking boots.

For the rest of his life, he will live at the feet of the Dommes. He will be their special plaything and worshiper.

This is his reward for perfect servitude.

Top Ten BDSM Tips by: Mistress Valencia

All of us have read, at one time or another, one of those Cosmo “Ten Ways to a Better Relationship” type articles. Most times, the tips are rehashed advice you have heard ten thousand times before. But once in a while, there is a tip that gives you a technique you might never have thought of in a million years - one that really helps your relationship.

It is in this tradition of pop magazine instant-insights that I am offering my “Top Ten BDSM Tips.” I am sure most of them will not apply to you. Though everyone should think about it just the same. Most of these tips are aimed at the Dominants. That is because the Top, for the most part, controls the action. But if a sub learns the “fine art of hinting” (Tip Number 3), I guess most of these tips can be used by submissives as well!

1. Have a BDSM tune-up every six months. If cars can have a tune-up, why not BDSM relationships? Have your submissive make a list of ten activities he/she has done in order of preference. Then he/she should write a BDSM “wish list” of ten activities he/she hasn¹t done but wants to do. These two lists should give you plenty of inspiration (and a bit of a reality check, too!) for play that will turn the both of you on. At least until your next"tune-up.“

2. Repeat your first major BDSM scene. Remember your first special BDSM scene with your partner? By re-doing your most memorable early scene, you will be able to see how far you have progressed. BDSM is one activity that gets better with age and experience. This exercise will prove it to you!

3. Learn the fine art of hinting. As a submissive, learn the subtle art of hinting. "I really liked that cock-and-ball torture demo we saw.”
Remember, it¹s always better to be slightly Toppy than bored!

4. Re-read your slave contract. Most lifestylers I know simply file away their slave contract in a drawer next to the Best Buy receipts. Both of you should read it regularly. You might be amazed how much you have let slide in your relationship.

5. Buy new toys regularly. Add a new toy to the play and watch your BDSM scening become much more exciting. (This tip really sounds Cosmo-ish!) And the toys need not only come from the Dom. Surprise your Dominant with a new toy. Any “Topping from the bottom” issues disappear when gifts are concerned!

6. Write diaries. Make sure your submissive writes a regular diary . There is no better way for a Dominant to learn about his/her submissive.

7. Read the diaries. Read your slave¹s diaries from time to time. Much like the slave contract, a diary gives you insight into your slave and a sense of where your relationship was and where it is going. Relationships don¹t run on auto-Dom. This is a great way to understand your relationship from the sub¹s point of view and make the necessary corrections.

8. Learn a new BDSM technique. As a Dom, learn mummification for example. A new scening skill is the best antidote for boredom!

9. Go to a play party. This tip is for those of you who have never been to a play party. Since you do not have to scene if you don¹t want to (voyeurism is an accepted BDSM practice), a play party is the ideal place to get new scening ideas.

10. Go over the BDSM checklist. See how your play has evolved by filling out a checklist. What a great way to discover activities that you might have overlooked. Look for play with “fives” for both of you. These are the activities that will really get your juices flowing.

Try Chastity Play Completely Solo

You can always play chastity play alone, especially if you’re unsure if you will enjoy it and want to try it out solo before getting someone else involved. You just need to be honest with yourself when flying solo.

Start by signing a contract with yourself along with a release date. Put the key somewhere safe. An alternative is to mail the key to yourself so that it gets to you in a few days and you have time to experiment with chastity play. Just remember to always have a spare key in case of emergencies to avoid an awkward locksmith call.

Try it out for a few days at first to see how you like it then unlock your chastity device and pleasure yourself. You can tease yourself first before unlocking your chastity device by watching porn.

If you want to try chastity play again, do it for a longer period of time. When you feel ready you can see about finding someone to play with you as mentioned above.

Make Him Your Male Slave

Chastity - Any man losing control of his cock to you is automatically putty in your hands. Let’s face it – that’s where half his brain is normally. Some, more. With the keys in your hand, and no chance of release, his chastity will be a constant 24x7 reminder of his new status. Every time he moves, it will feel like you are pulling him around by his cock. Better, his erections as he performs his other slave tasks for you will be inevitable – and quite uncomfortable. Don’t relent to his whining – a male slave needs to be completely sexually controlled. And no safety keys – he must know he’s committed.

But he will need encouragement. Constantly remind him how he’s given himself to you and how you cherish the sacrifice – but he needs this training to really become yours. And doesn’t he really want your satisfaction in his servitude? Trust me – he will be constantly aroused. And, frankly, associating arousal with pain and frustration is very much what you want to achieve. We want to train his mind more than his body.

Probably one of the most compelling things you can do to his head is to have him sign a slavery contract. There are hundreds of online samples. Pick the verbiage you like best. If you’re serious, make sure it’s explicit. No safewords or any way for the slave to terminate. Better, get him to read it while you record him before he signs it. But once he’s uttered the words “I am your owned slave, mistress”, he will remember them always…


Both of these can be sorted in your first session as owner and slave. Not your first session – you really should be starting this from an already established domme/sub, and, hopefully, intimate relationship. The Mistress / slave relationship can and should be highly intimate. If you don’t really love your slave, you’re really missing the best part of their surrender – their demonstration of their total devotion to you, and allowing you to make it formal and permanent.

For the first week, you really need to make sure your slave actually *feels* as though he’s your slave, even as you carry on normal parts of your life. But to transform him, he needs to be in as close to 24x7 submission as possible. After signing and the contract and accepting the chastity, he’s in a fragile state that you want to exploit but having him constantly feel ing submission.

The first task is pretty obvious – he must change his bathroom habits so he’s always sitting. His chastity will enforce that. Like a woman, he will need to have tissue to hand to dab himself. And you’ll never have to deal with a raised seat again!

But, a slave needs humiliation. And there’s the practical matter of making him ready to accept your own piss, should you choose to use him in that fashion. My recommendation is that you also assign to him as the final part of his bathroom ritual, before he flushes, cleaning of the seat so it will be pristine for you. And, of course, that means with his tongue – top and bottom. Yes, maybe allow him to clean it once properly with cleansers and such before the first time  - you will be amazed how spotless it’s kept from now on! And there’s nothing hotter than your former lover, now slave, on his knees making your commode brilliant Just think how clean *you* will feel each time you use it! Maybe extend the task to include after your own use of it! I personally make my slave also clean both my toilet and my privates with his tongue whenever possible after I’ve used it. It will also force him to keep much better mouth hygiene.

But that’s perhaps an hour of his waking day … so much more time you need him to stay focused on his new status during this initial period. If you are a sadist, even just domme, I’d suggest rituals that will build his tolerance. My slave has very sensitive nipples, and I generally *love* to torture them in dungeon sessions. To keep them ultra-sensitive, when my slaves are in training, I have them perform a ritual of attaching clover clamps to them. Because they go numb, I do ask my slaves to put them on and remove them 5 times – 2 minutes on, one minute off. If one slips early … oh, well. Doesn’t count ;). I then make them repeat the process at specific hours of the day so I can call and check. With modern video tools, a mistress doesn’t need to be present to supervise. And, the threat of extending the chastity period for slacking is usually quite persuasive. Just to add to the effect, I make my slaves-in-training (or punishment) perform this ritual five times per day, including and especially at least once in the middle of the night. As I said, our goal is to get our slave in training to mentally associate his desires with submission to pain for our pleasure. Getting up at all hours to do this for you will emphasize your ownership and his obedience to it.

So … we’ve filled up lots of free time! But, we can’t allow idle thoughts. I think it best to always emphasize a slave’s vulnerability by ordering him to remain naked throughout as much of the day and night as possible. Similarly, other signs of his status are important. A locked slave collar is very compelling at all hours. He can wear a high necked shirt if he needs to be in public. At night, I like him to add cuffs or other restraints so that whenever he stirs in his sleep, he’s brought back to his new status immediately. Not uncomfortably – this is training, not punishment. And we want him rested and ready to serve us. Just some cuffs and short chains or links will do fine.

I like to add more active ritual for my slave. In addition to the self-inflicted nipple torture, I expect my slave to do a half hour per day of anal training and a half hour of oral training. By the end of the first week, he should be well ready to deep throat, and his backside will be much looser and easier for your enjoyment. Plugs or any dildo is fine. Obviously, start small for a new slave.


In all these activities, we want to discourage slacking. So we want to include copious photos and videos of your new possession meeting your requests. In addition, some photos with your name marked on him prominently is always a good idea. Your contract should include your right to expose these if your slave ever tries to leave you. If you register your slave, you may want his number painted on a few places so you can decide how you ultimately want him marked. Another contract item – be sure to include your right to mark his body as your property, however you choose. You have that right anyway if he’s a proper slave, but making him say those terms and sign to them… he’ll be so much more manageable.

We also want to include a few tasks a bit more humiliating. He is your slave, so he should feel your right to enjoy his fears and humiliations. I’d suggest some small things. A little feminization, perhaps. I usually make my new slaves polish their nails several times during their first week. A bright color, of course, fingers and toes. And it will train him how to do the task for you. Also, if you can find footwear that will fit him, making him walk a half hour per day in heels will teach him a lesson in the comfort of such things! I also make my slave visit the local pool daily and circle it a prescribed number of times wearing the thinnest of suits. His metal chastity is clearly outlined. And some women I know that understand his status are always about to tease him. My final coup de grace is usually to have him put on feminine underclothes, full makeup and lipstick and make a video of a walk through the local mall. Oh the surprised looks he records! Trust he’s begging to do anything to avoid that task again!

Finally, the most prosaic of tasks should also be made into a slave ritual. What little time is left in the day s usually for preparing meals – naked – and eating. My new slaves are only allowed to eat from bowls on the ground. I also make them eat dog food the first week. It sounds horrible, but it isn’t all that bad tasting (so I’m told!) and it’s nutritious enough. And it is so reinforcing of his new status. He’s your pet and possession. And any time for preparing meals can be spent on you! It’s also great to feed him from your hand, if you have the time. As a special initiation, I also make it a point to feed my slave the ‘gravy’ style of dog food. I expect I will regularly acquaint him with drinking my piss, but in this tender new stage, I frequently command him to use his own. The shock and humiliation are priceless. After the first session, I really felt his soul was now utterly mine.

So many tasks! But that’s the idea. Simple, time-consuming, and very slavish and humiliating tasks. We’re training your man’s head. If he’s not responded to the training in a week … oh, well. On we go! Sooner or later, total slavery will take over his thoughts and your life together will go on to new and more special chapters. Cherish his devotion. Love him madly and encourage him. Punishments will be yours to enjoy later. If he’s faltering, just be patient and enjoy his efforts. Enjoy!

Keyholder torture…

Being a good servant means developing and investing in your skills. Let’s be real - most women don’t want naked men sitting around in rope and collars begging to serve.

Most Dominant women I’ve met are practical, have specific needs and desires, and always have things that have to be done that prevent them from doing the things they want to do.

If you really want to serve a Dominant woman, it’s important to give some thought to her inevitable question: “How would you serve to make my life easier/better/enjoyable/successful?”

And no, being her sex slave, or ‘doing anything she wants’ is not a suitable answer. Neither is offering to clean her house but being shit at it, or being her chauffeur but then expecting other things from her.

After all, you don’t employ a plumber who then pesters you to whip him…

A suitable response is:

• Cooking meals for you during the week when you are busy with work
• Running your errands so you don’t have to sit in traffic or take time off
• Preparing, organizing and cleaning up your parties or social events
• Building and fixing things around the house and car
• Meticulously cleaning your car and home each week
• Preparing your home after returning from travel - groceries, airing, fresh sheets
• Preparing and managing your travel - luggage, lists, mail, visas, bookings
• Detailed research and documentation for things you want or need to buy
• Sewing repairs, washing, folding, ironing, and putting your clothes away
• Buying gifts for your family, colleagues and friends for each occasion
• Performing pedicures and manicures to a professional standard
• Being your personal shopper doing pickups, returns, and exchanges
• Finding and curating things you enjoy - music, art, experiences, foods, people
• Providing physical help or assistance to any of your friends and family

Oh, and when doing these tasks, don’t expect to be sitting around naked in a collar with a butt plug in - unless that’s what SHE wants!

These things aren’t sexual. They’re useful. They’re valuable. They free her up so she can enjoy her life, and explore and grow her empowerment. All that you do ADDS to her life. It improves it. It enables her to grow.

You must be good at these things. Go and learn if you need to. Take a class, or contribute your professional skills. If you don’t have skills, or anything you can think of, you’re simply not ready to serve another person in a meaningful way.

Go and work on yourself first. Go make yourself valuable for her. It’s an important thing as a man to truly know your own value, and what you can bring to a woman’s life. Being a submissive servant doesn’t mean being a doormat; it means being empowered that her needs and desires are your own, and you can meet them to a standard that exceeds her expectations.

Your unhinged horniness and a willingness to spend money to relieve aforementioned horniness, is simply not enough - nor appropriate.

If you do have skills, experience, or ability, then really put yourself in her shoes before engaging your mouth / fingertips. Learn about her and what matters to her. Her goals, her ambitions, her ideas, and her dreams. Offer things you can do and give that matter to HER. If you have something to offer that doesn’t matter to her, either develop a skill that does, or find another woman who wants what you have to give.

If she’s smart, she will value you and give you just the right amount to keep you enthralled, engaged, and fed, but still hungry and eager to serve. Her empowerment will expand in time; you’ll definitely notice. Your submission will deepen in time; you’ll definitely notice.

If she’s not smart, she’ll take advantage of you without valuing you and mistake her sense of self-appointed entitlement as empowerment and domination.

Dominant leadership is about inspiring a submissive to view serving them as an opportunity to fulfill their highest purpose;

Dominant management is about demanding compliance and obedience because she said so.

They might sound similar in the short run, but in the long term, one leads to fulfilling your purpose as a submissive, while the other leads to a life of unmet expectations and resentment.

Be smart - you can have the lifestyle you’ve dreamed of, but the secret isn’t that you just need to find a Dominant woman. It’s that you need to develop yourself in both skills and attitude to such an extent that you are undeniably valuable to her.

Women are smart - they protect and take ownership of what works for them.

These things aren’t sexual. They’re useful. They’re valuable.

Boys (and girls), this is what it means to serve. The sex and the kink are fun, but that’s not all there is to it.

Best read. Encapsulates what I want with my submission.

Much of what I am looking for in a submissive:)

Yes. All of this.

128 BASIC SLAVE RULES – ADAPTED FROM JOHNATHAN KAY FOR FEMALE DOMME/MALE SUBMISSIVE

The following has been adapted by me from 128 Basic slave Rules as credited below, they have been adapted for a Female Dominant/male submissive. My dear friend, Johnathan Kay has given me permission to post my adaptations, please do not use these rules for other than information without his express permission. The original version of the rules may be found at www.128rulesguy.blogspot.com . Some have been removed that were not easily modified or applicable, original numbering has been left in place.

128 Rules for the female slave” and former “128 Basic slave Rules” are under copyright 1992 by Johnathan Kay. Email me at 128rules@gmail.com for permission to use any of it for any reason. This site is the official blog for the rules: www.128rulesguy.blogspot.com . (use this credit after receiving my permission for use in your application)

Purpose of the Rules
For anyone who wants to find out more about what might be included in a heterosexual Master/slave relationship.

1. To know, as I found out, how fulfilling this lifestyle can be. 
2. To feel this ‘at home’ feeling. 
3. To feel an intimate sexual ingredient in every part of your life. 
4. To know there is a source from which all this comes and allows for living like this to be so special, wanted, and most of all needed and necessary. 
5. To feel alive. 
6. To know that everything about your life and your past finally makes sense. 
7. To feel sensual, sexual, enlightened, and empowered, cared for and desired in a manner you have not found in a vanilla lifestyle. 
8. To know how it is to be made free through it all. 
9. To seek guidance and realize favor and acceptance with reason. 
10. To know what gets you wet and hot and bothered. 
11. To find, finally, who you are and where you fit. 

From here on has been modified for use for Female Domme/male sub, original numbering has been kept in place if an item has been removed: modified by Mistress Valiant

Notes for the sub to Keep in Mind

1. Go slow, have lots of discussions, know that a D/s relationship goes fast, be honest, open, communicate all issues, learn, be ok with mistakes made, listen, and be protective of your well being, psychological, physical, sexual, social and emotional health.

2. Use your safe words if you have them.

3. Ask lots of questions.

4. Read whatever you can find on the D/s lifestyle, toys used, safety, sexual safety, positions, other people’s rules, first aid, techniques, etiquette, practices, culture, traditions, aftercare – this is very important to bring you back from intense play, spiritualism, etc.

5. Expect to be tested on what you are taught.

6. Understand punishment as something you would rather not get often. Know that discipline helps to remind you of how to behave.

7. Each rule has many meanings. Find what speaks to you most to understand and apply the rule. Work with each rule often coming back to re-evaluate them.

8. Trust is everything. Know your Mistress. Understand how problems can be resolved. Know to walk away if necessary till you find the right Mistress for you.

9. Consider a trial period.

10. Have a kind of third person thing going on with you and allow it to watch over you and help you get through what you are put to use for and to evaluate how use of you fits. Be able to talk about issues and work to resolve them.

11. Ask for release from a Mistress rather than storming out.

12. Get tested for sexual safety. Be honest with your Mistress. Insist your Mistress gets tested.

13. Don’t be afraid to use condoms, dental dams, latex or nitrile gloves to be sexually safe.

14. Tell your doctor exactly how you got the marks on your body so that you get the right kind of medical help.

15. Adjust and fit the rules for your relationship and needs. Eliminate those you don’t want to use.

16. Avoid drugs and alcohol when in a D/s relationship. You don’t need any more problems. This lifestyle can be dangerous and you will want to act safely and be safely led and used.

17. Keep a journal – one for you, one for your Mistress

18. Expect assignments. Do your best.

19. Your primary focus is to serve, obey and hope to be found pleasing in all you provide and do.

20. Be of good health to be flexible as much as you can be for use.

How to Use the Rules

1. Kneel in an attentive position in a safe place nude as if on assignment along with some paper and a pen.

2. Read through all the rules in a whisper and feel in your heart how they sound to you. It may take you from hours to days to read through all the rules.

3. Using the following to rate the rules by number or your chosen color code:

• Will do
• Want to do, but will need a little push
• Won’t do ever. In fact, if so required, will ask for release.
• Find questionable and may be in need of a rewrite or elimination.
• Must do without question – an absolute need.

When finished with the rating – leave the rules alone for a bit and come back and do it again. Some decisions might change after the first time.
You do not have to memorize all the rules you want to use.
The rules are for building a mindset.
Take the time to read your final selections often to help keep you in your place.
Discuss your selections with your Mistress or with those you wish to consider to be taken by as your Mistress. Follow what is finally chosen and approved by your Mistress.

The 128 Rules

1. i will serve, obey and please my Mistress.

2. Above all else my primary focus shall be to please my Mistress, hoping that She finds me pleasing in all that I do, whether i am in Her presence or not. my Mistress knows of my potential, learning more about me in each day i am with Her. She trusts that i will act in accordance with what She perceives of my potential – She knows what is best for me and how important it is that i set a good example for other females who may be present around me.

3. i worship my Mistress’s abilities and focus to keep me in my ‘place’ to serve Her needs.

4. i worship every inch of my Mistress’s body.

5. The power of my Mistress fills me with awe. The sheer thought of Her or to hear Her voice gives me strength and confidence to serve Her to the best of my abilities regardless of the circumstances going on in my life and Hers.

6. To receive pleasure i must not only earn it, but accept Mistress’s permission when it is granted to me. Pleasure is a gift and i must not ever abuse it in any way for it can be taken from me at any time.

7. i worship my Mistress’s whip whether it is used for Her pleasure upon my flesh or to punish me for my behavior.

8. i trust my Mistress: Her responsibilities, Her skills, Her hunger and needs, and Her concern for my safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.

9. i am nothing more than an object of Mistress’s choosing to use for Her needs.

10. i will not act to satisfy my needs without Mistress’s permission.

11. my body and my mind are the property of my Mistress.

12. i must always give thanks to my Mistress for whatever She gives to me and do so in the manner i was taught by Her.

13. i must be specific and very explicit in my speech.

14. i will not hesitate to respond to my Mistress.

15. i will thank my Mistress for the discipline and punishments i receive, specifying what i received and the reason as to why i was given them.

16. i have no will of my own accept to behave in the manner which Mistress has taught me, according to the rules She expects me to follow, seeking to be found pleasing by Her in all i do, to listen when She teaches me, or to report to Her of my progress in serving Her and when given Her guidance to do better.

17. i am always in submission to my Mistress whether She is present or not, ready to please Her at anytime, in any place, under any circumstances, regardless of who may be present. For the opportunity to submit and to please is by far more important and satisfying than any other pursuit. i trust my Mistress will keep me safe, protecting Her reputation and mine in the presence of others, as She examines my ability to present myself to Her and to others in a subtle manner when required to protect our lifestyle from those who may not understand, nor support, as long as our behavior is not in anyway misrepresented or misinterpreted by those who may be afar. i am to set, once again, a good example, ready to explain my position to others when required to do so. my lifestyle is a part of a growing culture for which i must never forget that i am an integral part.

18. All my choices shall be based upon whether or not they will please my Mistress.

19. When i am not in the presence of my Mistress and i have choices to make – i will perform them to the best of my abilities and within the boundaries and guidance She has allowed me.

20. i shall wear the collar my Mistress gives me with pride for it signifies Her ownership of me and my devotion to Her.

21. i shall wear the chains my Mistress gives me as a symbol of my position in life – that of bondage to Her. i shall wear them, as required, around my neck, my wrists, my ankles or around my waist.

22. When i am ready – i shall wear Her rings to signify my submission to Her – one pierced through each nipple and one through the tip of my cock.

23. my mouth shall only be referred to as a cunt for it will often be used as if it were a pussy.

24. my sex shall only be referred to as a Her cock.

25. When my Mistress puts her pussy to my mouth, and i am directed to lick and suck it – i will do so vigorously as long as i am required to do so. my hands shall be placed on the tops of my thighs, behind my neck or held at the base of my back so that during the licking and sucking i can use my whole body to display my hunger to my Mistress.

26. my Mistress’s cum must never go to waste – i will swallow all of it when Mistress cums into my mouth (and be punished should I spill any of it from my lips), licking it up if Mistress cums into my hands or into a plate i hold in front of Her to receive it, or onto the food She gives me which She may require of me to hold just under Her as She cums over it. i will clean Her pussy thoroughly with my tongue. In rare and privileged cases i may wear my Mistress’s cum on my body, sometimes after massaging it into my skin. Cum is a gift from my Mistress and it is an honor to receive it. The eating of my Mistress’s cum will be counted as one of my meals for that day.

27. i worship my Mistress’s pussy, especially when it is wet or when i am given the opportunity to make it wet for Her.

28. i will worship my Mistress’s ass only after a thorough washing of it. i shall do so hungrily, being sure to lick between the cheeks for as long as Mistress requires me to do so. i will use my hands to spread my Mistress’s cheeks apart.

29. i will never look into the eyes of my Mistress without Her permission during specified play, if I am not sure when this is ok, I will ask permission. To do so would be inappropriate of my position, and doing so could be interpreted by Her that i am seeking Her attention or expecting Her to act – when such things are up to Her and to Her alone.

30. my head must be bowed down in the presence of my Mistress unless i am given permission to do otherwise. i honor the position of my Mistress and it is important that i am not distracted in my submission to Her.

31. my eyes must be cast down in the presence of my Mistress unless i am given permission to do so otherwise. i am to focus on my behavior, waiting to act appropriately and without hesitation when directed to do so by Her.

32. i must always wear revealing and sexy clothing of good taste around my Mistress unless given permission to do so otherwise. The clothing i wear will allow easy access to my body to please Her. The clothing will emphasize and often exaggerate my assets. i will wear such clothing in any kind of weather. How i present my body to Her or in front of others is more important than my discomfort and insecurities.

33. When others show an interest in what i am wearing i must ask them if they would like to see more and then gladly show them what they would like to see – but only after i have received permission from my Mistress – for i trust my Mistress’s judgement that such a display is not only reasonable but is safe to do.

34. i must remove all of my clothing in the way i have been taught when Mistress commands of me to do so – regardless of who may be present and despite where it is i am – i trust my Mistress.

35. When i remove clothing from my body it must be folded neatly and placed in a small pile in front of me just ahead of my feet or my knees if i should be required to be in my kneeling position after unclothing myself.

36. my basic attire in the presence of my Mistress shall consist of a collar if i have earned one and nothing else. The rings of my submission, if i have been pierced, must also be attached to my body, as should the. chains She has given or allowed me to wear should also be word.

37. my cock, balls and ass must be kept completely shaved smooth and clean so that nothing of me is hidden from view.

38. Unless otherwise given permission – my hair must be kept up in a manner that is ravishing so that my shoulders and the nape of my neck are fully exposed – especially when i am naked. It is important to Mistress that i appear not just attractive, but alluring and desirable.

39. Whenever i need to pick something up or receive something from someone else i must do so wherever possible by going into a kneeling position to show that i am honored to do so. i will perform this motion according to how Mistress has taught me.
40. my cock, balls and ass must be thoroughly washed and of a good aroma at all times, but especially before serving my Mistress.

41. my “place” is on my knees before my Mistress, for it is a privilege and honor to be Her slave.

42. When in the presence of my Mistress, but not in use, i will go to the place She has selected until i am needed by Her if we are in a specific play time.

43. my greatest felt satisfaction is realized when i know i have pleased my Mistress.

44. There can be no greater pain or suffering i can feel then when Mistress is not pleased with me. Naturally i will feel depressed, saddened, empty, and lost. i can only hope She will show Her mercy upon me and provide to me the guidance i will need to be put back on track so that i will be forgiven and once again be allowed Her eyes upon my flesh, Her touch upon my soul, and Her warmth and love upon my heart.

45. my submission is a natural inborn feeling, and at times a surging and powerful force inside me that only a respectable and knowledgeable Mistress can recognize, control and manage, for She understands how my nature influences my behavior and how temptations to act outside of its drive can easily lead me astray and away from my primary focus: to please and to be found pleasing. She, too, manages and controls Her Own natural state, sharing with me through a power exchange between us, bonding me tightly to Her, Her needs with mine. my submission to such a Mistress allows for me to feel more aware and alive inside and out, bringing me to a feeling i cherish: ‘ at home ‘.

46. i fear no other power for my Mistress is always with me.

47. i will not hesitate in my obedience to my Mistress.

48. Whenever Mistress speaks, even when i am speaking, i am to immediately become silent so i may be able to listen intensely to what She has to say. i must never interrupt Her unless She has shown me how to communicate with Her, if i need to. i must ask first for Her permission to speak, specifying to whom i would like to speak to, and whether or not i may be allowed to speak freely – then and only then, if granted, may i say anything more than asking first to speak.

49. The opportunity to please my Mistress is very important to me and i will take every chance to seek out such opportunities to do so to the best of my abilities and in accordance to how i have been taught or allowed to do so.

50. i choose willingly to be treated as my Mistress’s property – as long as such treatment is safe and legal.

51. When Mistress feels i am ready and our relationship has progressed to a lifelong commitment, i shall be specially prepared to receive Her unique and permanent mark of ownership upon my flesh, in a place of Her choosing, whether it be a piercing, a tattoo or a branding, or a collar. Thereafter, i shall become Her property and slave in the most strict sense – completely Hers for as long as the relationship continues to be managed and controlled in the manner in which is beneficial to each of us and in accordance with our mutually shared nature’s.

52. i am my Mistress’s greatest treasure.

53. i will learn all the positions my Mistress wants to teach me to the best of my abilities and will be prepared to take such positions when required and to display myself in a manner through them that She, and others who may be present, will find most pleasing.

54. i must never reach orgasm without explicit permission from my Mistress. Failure to receive properly asked for permission and i will endure the punishment Mistress will put upon me without my safeword. Such pleasure must be seen as a privilege so that i do not take advantage of it.

55. The safeword given to me by my Mistress can be spoken at any time – even when i have been told to be silent. If i am not able to verbalize it – i trust my Mistress will show me how i can express it. Safewords are for my protection as well as Her. i must be careful not to take more than i can handle, as She will need to know when to stop from getting carried away with Her own passions – so that i may be prepared over time to endure more for Her.

56. my safeword, verbal or otherwise, cannot be used when i am being punished. i must remember that punishment could never be very effective if i were able to control it – i must take it in full measure – so that i will focus on the correction of my behavior for the long term, for unlike discipline, punishment is not what i will want again. i should know better. However, safewords can be used when i am being disciplined – Mistress will let me know which is which when the time has come that such treatment is necessary to correct my behavior.

57. i must confess to my Mistress when i have been naughty so that She may decide if such violations require me to be disciplined or to be punished. i must accept whatever decisions She makes by thanking Her for Her choice – if She allows it before or shortly thereafter, specifying as to why i will be or have been disciplined or punished. i must focus upon how sorry i am for not behaving in the way in which i have been taught – for i have brought defilement upon myself and to Her an unacceptable act which is displeasing to Her.
58. i realize Mistress may own more than one slave, if She so chooses, and that i, unless allowed by Her, may never be able to have another Mistress other than Her, except by Her choosing to further my training. i trust Mistress will take whatever precautions are necessary to keep the slaves She chooses to own sexually healthy and to provide whatever measures are necessary to protect us from the eruptions and ravages of any jealousy which may try to corrupt the relationships our Mistress has allowed between each of us – including the one we each have with Her.

59. i must never be concerned when i feel too much of my flesh is showing, in private or in the general public – however, i can ask my Mistress for permission as to how to handle my discomfort.

60. i am a male slave – of worth and value to any Mistress who would find me useful. my role has been clearly brought into definition through my ability to recognize and to act accordingly with my true nature, enhanced through the teachings of my Mistress, and through the continued practice of my primary focus, and my search for every opportunity to do so.

61. my Mistress will decide what my sexual orientation shall be. i will commit myself to Her decision and perform as such only in Her presence and only with Her permission. i know my performance will be measured and corrected as She sees fit should i be required to attend to, provide myself to, perform with, or upon another male slave.

62. i must tell my Mistress if i have had an orgasm without Her permission so that i can be properly punished for my disobedience and disrespect.

63. Pain and pleasure shall be with me always – in my thoughts and my fantasies – for the contrast strengthens me to behave in the manner my Mistress expects of me. Such thoughts and fantasies are tainted with the memories i have from the last time i was in the presence of my Mistress. She is with me always.

64. my limits do not have to be respected – i trust my Mistress to take me past them when She expects that i am ready – for each side of the wall of my limitations is both pleasurable and a challenge – one side more intense than the other. My only hope in such transferences is that Mistress will be able to take me there again and again as my relationship to Her progresses through time, that She too will need it as much as i will, and that She will not be afraid to increase the intensity while we are there.

65. i have much to learn in order to become a well-trained and well-behaved slave.

66. i will endure whatever discipline or punishment my Mistress gives me so i can become a better slave for Her.

67. i will work on building up my tolerances to the level my Mistress needs me to have, being careful not to push myself further or faster than i am ready to endure for Her, so that i may be able to expand my limitations and increase my value to Her.

68. Through discipline and punishment i shall learn to behave.

69. In bondage i am made free.

70. i will never touch myself with my hands or sex toys in any manner where i could experience sexual or sensual pleasure without permission from my Mistress including washing them, shaving myself, adjusting my cock during the day or using the restroom.

71. Only through submission can i find my true self.

72. my life is empty without a Mistress to please – that lost feeling inside can be real and it can grow. i may be able to step away from the hunger of my nature, but not for long, for soon it could affect every part of my life. It is important that i seek a Mistress to please – but if i cannot find one or that i shall not be found, i am not totally lost for i must always remember: i will survive – for it is my nature to do so. my drive to please can be adapted towards the needs of others even though they may not be as satisfying as the one i would have towards a Mistress. i must keep in the back of mind that there is a Mistress who is looking too and that i need to be patient by redirecting my needs in other ways where i can provide pleasure to others.

73. i shall never think of myself as a weak person for it takes a strong male to commit to the drive inside me, to serve, to obey and to please a Mistress. i too have responsibilities and as natural as they may seem to me it is important that i use all of my faculties including my creative spirit to submit to a Mistress in a unique fashion personal to my relationship with Her. By doing so i hope to provide a good example to those males around me who may still be learning so they too are not led astray from their primary focus, that they are as true to their nature as i strive to continue to be to mine. i must remember that how well i behave enlightens and empowers me to become even closer to who i am – a devoted slave, of good rapport to a Mistress who truly understands my needs in relationship to Her own.

74. i will give all that i am to my Mistress in order to become free.

75. i must never show disrespect towards my Mistress in any way – no matter where i am – in her presence or not.

76. Crying and the shedding of tears at any time is good and expected for it softens my will and bonds me closer to my Mistress.

77. Only in complete submission to my Mistress shall i realize the depth of the love i have for Her.

78. The needs of my Mistress must always come first before mine own for they offer an opportunity to please Her.

79. i must be attentive to the needs of my Mistress and always be ready to respond to them to the best of my abilities and in the unique ways in which i have chosen and have developed for Her.

80. i am allowed to suggest ways to further my training or use of me, verbally or through my journal, as long as i address my Mistress properly first.

81. i must always respond fully both physically and verbally to whatever my Mistress does with me. The expressions of my emotions and my physical responses are important to Her. i must never hold back any part of their display, regardless of how intense they may be, unless restricted to do so.

82. i am a sexual and sensual being.

83. i must always remember how pleased my Mistress is when others delight in my sexiness as a result of my ability to show off my assets.

84. my behavior must always display a sexual content however subtle.

85. The only clothing i will buy and wear will be those items which my Mistress would find pleasing to Her: fitting to my figure and its assets, of good quality, of reasonable cost, and appropriate in Her eyes and taste for the occasions i am allowed to attend with or without Her. i may ask if i may choose what to wear so i may be able take an opportunity to surprise Her to win Her favor.

86. i may, at times, offer various parts of my body to my Mistress in hopes She will take pleasure in using them in whatever ways She wishes. my only hope will be that my offering will please Her. If not, i want Her to punish me.

87. It is important for me to eat plenty of carbohydrates, proteins and vitamins in the foods and fluids i am permitted to choose to nourish my body and mind, and to exercise my body regularly, as permitted by my Mistress, to increase my physical strength, to keep my limbs as flexible as possible, and to maintain or improve my figure so i may be able to endure my Mistress’s use of me however intense and for however long a period is required by Her. i want to be of a healthy and sound mind and body, free as possible of any personal limitations, when pleasing my Mistress.

88. If i am required to be my Mistress’s toilet, into or onto which She chooses to release the watery juices of Her pussy, i shall position myself to receive Her personal waters by kneeling for Her, tilting my head back, opening my mouth wide, and closing my eyes so that She will delight in the display and offering of my body and of one of my orifices for Her to choose upon which one to use. i shall remain still as She releases Herself, swallowing what i can of the waters She allows me. i shall play with myself during the release, as is instructed by Her, so that i am permitted to sexualize the experience as much as possible for Her pleasure, thanking Her afterwards for allowing me the opportunity to honor Her in this most private way.


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90. If Mistress has chosen my sexual orientation to that of being bisexual, and She requires of me to receive the cum of a chosen male slave i am to position myself, as i would for Mistress, to receive upon my flesh or into my mouth the slave’s juices, and if permitted to do so, either through Her command or after receiving permission from Her to display for Her my hunger, i will cup my mouth tightly to the slave’s cock to feed from him, licking and sucking, if allowed to do so, as much as I can get from him remaining tightly cupped to him until Mistress allows me to release myself from him. Thereafter, i am to be thankful for what i have received and for the privilege She allowed me. Such a feeding will be counted as one of my meals for the day.


91. If it is possible to practice my basic attire in my household i will do so. i will remove my clothing immediately after entering my household putting my collar on first, then my chains (if i have them).

92. i will always sleep nude when alone or with Mistress – kneeling first before i enter my bed and kneeling first as soon as i get out of my bed – for it is a great privilege to have a bed to sleep on.

93. i must never tighten my body when it is being whipped, caned, cropped, slapped, paddled, belted, strapped, spanked, bullwhipped, signal whipped, or anally pumped. my Mistress likes it when my flesh jiggles and She knows that when i tighten my body it hurts more and inhibits my ability to display my expressions and emotions.

94. i am proud to wear upon my body the marks given to me by my Mistress. i know that my Mistress will never mark me permanently – other than the mark of Her ownership She will give me at the proper time, but i will gladly suffer for Her so she can mark me with the stripes she wishes to decorate my body with for Her viewing pleasure.

95. i will always listen with a strong interest in whatever my Mistress has to say during my training. i want to learn all that i can from Her so i can understand more about Her, about me, about the bdsm scene and community, and those involved in bdsm relationships – so i may be able to better understand the world i am apart of and be able to communicate it accurately to anyone who wishes to know more about it.

96. When i take a shower i can do so the way i like to as long I do not do anything that will bring sexual pleasure to myself unless directed. i may use a towel to dry off.

97. When i walk, run, sit, stand, kneel, reach out, speak, or listen – i will do so in a sexual manner, however subtle, and with confidence and pride hoping other males around me will feel my projection upon them, that my performance is found admirable, that they would seek to emulate me without any of their insecurities or self-conscious thoughts holding them back. I want to set the best example of proper male behavior – especially if Mistress or someone She has chosen is nearby to examine and monitor it. However, my goal must be to behave as naturally and freely as is possible as if without any effort on my part.

98. When standing still i shall do so with my feet and legs together, my hands held behind my back and my head bowed down. i will remain silent in the way Mistress has taught me.

99. If required: the plug Mistress has provided me must be inserted deeply into my ass before arriving at my Mistress’s house. Failure to do so and i shall feel the punishment She will give to my ass as i keep it pulled apart – for the plug was intended to provide me pleasure.

100. i hope Mistress will choose to use my tongue as Her towel after Her shower so i may be able to worship Her body.

101. Until Mistress has chosen it is time for me to wear a more permanent mark of ownership upon my flesh, i shall proudly wear Her temporary mark of ownership upon me wherever She chooses to place it.

102. When sitting i shall sit up straight with my legs together and my palms down on the top of my thighs.

103. i will not speak to others unless necessary for work or other agreed upon activities without my Mistress’s permission except to say to them that they will have to speak to my Mistress first. This is especially important at play parties and online. my Mistress will have access to any and all communications upon request. I will report any such conversations initiated by others immediately to my Mistress. I will report to Her any online profiles or anything of such nature. It will be Her decision how they will be handled.

104. i shall learn to the endure the whippings Mistress gives me by using the technique of saying ‘ YES ‘ through each of Her strikes brought down upon my flesh.

105. i shall gladly make my body available to my Mistress to be used as furniture: my body positioned to decorate a room or a garden, a footstool to rest her weary feet and legs upon, my backside as Her table to eat off of, to hold her wine glass, my palms to be used to hold a plate of Her food, or my hands to hold a book open for Her to read or a lamp to for Her to see.

106. Privacy is a privilege – even to have it when i need to use the bathroom. i must ask for it and accept my Mistress’s decision even when i am denied of it.

107. As a helper slave i shall assist my Mistress in the setting of a scene or in the training and use of other slaves.

108. As a preparer slave i shall ready other slaves for my Mistress’s use, make Her wet, or harden the cocks of others She allows me to harden or make wet any others She allows me to prepare for Her.

109. As a cleaner slave i shall use my tongue to clean the cum of my Mistress from the body of any slave She has put it upon, my mouth to suck for it from a female slave’s pussy my Mistress has used for Her pleasure, or to clean the cocks i am allowed to clean that have been pulled out of the pussies of other slaves. For as a cleaner slave i am to lick up what semen i can find. my cum is for my Mistress, Her cum is for me whenever instructed by Her.

110. As a provider slave i shall offer parts of my body to those selected by my Mistress for their pleasure. i will also offer myself to those who wish to use me for a demonstration or to experiment on, but only at the direction of my Mistress. I am Hers and Hers alone otherwise.

111. As a domestic slave i shall perform chores about my Mistress’s house, and those of others She allows, acting in a sexual and enticing manner in all that i do.

112. As a sex slave i shall incorporate a sexual attitude and hunger in everything i do, being eager to sexually perform at the best of my abilities for my Mistress and for those whom She allows to use me. my hunger must be such that i would feel as if i could never be satiated until Mistress allows me to be. i will never cum for anyone other than my Mistress though.

113. The beginning and the ending of a day shall always be with a pussy feeding, if I am allowed, to remind me of my place or to provide myself to my Mistress for Her first and last use. If I am not fortunate enough to be with Her, I will start and end each day with a message to Her as soon as possible so that She knows she is my first and last thought of each day.

114. When i have been given permission to play with myself without specific direction, i shall do so in the following manner: working my cock almost to an orgasm and then stopping for 3 minutes, then working it again to almost at orgasm and then stopping for a 2 minutes, and then finally working it again to a full orgasm. Then and only then shall i enjoy an orgasm on my own. Should i cum before the third edge – i will tell my Mistress so i may be punished. I will report to Mistress in writing how long it took me to reach each edge, how I did so, on a scale of 1-10 how close to the edge I got, what I was thinking of or viewing, and how it felt. i will play with myself in this manner even in Her presence unless directed otherwise.

115. Should Mistress ever wish to cage me for display, i will gladly crawl into it and proudly position myself in it in ways She finds pleasing, in solitude and quiet, so that if She chooses, others may delight in what they see without any interruption from me, seeing that i am well-behaved and humbled that i am Mistress’s property and slave. i can only hope that Mistress would never put me into a cage to confine me for my misbehavior, that i could never come that close to displease Her so much that i would have to suffer such humiliation, begging with my tears and my cries for her forgiveness, for i want the cage to be my safe haven from my fears, a place i can crawl into of my own free will, locked into it because Mistress granted my request to be locked in it.

116. i am free to leave my Mistress at any time without the fear of permanently losing Her as my Mistress as long as i communicate with Her why I feel the need to leave and agree to communicate clearly if and when I wish the relationship to end.

117. At the beginning of my relationship with my Mistress i shall present to Her three names for Her to decide upon as to which one will be my slave name. i know that She does not have to choose any of them and that She can choose one of Her own for me to be known by. Thereafter, when someone asks who i am i can respond by introducing myself in the following manner: ” i am slave [slavename], property of Mistress Valiant.”

118. i will periodically examine my whole life and look for how it has changed as a result of my relationship to my Mistress. i will speak to my Mistress about those areas where there have been improvements and those areas where i feel uncomfortable, insecure, or unsure of what direction i should take, how i should behave, or how i can behave in a manner that is different than how i have been behaving in the past.

119. i want to suffer for my Mistress in ways that please Her and that are safe for me to do so.

120. i will not be passive in serving my Mistress. i will aggressively participate in my exchange with Her.

121. If i am sent to another Mistress to serve – i will serve that Mistress well, as if She were my Mistress, for i want my Mistress to receive a good report after i have been returned to Her.

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123. i will not date others or form a relationship with others without permission and approval from
my Mistress. If i should have sex with others i will have it safely and will always tell my Mistress in detail what i have done so that no part of me is a secret and that i am laid bare for her inspection and approval unless She makes allowances specifically for a pre existing vanilla relationship in our contract. Even then, i will always let Mistress know if i came, as it may affect Her training of me. Unless this has been negotiated otherwise in our contract and agreed to.

124. The money i earn, should i be allowed a career, or put to work, where i am paid for my responsibilities, is mine to keep. However, i may ask my Mistress how i should spend or save it if i choose. i may present ways to Her for Her approval. i will accept the responsibilities She gives me in the handling of my finances. It is important to my Mistress that i learn to handle money wisely so, if needed, i can reach my goals or be ready for any emergency where finances may be required for resolution.

125. If i am asked and i am going to sit down – i must sit on my bare skin – and do so gracefully whether i am in private or in public. If i feel that i am not as clean as i should be, i will tell my Mistress, so that She can decide what should be done.

126. When i am instructed to so, I will wear lingerie of my Mistress’ choosing.

127. When i am in the presence of my Mistress and i am free to move about i will do so in seductive and enticing ways.

128. i will give to Mistress my body, mind and spirit, in faith of Her knowledge of the skills, safety and first aid measures necessary to put me through painfully ecstatic and euphoric edgeplay, aromatherapy where She will throw me into higher states of consciousness with the scents of oils and incense, pain and pleasure of Her choosing, and other such uses. Through these activities i shall learn to ride on the top edge of my fears and the bottom edge of my perception of utter terror – for it is there i shall come to know my greatest fear of all: that i will want to go there again and again.




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