Being a Dominant may start out as just fun, kinky play - but when becoming involved and entangled in most D/s dynamics, you take on certain responsibilities along with that role. Based on experience, reflections, and answers to a survey, these are the seven responsibilities of a Dominant.
A Dominant must:
1. Respect. There must be respect for the submissive - respect for their desires and wishes; respect for their nurturing and growth; respect for their consent, body, and safety. Dominance without respect becomes dangerous.
2. Protect. Taking on a submissive is a serious undertaking, and the Dominant becomes responsible for their protection and safekeeping. They must be kept protected from others and even from certain parts of themselves. Dominance without protection is powerless.
3. Direct. The Dominant must command, instruct, and guide on no uncertain terms. Directions must be clear, concise, realistic, and specific. This is the primary active role of the Dominant, to provide direction and guidance to the submissive. Dominance without direction is inadequate.
4. Inspire. It is not enough for a Dominant to simply give direction; they must inspire the submissive to obey the direction. In different dynamics, this will take different forms - submissives may be inspired by fear, pain, command presence, love, experience, or a number of other factors and qualities. Dominance without inspiration is contrived.
5. Correct. Once direction is given, the Dominant must follow through and correct any faults and shortcomings observed in the submissive’s obedience - with any discipline required to enforce the corrections. Dominance without correction is unproductive, or worse, counter-productive.
6. Nurture. Direction and correction should be given to grow and better a submissive, not just for the sake of it. A Dominant should challenge a submissive, expand their limits, and encourage their potential. Dominance without nurturing is tautological.
7. Learn. The Dominant must learn from experience, successes and mistakes, feedback from the submissive, and research. They should always be actively learning and seeking to expand their knowledge in order to better dominate and direct. Dominance without learning is irresponsible.
A Dominant must:
1. Respect. There must be respect for the submissive - respect for their desires and wishes; respect for their nurturing and growth; respect for their consent, body, and safety. Dominance without respect becomes dangerous.
2. Protect. Taking on a submissive is a serious undertaking, and the Dominant becomes responsible for their protection and safekeeping. They must be kept protected from others and even from certain parts of themselves. Dominance without protection is powerless.
3. Direct. The Dominant must command, instruct, and guide on no uncertain terms. Directions must be clear, concise, realistic, and specific. This is the primary active role of the Dominant, to provide direction and guidance to the submissive. Dominance without direction is inadequate.
4. Inspire. It is not enough for a Dominant to simply give direction; they must inspire the submissive to obey the direction. In different dynamics, this will take different forms - submissives may be inspired by fear, pain, command presence, love, experience, or a number of other factors and qualities. Dominance without inspiration is contrived.
5. Correct. Once direction is given, the Dominant must follow through and correct any faults and shortcomings observed in the submissive’s obedience - with any discipline required to enforce the corrections. Dominance without correction is unproductive, or worse, counter-productive.
6. Nurture. Direction and correction should be given to grow and better a submissive, not just for the sake of it. A Dominant should challenge a submissive, expand their limits, and encourage their potential. Dominance without nurturing is tautological.
7. Learn. The Dominant must learn from experience, successes and mistakes, feedback from the submissive, and research. They should always be actively learning and seeking to expand their knowledge in order to better dominate and direct. Dominance without learning is irresponsible.
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