How to keep yourself safe, during a first live meet-up with a potential Dom/sub. ~~
We can all get caught up with the overwhelming feelings of somebody new, the chemicals in our brain tell us that we overly happy. But what drives this happiness. It is a combination of chemicals that are released in our brains. Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, and Endorphins. Each plays a different role. It is important that while these chemicals can bring about the sense of euphoria we must remain alert and vigilant at all times.
Every time we meet somebody new we run a risk and it’s always better to be prepared and safe.
But how do we do that? What preventative steps can we take?
Note: If you can take somebody along and have them sit at a distance without alerting your date this would be much safer.
1) Develop a safe-call. This is an arrangement that you will make with a friend or relative to check in with them whenever you meet somebody new.
2. ALWAYS do your homework, have their name, number, a photo and anything else that can be helpful in identifying your date. Give this information to the friend or relative that is your safe-call.
3. Make sure to set up safety phrases that will alert them if you are safe or in danger, these phrases should not be obvious or alert your date of any possible distress.
4. Tell your friend where you will be going if possible include the address and number of the venue and how long you plan on being there.
5. ALWAYS drive yourself. This allows you to have some sense of control. While giving you an out if needed.
6. NEVER go somewhere private, make sure that the place is public and well lite.
7. Upon arrival call your friend and continue to have checkins throughout the date (A real Dominant/submissive will understand this importance)
8. Do NOT play on the first date. It takes a lot to trust somebody and you can not fully trust somebody you have never met in person before.
9. Pay attention to RED flags, if red flags are continuously coming up this is not the person for you and you should leave.
10. NEVER leave your drinks or meal unattended (not even to use the washroom)
11. If you plan on changing locations make sure that your friend is notified of when and where you are going. When you are leaving the current venue, ETA, and when you arrive let them know you are safe.
12. While this may sound a bit scary it is not meant to make you uptight or fearful it’s simply to KEEP YOU SAFE…
We can all get caught up with the overwhelming feelings of somebody new, the chemicals in our brain tell us that we overly happy. But what drives this happiness. It is a combination of chemicals that are released in our brains. Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, and Endorphins. Each plays a different role. It is important that while these chemicals can bring about the sense of euphoria we must remain alert and vigilant at all times.
Every time we meet somebody new we run a risk and it’s always better to be prepared and safe.
But how do we do that? What preventative steps can we take?
Note: If you can take somebody along and have them sit at a distance without alerting your date this would be much safer.
1) Develop a safe-call. This is an arrangement that you will make with a friend or relative to check in with them whenever you meet somebody new.
2. ALWAYS do your homework, have their name, number, a photo and anything else that can be helpful in identifying your date. Give this information to the friend or relative that is your safe-call.
3. Make sure to set up safety phrases that will alert them if you are safe or in danger, these phrases should not be obvious or alert your date of any possible distress.
4. Tell your friend where you will be going if possible include the address and number of the venue and how long you plan on being there.
5. ALWAYS drive yourself. This allows you to have some sense of control. While giving you an out if needed.
6. NEVER go somewhere private, make sure that the place is public and well lite.
7. Upon arrival call your friend and continue to have checkins throughout the date (A real Dominant/submissive will understand this importance)
8. Do NOT play on the first date. It takes a lot to trust somebody and you can not fully trust somebody you have never met in person before.
9. Pay attention to RED flags, if red flags are continuously coming up this is not the person for you and you should leave.
10. NEVER leave your drinks or meal unattended (not even to use the washroom)
11. If you plan on changing locations make sure that your friend is notified of when and where you are going. When you are leaving the current venue, ETA, and when you arrive let them know you are safe.
12. While this may sound a bit scary it is not meant to make you uptight or fearful it’s simply to KEEP YOU SAFE…
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