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Sunday, 30 September 2018

Communication

What is one of the most important thing in BDSM relationships? There are no effective and successful relationships within BDSM relationships without good communication skills.

So what do we get from effective and good communication? It’s the effectiveness in communication that distinguishes successful relationships from just a rough talk without any goal. Every communication act is basically aimed at a result where both parties get what they expected from the very beginning and more.
Benefits of good communication, It gives you the opportunity to make a connection in BDSM relationship deeper and stronger, You get the notion of what the other part, either submissive or dominant particularly wants and it builds that special bond built on trust and mutual respect

Good communication is something we learn throughout our life and a difficult task for those who are not willing to cooperate.

Good communication includes:

1. Working on trust -
The first thing about building D/S relationship that is going to last is to have faith in each other.

2. Making it clear and precise -
A lot of disputes and misunderstanding have their roots in the communication which was not clear or precise. A steady flow of vague words make conversation incomprehensible. If you have something to say just do it in a direct manner. Try to get to the core of the matter and make precise orders or give more comprehensive answers.

3. Learning to listen -
Give your partner time to talk out until he/she has said everything. Interrupting the other part half way shows your disrespect for him/her. It is sometimes hard to put your deep emotions into words that’s why listening carefully means you are calmly listening to your partner and pause before giving any answer.

4. Giving feedback -
It is also important not only to listen but to give feedback to your partner. Since all of us have our own perceptions and put different meanings into words, clarifying what has been said is useful to find a common ground. In order to really understand whether you got it right, it’s useful to say it over again to your partner.

5. Keeping your emotions under control -
Never consider BDSM play if you feel you are loosing control of your emotions. Being angry, stressed or frustrated has no good for successful communication especially where the risk takes its place. This is especially true for Dominant as he/she is the one to controlling the scene.

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