When you combine BDSM with the long distance relationship it takes a critical and creative minds, extra effort, strong faith, consistency, tough commitment and love. It also requires that both people in the dynamic realize the instabilities of a LDR.
When instabilities arise it’s important to not take it personally but remember to deal with issues that arise with clarity. If there is something that can destroy a LDR quickly it’s doubt and miscommunication. In LDR communication is essential if not more so then a RL dynamic.
Where in RL a Dominant and submissive will connect in a physical and mental level a LDR relies on the mental connection then emotional. It’s ALWAYS quality over quantity in these dynamics.
Rules in these dynamics should be clear and thorough and always keeping the expectations realistic. Remembering that one size does not fit all, rules should be specific to your type of dynamic.
Like every other dynamics rules come with discipline. Punishments and rewards. In a dynamic where you are close this would involve the pain and pleasure reward system. In LDR it requires trust that the submissive will carry out the punishments and the Dominant to follow through to assure they are completed.
When you can not have a physical connection with your partner it is more important and crucial that the mental connection STAY intact.
So share yourselves with one another share things in your lives, develop rituals, work on your skills, learn new tricks, take time to show you care and make each time you communicate one to remember.
Always keep these 5 rings of LDR in your mind Reality, Honesty, Growth, Desire and Love.
When instabilities arise it’s important to not take it personally but remember to deal with issues that arise with clarity. If there is something that can destroy a LDR quickly it’s doubt and miscommunication. In LDR communication is essential if not more so then a RL dynamic.
Where in RL a Dominant and submissive will connect in a physical and mental level a LDR relies on the mental connection then emotional. It’s ALWAYS quality over quantity in these dynamics.
Rules in these dynamics should be clear and thorough and always keeping the expectations realistic. Remembering that one size does not fit all, rules should be specific to your type of dynamic.
Like every other dynamics rules come with discipline. Punishments and rewards. In a dynamic where you are close this would involve the pain and pleasure reward system. In LDR it requires trust that the submissive will carry out the punishments and the Dominant to follow through to assure they are completed.
When you can not have a physical connection with your partner it is more important and crucial that the mental connection STAY intact.
So share yourselves with one another share things in your lives, develop rituals, work on your skills, learn new tricks, take time to show you care and make each time you communicate one to remember.
Always keep these 5 rings of LDR in your mind Reality, Honesty, Growth, Desire and Love.
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