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Sunday, 30 September 2018

BDSM Terms

24/7 – A power exchange relationship that exists all day, every day.

Aftercare - a period of time after play during which the Dominant/submissive checks in and re-establish connection with the other.

Bottom – Partner who takes the submissive role for a scene

Daddy/Mommy – Sometimes called the “Gentle Dom”, cares for a Little in a parent manner.

Dominant/Dominatrix – Partner to a submissive and enforces rules and takes a Dominant role in the relationship.

Dungeon Monitor/DM - A person in charge of supervising a play space at BDSM events.

Hard Limit – A specific item or action that a submissive isn’t comfortable with, and can’t see themselves becoming comfortable with (example: “Golden Shower, Scat Play)

Little – A partner who has child-like
tendencies in the relationship. Littles can also be broken down into Babygirls/boys, Littles and Middles depending on their Little space “age”.

Masochism/Masochist – Someone who enjoys pain/the act of enjoying pain.

Master/Mistress – Dominant partner to a slave.

Mentor – An experienced member of the community who offers their knowledge to beginners, generally outside of a relationship and without any sexual contact.

Munch – A social event for kinksters, usually held at a bar or a restaurant and doesn’t involve play or sex, but a place to gather, talk, share interests, or plan events.

Owner - A Dominant having ownership of a person identifying as a slave or pet

Power Exchange – The act of exchanging consensual power from Dominant to submissive(s), often in the form of control and/or sensation.

Pet - A submissive/slave who takes an animal role (I.e pony, dog, cat, etc)

Rope Bunny – Submissive who likes to bottom for rope bondage scenes.

Sadism/Sadist – Someone who finds in the enjoyment in giving pain to another/the act of enjoying giving pain to another.

Sadomasochist – One who enjoys both giving and receiving pain.

Safeword – a pre-negotiated word that either party can use to pause, check-in, or end the scene or play.

Sissy – A man who desires forced feminism

Slave – Extreme submissive.

Soft Limit – A specific item or action of play that a person isn’t really comfortable with, but could be some time in the future, and/or might want to push past.

Sub/Submissive - Obeys rules negotiated with their Dom/Domme, terms can be adjusted according to either partners needs

Switch – A person that switches between Dominant and submissive roles depending on the chemistry with their partner.

Top – Partner who takes the Dominant role in a scene.

Vanilla – A word used to describe non-kink oriented sex or people outside of BDSM lifestyle, “vanilla,” sometimes even taking on a dismissive tone.

** This list is not all inclusive and is meant to give you a general idea of each term, feel free to add to the list **

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