Developing your submissive

There are ways to foster the feeling of submission and feeling small or overpowered. And these are things that both of you can do as well.

For the Domme

• be consistent with your behavior, even if your sub does not respond consistently
• provide punishment for bad behavior quickly. Give 1 or 2 chances, not 10 or 12, and then punish your sub if he or she doesn’t respond the way you want them to.
• find ways to assert your dominance, even in small everyday matters. Be bossy! Get your sub used to taking orders all the time, not only at certain times of day or during a scene.
• find a “codeword” or symbol and train your sub to feel submissive when he or she hears this command
• make punishments harsher to give your sub some extra motivation to behave!
• find ways to make your sub relax; this will lead him to obey
• require him to do something that will remind him of your dominance. If you can, do it every hour or every few hours to keep him in the submissive mindset.
• humiliate him
• give “maintenance spankings”
• Encourage him to have a glass of wine or a beer to help him relax. A relaxed sub is a submissive sub.
• Reinforce a routine that he does throughout the day to help you retain your dominance. 
• Have his read up on his role. 
• Expect that he works on bettering himself my doing noticeable submissive nice things for your, EVERY DAY.
• Train him!