Never forget that your dominant is a real person with real feelings at the end of the day! Being mean in the wonderful and frightening ways that submissives need may be fun and hot for them, but just like we can feel bad for wanting kinky things to happen to us, they can feel bad for wanting to do things to people!
Most of the time that I write about aftercare and cuddles it has been in reference to something initiated by the dominant to help their submissive. It works both ways, though.
Submissives, don’t be shocked or upset if your dominant needs you to hold them and reassure them that what happened was amazing and you wanted every moment of it. Everyone needs reassurance sometimes, and that doesn’t mean that they aren’t strong and fierce and amazing.
Dominants, please don’t be afraid to drop your masks and be vulnerable in front of your sub! We want you to be happy and to make you feel good, and we are happy to do that regardless of whether it involves kink or just listening to and validating what you are feeling.
If both doms and subs are to get what both need out of life, we need to work together, communicate, and accept that nobody in either role can be on 100% of the time.
Most of the time that I write about aftercare and cuddles it has been in reference to something initiated by the dominant to help their submissive. It works both ways, though.
Submissives, don’t be shocked or upset if your dominant needs you to hold them and reassure them that what happened was amazing and you wanted every moment of it. Everyone needs reassurance sometimes, and that doesn’t mean that they aren’t strong and fierce and amazing.
Dominants, please don’t be afraid to drop your masks and be vulnerable in front of your sub! We want you to be happy and to make you feel good, and we are happy to do that regardless of whether it involves kink or just listening to and validating what you are feeling.
If both doms and subs are to get what both need out of life, we need to work together, communicate, and accept that nobody in either role can be on 100% of the time.
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