1: Above all else, your submissisives health and wellbeing should come first.
2: Never underestimate the healing power of a cuddle
3: He/She is more fragile than you think, fuck him/her hard but love him/her tenderly
4: Be patient. Until you enter into a relationship with a submissive, you have no more right to order them around than anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and like what you are.
5: Be Humble. You may be Gods gift to the world, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunities to show how good are…..and plenty of opportunities to make a fool of yourself.
6: Be Open. Although the top is classically considered to be the teacher in D/s and SM, you can always learn from your bottom, no matter how inexperienced. Be willing to learn from other Dominants who may have a totally different perspective from yours.
7: Communicate. You are responsible for finding out basic, essential information about the people you play with, such as experience, limits, likes and dislikes, and health information. Clearly spell out roles, rules, limits and contracts. Do not take for granted that your bottom instinctively knows ground rules.
8: Be Honest. If you lack experience in an area that your bottom would like to experiment with, be honest about it. Your partner has a right to know that. Be honest with yourself and take your submissive only to those levels at which you are completely in control of the situation. Safety should always be the first concern, taking priority over how hot a particular scene is.
9: Be realistic. End the scene with the bottom wanting more, not wishing there had been less. Remember that power, control, and sensitivity are the keys, not just the intensity of the situation.
10: Be Healthy. Like any strenuous activity, SM requires that it’s participants be in top physical and emotional health. Many factors, including the amount you sleep, your eating habits, and your alcohol and drug intake affect your performance and endurance during a scene. If you don’t want to accept the responsibilities, you shouldn’t be playing the game.
11: Aftercare. No matter how hard or how softly you played. Remember the aftercare of your submissive.
12: Understand that your sub or bottom needs attention. Make them feel wanted and desired.
2: Never underestimate the healing power of a cuddle
3: He/She is more fragile than you think, fuck him/her hard but love him/her tenderly
4: Be patient. Until you enter into a relationship with a submissive, you have no more right to order them around than anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and like what you are.
5: Be Humble. You may be Gods gift to the world, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunities to show how good are…..and plenty of opportunities to make a fool of yourself.
6: Be Open. Although the top is classically considered to be the teacher in D/s and SM, you can always learn from your bottom, no matter how inexperienced. Be willing to learn from other Dominants who may have a totally different perspective from yours.
7: Communicate. You are responsible for finding out basic, essential information about the people you play with, such as experience, limits, likes and dislikes, and health information. Clearly spell out roles, rules, limits and contracts. Do not take for granted that your bottom instinctively knows ground rules.
8: Be Honest. If you lack experience in an area that your bottom would like to experiment with, be honest about it. Your partner has a right to know that. Be honest with yourself and take your submissive only to those levels at which you are completely in control of the situation. Safety should always be the first concern, taking priority over how hot a particular scene is.
9: Be realistic. End the scene with the bottom wanting more, not wishing there had been less. Remember that power, control, and sensitivity are the keys, not just the intensity of the situation.
10: Be Healthy. Like any strenuous activity, SM requires that it’s participants be in top physical and emotional health. Many factors, including the amount you sleep, your eating habits, and your alcohol and drug intake affect your performance and endurance during a scene. If you don’t want to accept the responsibilities, you shouldn’t be playing the game.
11: Aftercare. No matter how hard or how softly you played. Remember the aftercare of your submissive.
12: Understand that your sub or bottom needs attention. Make them feel wanted and desired.
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