This lesson may be short, but it’s an important one. This is something that both partners must learn to express for each other, if there is to be a lasting FLR. It’s important for many reasons, including being a part of the D/s dynamic, and simply because it makes you both feel better about yourselves and your respective roles within the relationship. Both partners want to feel loved and cherished, and there’s no better way to do that, than to show appreciation and gratitude for being who they are and for the things they do. It doesn’t matter whether you’re dominant or submissive, gratitude coming from both partners is extremely healthy and much needed.
In the previous lesson I touched on how it is a dominants responsibility to show gratitude to her submissive for doing the things he does for her. I mentioned that he will feel isolated and perhaps unwanted if he doesn’t receive some sort of appreciation, which can come in many forms, be it sexual or intimate, or simply through some sort of caring or loving female authority. As long as he feels cared for, and appreciated, his submissive tendencies will flourish, and he will only want to give more of himself to her. Gratitude can be expressed in a reward based manner, for good behavior, or it can simply be because she appreciate him and recognizes how sweet his submission is and how much it means to her. She can play with it to some degree, and have fun in the process. As long as there is some gratitude, the relationship will remain healthy, and the submissive won’t hide certain feelings from her, because those feelings won’t be there at all. This will help develop trust, and vulnerability as the relationship progresses, it will also help push his comfort zone into areas he may not have wanted to go before. Slowly expanding his limits because he feels comfortable and appreciated enough to do so.
This works the exact same way when the submissive expresses gratitude toward his dominant. Many women are hesitant in the early days of an FLR if she is new to it. This is because she may be afraid of her own power, and unsure how to use it without hurting him or scaring him away. So when she begins to assert her dominance, being thanked for it, encourages her, that she is on the right track. Being thanked for punishing him, or keeping him in chastity, or allowing him to perform on her orally, can actually give her a power rush. Which can then snowball, making her feel relaxed and comfortable and more importantly, turned on, that she can fully express her power, and be thanked for it. This can really enhance the D/s dynamic quickly, depending upon her style. A submissive can also express his gratitude in other ways, using romance, and chivalry and small gestures of appreciation such as bringing her flowers or doing the chores around the house without being told. Anticipating her needs, before she asks, is one sure way to show appreciation for her, and that he was thinking about her.
A dominant woman still wants to feel desired and appreciated, this must be remembered. She does not exist as a fetish machine to cater to his submissive needs. If he is a lucky enough submissive to be in an FLR in the first place, he must recognize how lucky he is. There are many submissives out there who would just love the chance to be in his position. He must show this desire to his dominant, appreciate her, thank her, and remind her often. This will bring you both closer together naturally, it can break barriers that you didn’t even know were there as it will encourage both of you to be vulnerable. Look into each others eyes with gratitude and if its truly genuine you will feel each others souls, making you both feel your respective roles are exactly as they should be. Gratitude could be the missing piece, the difference between a good FLR and an incredible one. Cherish each other, often.
In the previous lesson I touched on how it is a dominants responsibility to show gratitude to her submissive for doing the things he does for her. I mentioned that he will feel isolated and perhaps unwanted if he doesn’t receive some sort of appreciation, which can come in many forms, be it sexual or intimate, or simply through some sort of caring or loving female authority. As long as he feels cared for, and appreciated, his submissive tendencies will flourish, and he will only want to give more of himself to her. Gratitude can be expressed in a reward based manner, for good behavior, or it can simply be because she appreciate him and recognizes how sweet his submission is and how much it means to her. She can play with it to some degree, and have fun in the process. As long as there is some gratitude, the relationship will remain healthy, and the submissive won’t hide certain feelings from her, because those feelings won’t be there at all. This will help develop trust, and vulnerability as the relationship progresses, it will also help push his comfort zone into areas he may not have wanted to go before. Slowly expanding his limits because he feels comfortable and appreciated enough to do so.
This works the exact same way when the submissive expresses gratitude toward his dominant. Many women are hesitant in the early days of an FLR if she is new to it. This is because she may be afraid of her own power, and unsure how to use it without hurting him or scaring him away. So when she begins to assert her dominance, being thanked for it, encourages her, that she is on the right track. Being thanked for punishing him, or keeping him in chastity, or allowing him to perform on her orally, can actually give her a power rush. Which can then snowball, making her feel relaxed and comfortable and more importantly, turned on, that she can fully express her power, and be thanked for it. This can really enhance the D/s dynamic quickly, depending upon her style. A submissive can also express his gratitude in other ways, using romance, and chivalry and small gestures of appreciation such as bringing her flowers or doing the chores around the house without being told. Anticipating her needs, before she asks, is one sure way to show appreciation for her, and that he was thinking about her.
A dominant woman still wants to feel desired and appreciated, this must be remembered. She does not exist as a fetish machine to cater to his submissive needs. If he is a lucky enough submissive to be in an FLR in the first place, he must recognize how lucky he is. There are many submissives out there who would just love the chance to be in his position. He must show this desire to his dominant, appreciate her, thank her, and remind her often. This will bring you both closer together naturally, it can break barriers that you didn’t even know were there as it will encourage both of you to be vulnerable. Look into each others eyes with gratitude and if its truly genuine you will feel each others souls, making you both feel your respective roles are exactly as they should be. Gratitude could be the missing piece, the difference between a good FLR and an incredible one. Cherish each other, often.
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