I have talked about sub-space and sub-drop so now it is time to address the importance of aftercare.
Aftercare is IMPORTANT and a REQUIREMENT (although not in all cases), I cannot stress this part, it’s the process of attending to your submissive (Dominant) needs after intense feelings of a physical or psychological BDSM scene.
Scenes can be exhausting and draining. Each scene will play into the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical aspects of ourselves. We are putting EXTREME trust in our partners, our faiths, our bodies, and most importantly our lives. It is good to remember that all scenes should have some type of aftercare component. It provides reassurance to both the Dominant and submissive that they are valued, appreciated, cherished, and loved. This is important in distinguishing the difference between play and abuse.
Aftercare doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, the most common forms of aftercare are so simple that you might not even recognize them as a form of aftercare!
Physical aftercare involves removing any restraints, getting your partner something to drink or eat, getting them a blanket, caressing or kissing an area that was marked during play or applying simple lotions.
Emotional aftercare can be discussion, how did it feel, how does your partner feel. It is providing the reassurance that all is well and they did great during the scene. Keeping in mind to provide assurance again hours or even days later.
The most important thing to do in order to give quality aftercare is discuss it before a scene. Understanding exactly what comforts your partner will make aftercare so much easier and will avoid any discomfort.
How do you provide aftercare?
Aftercare is IMPORTANT and a REQUIREMENT (although not in all cases), I cannot stress this part, it’s the process of attending to your submissive (Dominant) needs after intense feelings of a physical or psychological BDSM scene.
Scenes can be exhausting and draining. Each scene will play into the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical aspects of ourselves. We are putting EXTREME trust in our partners, our faiths, our bodies, and most importantly our lives. It is good to remember that all scenes should have some type of aftercare component. It provides reassurance to both the Dominant and submissive that they are valued, appreciated, cherished, and loved. This is important in distinguishing the difference between play and abuse.
Aftercare doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, the most common forms of aftercare are so simple that you might not even recognize them as a form of aftercare!
Physical aftercare involves removing any restraints, getting your partner something to drink or eat, getting them a blanket, caressing or kissing an area that was marked during play or applying simple lotions.
Emotional aftercare can be discussion, how did it feel, how does your partner feel. It is providing the reassurance that all is well and they did great during the scene. Keeping in mind to provide assurance again hours or even days later.
The most important thing to do in order to give quality aftercare is discuss it before a scene. Understanding exactly what comforts your partner will make aftercare so much easier and will avoid any discomfort.
How do you provide aftercare?
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