How I feel about submissive men by Ms. Eden

Reposting…

How I feel about submissive men:

Lately with the influx of all the 50 shades of Grey experimentalists into the kink community, it appears as if being a submissive male is something some men are ashamed of or feel the need to hide, and frankly it is upsetting to me. I wish I could grab you men and shake some sense into you, and tell you to be proud of being a submissive. It is that submission that makes you attractive. So many submissive men I know hide behind titles as switches, kinksters, etc … and outright tell me it is because of the backlash society gives them for being subs. Even those who are open about their sub nature wrestle with internal conflict over the subject.

Please understand that for many of us Dominant creatures, it is your ability to transcend the societal sex-typed dogma that is what makes you most desirable, and erotic. Our society is full of dominant men and submissive woman, you & I are exceptions, who have been able to transcend the societal gender boundaries.

Speaking as a dominant woman, your submissive nature does not conflict with your masculinity, nor does it make you less of a man. Hopefully, you are smart enough to love and serve those who cherish and respect your submission. Your submission is a gift, one that should empower you in some ways, when compared with other men, who are too arrogant to see the beauty and enlightenment that comes from surrendering to a woman. I get the need to protect egos from unwanted harassment, and there is nothing wrong with having a buffer against attacks to ones self-esteem. (I for one, do not like doormats). However, (and I speak only for myself) being submissive does not make you less manly in my opinion. It makes you compassionate,enlightened and more sophisticated, and demonstrates your own comfort within your self, and your commitment to independent self-determination.

There are many in the scene who will want to make you feel as if you are unworthy, take you and use you and give you nothing in return, and will laugh as you crumble. (Financial dommes in particular are good at this). It is hard not to judge dominants who behave in this manner. The plethora of these individuals scare many submissive men and cause walls of distrust to go up. It also reinforces bad & irresponsible behavior to those just getting started on either side of the D/s spectrum. I think this does a huge disservice to the kink community, and in my 20 years in the scene those who behave in that manner rarely find happiness.

Yes, you can still play those use me/leave me scenarios and have great fun, (I wouldn’t want to give them up)…but if you TRULY feel devalued for your submission, and unworthy of love and attention, then there are some self-esteem issues that need to be addressed.

So be proud of your submissiveness gentlemen, don’t ever be ashamed of loving to serve and please woman, and any woman who

makes your feel ashamed of doing so, in my opinion is not worthy of receiving it. (shame can come from other things, but should never be felt for being submissive). Do you agree with my assessment?

Ms.Eden

BBW Facesitting

Is part of the big beautiful woman’s appeal that her size suggests authority and power? She is a powerful force.

For a woman to sit on a man’s face is an erotic pleasure without phallic connections. No form of service allows a submale to be so close to his Mistress’ body. To be used, objectified, enables him to feel total and complete submission.

Face sitting is one of submissive men’s most beloved forms of woman worship. Big beautiful women are often seen as ideal Dommes. To serve as a BBW Mistress’ pillow is many malesub’s happiest Femdomarchic dreams.

Sadist’s Marks of Love

Your body is covered with welts. Thin red canals linking ravage areas of your flesh.

Mistress marks your body with her whips and canes. Some scars will never fade. Enduring memorials to hours spent in Mistress’ dungeon.

Sometimes she cut you will cool deliberation. With patient care she left no part of your body unpunished. Other times, her cravings for your tears and whimpers were too strong for patience. She lacerated your flesh seemingly without aim.

There were nights when the pain was so terrible, you almost lost consciousness. Watchful, she adjusted her pace, it was not time for your rest.

In the dungeon you wanted mercy. She smiled at your desperation, she relishes your pleas.

The next day, you are almost ecstatic in the afterglow of that dungeon session. You feel so alive, so happy.

You love her for these marks. You are proud, they are badges of submission.

Collared & Leashed Male Slave

When a dominant woman collars and puts on a leash a submissive male it is more than fetish. The objects are not trinkets. Each is a tangible symbol of female led relationship.

Collaring slaves is an ancient practice. The collar identifies a man as property.

The collar is useful, providing an attachment point for chains. Once collared, the slave’s movements are easily limited. At night, the man can be attached to a wall in the garage, end of Mistress’ bed, to the bathroom wall, etc.

Mistress may mandate that the male slave wear a thin collar. Hidden under his shirt, he is marked as chattel when in the vanilla world. Around his neck, the collar strengthens the connection with the distant Domme.

The male’s leash enables control and confers a status.

The male cannot leave the side of Mistress without permission. A yank of his leash is instant discipline.

Leashed a man may become Mistress’ pet. Pet status shows affection. He is more than servitor or object.

Being led for a walk is his reward for faithful servitude. For chaste male slaves, going for walkies replaces sex.

Do you wear or want to wear a woman’s collar and leash?

Mistress is Important. So Are You.

Every masochistic and submissive man (and probably woman) has crazy fantasies. Every night they wank to visions of horrific torture. They dream of being treated as livestock.

Male worthlessness is a frequent theme. I plead guilty to writing many extreme Femdom vignettes. My hope is always to give a few readers pleasure.

That is fiction. I fear some may read fantasies as fact.

Submissive men are not worthless. No woman wants such a creature. He would not be fun to have around.

Much of the life of Domme and submissive man is ordinary. He may be her servitor. She also wants a companion with whom she watches Netflix or Hulu.

Most dominant women do not convert their homes into fascist states. Authority exercised by a Mistress is variable.

The dominant woman comes first. That is an essential part of F/m relationships. The submissive man is important. He helps her decide. He may have expertise and guide her in some choices.

Do not be fooled by stories. Fiction is for fun.

Ignore the lonely wannabe submissive men who speak so authoritatively from the dark loneliness of their solitary lives.

Mistress may be the boss or your queen. You are her loyal servant. She allows you into her life because you are worthy.

Can a Mistress Love Her Male Slave?

Without Self-Esteem You Will Never Meet a Mistress

Flesh and blood F/m relationships are usually friendly, often affectionate. Dominant women prefer to be around men they like.

Dommes either have or want a lover. Sure, some women prefer solitude. Solitaries are an exception.

Companionship is a universal need. We fill our homes with cats and dogs. Pets sometimes are our best friends. Their unqualified attention diminishes the aches of loneliness.

Male Femdom fantasies are rich in images of men being treated with contempt by women. Unfulfilled submission pushes men to wish for the extreme: depersonalization and objectification.

This is surely one of the emotional tides that drive men to confess their worthlessness. They dream of being treated with contempt by a woman. Some think of themselves as disgusting, despicable.

Being a man is a sin. Masculinity is shameful. A delusion most common among men who believe in female supremacy and superiority.

Those feelings, self-humiliation, confessions of inferiority assure they will never have an unpaid relationship with a dominant woman.

These guys are bamboozled by other submissive men. Men who pose as dominant women. They write of wholly fictitious female-led marriages. They live their fantasies online by pretending to be Mistress Wives.

Years ago, I noticed how most of these people have much the same prose style. They recycle identical clichés. They are convincing writers.

Professional Dommes prosper online. Some use female supremacy. There is no shame in paying them. ProDommes satisfy their clients’ desires. Professional Mistresses, when working, do not reflect the behavior the hundreds of thousands of unpaid dominant women.

Extreme fantasies are fun. Don’t confuse your Femdom fantasy life with is attainable.

Dommes and submissive men have happy, companionable relationships. Mistresses do love their slaves.

Find your self-worth. Without self-esteem you will never meet a Mistress.

Joyous Humility as a Woman’s Pet

Femdom pet roleplay blends gentleness with deeply humble behavior.

Eating and drinking from bowls on the floor. How wonderfully that feels for many submissive men. Perhaps as a special treat, Mistress scrapes her leftovers into the food bowl.

Kneeling at her feet, the submale pet kisses and licks Mistress shoes and feet. She strokes his hair, scratches the scruff of his neck. Even calls he ‘a good boy.’ The simplicity of being a pet allows a man to sink into happiest submission.

Forbidden words, he must use his hands as paws to beg for attention. Perhaps she allows him to bark when he needs to pee. Her puppy slave cannot leave her presence without permission.

Some human pets play fetch. Treating him as a puppy is softly objectifying.

When her pet is too rowdy, Mistress may swat him with magazine or cane. He thrills to this light discipline.

Pet roleplay may extend to special costumes. Some male pets spend time wearing a hood shaped like a dog’s head.

Mistress may humble him with a butt plug that resembles a tale. It wriggles as he crawls, making him blush.

Bondage gloves take away use of his fingers.

Fetish apparatus is often a nifty addition F/m play. The essence of pet role play is in the male’s heart. He feels profound humility without degradation.

Resting at Mistress’ feet, crawling behind her, this suffuses the male with humble contentment and gratitude.