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Thursday, 4 October 2018

The Elements of Male Chastity

“A free cock corrupts the mind, 
a caged cock exposes the soul”
“If you fantasize about being in Chastity, you probably should be locked up.”



Acceptance


The initial discovery and interest of chastity can be quite an epiphany. It is eye opening and more than often unlocks a myriad of unrealized sexual feelings and emotions all tied to looking at that first penis locked up in a device.

The word “addiction” is derived from a Latin term for “enslaved by” or “bound to.” the domination of one’s thoughts or feelings by a persistent object, idea, image, desire, etc.

“I wish there was a more intense word other than“Chastity” to convey what I feel for it.”

“Chastity Desire” exerts a long and extremely powerful influence on the mind and body. An eager male willingly putting on a Chastity cage produces several natural Euphoria - Inducing chemicals in the body that will cause a Psycho - Physical awareness in every one of the twelve areas of the males brain.

This will manifest itself in five very distinct ways:

1. Intense craving for the object of desire.
2. Complete loss of control over its use.
3. Uncontrollable involvement with it despite perceived cultural norms.
4. Recognizing the resulting sensory and mental states in reaction to physical stimuli.
5. Total disregard of the adverse consequences of being discovered.

Chastity is a triangle made up of three unconditional properties in equal measure:

1. Acceptance
2. Understanding
3. Submission


Remove any one of the three and the triangle falls apart

There are two kinds of chastity: the kind that drowns you until you’re useless, and the kind that fires your soul to purpose.

To some chastity for the first time is shocking, enlightening and to some spiritual. Everything about chastity has an underlying theme of vulnerability and at every stage the male realizes it more. Authenticity is beautiful. There’s nothing stronger than vulnerability. To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength. No matter how “normal” people look, living “ordinary” lives, everyone has a story to tell. And may be, just like you, everyone else is a misfit too. The willingness to finally express yourself. To be who you are truly is burden removed. The challenge accepted. One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your own sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else. Male Chastity is a multi-faceted virtue not a habit. It is respect for sexuality to such an extent that sex is reserved for only the worthy. Chastity submits to the power and beauty of sexuality and desires never to misuse it. Chastity is a sophisticated form of sexual honesty because it says “yes” to purity and the intoxicating ritual of orgasm denial. In Chastity a male will eventually become what they think about all day

“Chastity is a sexual preference and when you finally discover who you are, you never second guess yourself, you will be free.”

Understanding


Like with anything that a male has a serious interest about he will research and find out as much as he can about a topic. The history, the methods and how it relates to their interest in it. This is the beginning stage of developing a Chastity Persona. Chastity is a sexuality all on its own. The sexuality of Abstinence. Abstinence means saying “no.” It is about what you cannot have or cannot do. It means avoiding certain things. Sexual abstinence encourages withholding sexual activity. The desire for Chastity Abstinence is the willingness to forgo and refrain. The male who is interested in Chastity needs to unlock the secrets and unlocking it requires understanding. Discovering Chastity is the key to discovering purpose and discipline. A male is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides. You don’t want to inhabit the world under false pretenses. You have the choice to not be in Chastity … but you can’t resist it. Once you accept your limits, you go beyond them and become true to yourself. Chastity is not going to be in your head all the time. But once you know it, Chastity will be forever in your heart. Chastity is happiness by limiting desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy all of them. Chastity is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust. It has nothing to do with who you are as compared to everyone else. It has everything to do with who you are in companionship with your Chastity. You are attracted to the physical adornment but it also is spiritually internal and on the inside it comes when validation from the outside doesn’t matter anymore. You know you need to be in Chastity. But in order to make Chastity come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, sacrifice, and effort. The one person you’ll be spending the rest of your life with is you. Do not let the regret of not trying Chastity burden you. These Chastity desires are not to be suppressed or fixed — they’re to be acknowledged. It is beautiful to express your Chastity and even more beautiful to feel it. You have everything you need for complete Chastity and total happiness right now. Chastity is the cement of civilization and progress. Without it there is no stability in society, and without it knowledge one cannot attain the Science of Life.

“Fantasy is hardly an escape from reality. It’s just another way of understanding it.”

Fantasizing


Usually ones mind starts to wander and imagination takes over to the desires and intense feelings towards experimenting with Chastity. The male masturbates to almost clinical impotence to Chastity pornography wishing it was his cock locked away. The mind can go either direction under chastity — toward sexuality or toward abstinence: on or off. Think of it as a spectrum whose extremes are unconsciousness at the abstinence end and hyperconsciousness at the sexual end. More often than not, these two perspectives can swing like a pendulum with a person. It’s ironic but it’s an exploration into trying to make sense of all these sexual feelings on the recurring idea of the thing that turns someone on the most is the same thing they need to control that arousal. Don’t forget - no one else sees life the way you do, so no one else can live the reality that you have to live. A chastity device won’t put out the flames of burning flesh. The male unconsciously needs guidance. The fantasy grows and becomes more elaborate as time passes. Perhaps a males imagination needs Chastity fantasies to fulfill some craving he has as a way to assuage the darkness in himself. With Chastity nothing is lost …Everything is transformed.

“Most truths are so naked that males feel sorry for them and cover them up, at least a little bit.”

Lamenting


What can best be described as “Chastity Cravings” take over. It is a compulsion to be locked and it will grow as the male becomes extremely vulnerable as he obsessively goes over all the elements. Vulnerability always comes with risks, but the rewards run deep. Male Chastity does all of this. It will bring it out of males. The way the mind will lean under chastity is strongly influenced by the person, reasons and desire for chastity. They chose to be locked in chastity because their brains are wired to completely surrender to it. Almost if they have a genetic, disposition for it. They still have a thread of free will and it is giving in to what they so badly want. There is no perfection only beautiful versions of brokenness. A male will keep seeking validation but they already know what is about to happen. They should not confuse fear with curiosity. Let it forever alter their behavior. The male is already addicted to a drug he’s never taken. It’s a unfamiliar kind of suffering that seems both mental and physical. A male in Chastity is not made like any of those he has seen. They venture to believe that they are not made like any of those who are in existence. If they are not better, at least unique and different. An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior and a male in Chastity will always be figuring this out.

“Some men are born to roam free while you are destined for the cage because the relentless search for novelty and social status locked you into an iron cage of sexuality. Affluence has itself betrayed you and deviance has given you a reward.”

Research


Now it is time for the male to get serious and figure out what is the best device to have. No one undertakes research in Chastity with the intention of winning a prize. It is the joy of discovering something they didn’t know before. Awareness without action is worthless. The internet is a prominent source for devices. This is more of a logical methodical element and it is put here after the last two emotional elements because it is definitely useful but it also an attempt to try and get a grip on these seemingly uncontrollable cravings if only briefly.
A male should ask themselves these questions: 
Are you looking at pictures of male chastity again? 
How many times are you going to lie to yourself about how you seem to “accidentally” stumble upon these sites? 
Do you still remember that first locked cock photo you saw so long ago?


In the beginning it was weird how many just one image of a dick in a cage made you rock hard but now it seems so normal. A couple of jerks to smooth locked up male makes them bust a nut all over themselvesl. More often than not all of this going on with no one else knowing and the secrecy can be quite overwhelming. The male will slowly leave all those old inhiabitions behind because an incredible experience awaits. Everything will make sense and finally feel complete.


“The penis, often regarded as a weapon, it is also a burden, and the male curse.”

Science

Every penis in the womb starts as a clitoris before hormones ‘sex’ the brain of the to-be male.“ The penis “retains the mark of its female heritage: its dark underskin and the thin ridge or seam, known as the raphe, which runs from scrotum to anus, are remnants of the fusion of the vaginal lips. Male development requires hormones to suppress female development and further hormones to enhance male development. This makes female anatomy the platform for male development and so technically the penis is an enlarged clitoris. Of course this sounds provocative because it goes against the ‘received wisdom’ or ‘gender spin’ that gives primacy to the penis. The male genitalia has historically often been used as a primitive, superficial measure of masculinity among the strata of ‘lower-educated’ males of many societies. As such, a smaller or less ‘masculine-looking’ penis can sometimes be labelled “feminine” in appearance (i.e., femininity being considered the default weaker / lesser gender). In this sense, the description can be both an insult (e.g., for a “straight” and / or insecure male) and compliment (e.g., for a MTF transsexual girl).


“You’re not gay; you’re not bisexual; you’re not straight. You are just curious.”

Objectification


This brewing emotional pot now causes a a definite change in sexual identity and also on how he views his penis. The connection between “manhood” and the penis is unbreakable. Size isn’t solely about physically being small. Size is also about mentally feeling small. He is in an intense process of redefinition of what it actually is in relationship with his manhood and personality. A sexual self realization takes place with very new drastic perceptions of ones self. Bravado, submissiveness and male roles all swirl around with this new idea of chastity. Masculine identity is intertwined with the penis. Masculinity represents drive, direction, force, especially penetrative force. We always need to know who’s got the biggest dick in the boardroom. It’s why every battle for superiority is called a “dick measuring contest.” If you violate laws of God, you’re a sinner.
If you violate laws of men, you’re a criminal. If you violate your own laws, you’re pathetic. Think about what phallic-shaped objects like obelisks, rockets and skyscrapers represent: masculine energy. They thrust up into the air, essentially penetrating the sky in defiance of gravity. Building those structures is an expression of masculine energy. NASA does not build rockets shaped like vaginas. There is no amount of wealth, status, education or fame that will change the size of a males small penis. The male will ask internal questions like “is there something wrong with me be cause I want this?” What are other small penis males really thinking, feeling, experiencing, when they finally lock themselves up, slip away from the gaze and culture of real masculinity?


“If you look at sculptures from hundreds of years ago, everyone’s naked. Everyone has a small penis. It’s not a bad thing.”

Communication


In order to find validation males will seek the like minded online. Love is our true destiny. Males do not find the meaning of Chastity alone - they find it with one another. Locked cock worship is a real thing. Just count how many chastity blogs there are on web. It’s not going away. The rise in popularity of Chastity has a direct correlation to more exposure on the web. Even if it is done anonymously one will want to know they are definitely not alone in this new erotic world they’ve found. A male needs justification for his desires. A male realizes all bad behavior is really a request for Chastity, attention, or validation. Some will communicate with others to find specific answers and sense of belonging, others will view anonymously, all seeking the element of understanding. A male is thankful, for the validation of feelings, and letting them know they are not alone. Chastity is not rational. Chastity is culture, habit, craving and identity. Men in Chastity leave traces of themselves where they feel most comfortable, most worthwhile. The natural state of chastity is unselfishness. When you lock your small penis, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You submit that position to your cage. Chastity is what gives males a sense of fulfillment and self-reliance. If you can share your story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.


“Sometimes the gap between what you are and what you want to be is a little piece of metal called a Chastity cage. ”

Submission


Finally the pot boils over. Anyway you look at it, it’s an intense experience for the male. Some may feel they are losing control. Submission is everything that refers to the delight of the senses and that’s what Chastity does, it stimulates the body in every possible way. The intensity to bring this about varies from individual to individual. Succumbing to Chastity, in an erotic sense, is not giving away a part of yourself, but seeking something new, something other, within yourself. Vulnerability always comes with risks, but its rewards run deep. Male Chastity does all of this. It will bring it out of you. If a male thinks he can stand to find out who they are and what they’re made of, they need to put on a Chastity device. Chastity is a balanced system of learning and evolution. Chastity is meant to teach us true spiritual human sexual character. It is meant for self-transformation. It is meant to transform anxiety into peace, arrogance into humility, envy into compassion, to awaken the pure soul in males and their love for the Source, which is the cage. Whether pleasure or pain; every situation in your chastity serves a purpose. It is up to you to recognize what that purpose could be. To feel aroused is to feel alive. A tight fitting cage on a small cock is like taking in huge lungfuls of fresh air, essential to the body, essential for health, and essential to life. Nothing makes a male feel more naked than when Chastity identifies a desire he never knew he possessed. He lives for permanent Chastity. His penis is locked in a sensual prison with guilt admitted and the sentence accepted. He is glorifying it, worshiping it and relishing the energy, with every fibre of his being. It is no better reason for being, naked, exposed, and alive. Chastity is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say NO to ones self. Chastity is where You put your chaos to rest and awaken inner peace. In simplicity there is truth. Strive for refrain and believe in small penis chastity. There’s no better time for a cage than now.


“They can remember the frustration of not being locked in a cage. They knew what I wanted to say, but could not get the words out, so they would just scream.”

Obtaining


Everything finally comes together and the only option will be to obtain a chastity device by any means possible. A goal without a plan is just a wish. The internet again has a part in the accessibility and large variety of Chastity devices. Looking at styles and brands trying to find the perfect one. They may even purchase more than one and so begins the device collection addiction. A device is a true poetic creation, and is always more than meets the eye. A device is grounded on living skin, so its essence emotes a poignancy unique to the sexual male condition. This is becoming a serious reality and it is under way. The device that is chosen expresses values that reflect the males small penis perception, including orderliness, balance, harmony, logic, and abstract beauty. A Chastity cage is not made of metal or plastic , but a tender balance of expectation and longing. A males Chastity is the root of small penis discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say “NO” to oneself. Once a device is in the males possession something amazing takes place.


“Being interested in Chastity isn’t a strange thing, it means that you are brave enough to find yourself”

Execution


Execution is on! Whatever regiment the male has created it will be individual to the chastity taste of the person. It’s about male discipline. It’s about following instructions. It’s about the execution of the plan. That’s what Chastity is. It doesn’t mater if the male is gay, straight, or bisexual. Chastity does not know what sexuality is nor does it care. Chastity is beauty, the perpetual invention of detail, the choice of routine, the exquisite care of execution. Something happens to the male when they remember around the time they became teenagers and thought about concepts of manhood and behaving masculine. They find out that not every penis is equal and there is a measurement across all males that is considered normal or average. After all the elements that have pleasured and tortured the males reach its apex, the first locking of the device on a penis can be one of the most erotic experiences they have ever experienced.


“They laugh at us because we are different. We laugh at them because they are all the same.”

Relief


All around us there are people who live their entire lives without exploring that one thing that would complete them, satisfy that craving that would make them whole. One must refuse to be that person. There is nothing more soul-satisfying than the first look of a succulent nude male wearing a secure tight fitting Chastity device. So sweet and delicious is the feeling, when a male is put in Chastity, that the pleasure it brings excels all delight, so the knot of Chastity, however tight it seemed before, is tied tighter still. There will be times in life when things simply have to be replaced because they are tired, broken, worn out, harmful, outdated, or irrelevant. Taking an inventory of the things that no longer serve the best and highest good and replace them with things which do. Chastity is the true key to success. Small penis males often lose their way at times. They embrace and overindulge from the fruits of success. Chastity halts this arrogance and self-gratifying trap. Humble males share the credit and wealth, remaining focused and hungry to continue the journey of permanent chastity. All those old inhibitions are left behind because an incredible Chastity experience awaits. If you’re comfortable in your nudity, why the hell do you need clothes? Once we are aware that our chastity makes us objects of desire, we truly become naked. Chastity makes us want to know what passion is. We want to feel something strongly. Chastity does that for us. The hurricane derives its powers from a calm center. So does a person locked away. The only way you can reach your full potential is if you open up and allow your self to be exposed to how you really feel. Remember that things are not always as they appear to be… Chastity creates possibilities and opportunities. Set out to discover the why of it, and to transform the pleasure into knowledge. Satisfaction of one’s curiosity is one of the greatest sources of fulfillment in life.

“The world says to males at a very early age they can become anything they want to be and another one has chosen to be locked permanently in Chastity”


Existence

Males are more revealing and exposed now that they have a chastity cage on. When they are just naked they were hiding. Now they are naked in chastity honestly exposing their true self. No lying anymore. This is who they are and what they want to be. It is an important lesson. Their happiness doesn’t need to be like others and that’s fine. They’re happy in their own way. There is something primal happening to them. It is instinctually beautiful. A graceful balance. This is exotic poetry physically played out stirring up powerful emotions. The complexity is intense and compulsions for these cravings seem to never stop. The cage has touched the soul long before they knew what Chastity actually felt like on their body. It is an abstract and organic thread weaving through them.

“No Free Cocks Ever. 
Stay Limp, Stay Locked. 
Stay Soft, Stay Smooth.”


Balance


Everything makes sense and finally feels complete. These uncontrollable emotions that exist in this new world where expectations are not set by those unrealistic traditional stereotypes that hold people all back, but by true intoxicating sexual cravings that drive real human passions. Insecure habits and mundane routines are noticeably identifiable and corrected since the introduction of Chastity. Chastity reveals. It doesn’t conceal. A cage reveals your cravings, your passion, your deepest most secret desires. It is a cleansing of body and soul. Males will never follow their own inner voice until they clear up the doubts in their minds and bound skin invites awareness. Nothing will change in ones life if they don’t do something different from what they have been doing. This is something that has been a long time coming but it has to be said. Lock up that small worthless penis. No longer lying about the intense desire for Chastity. Surrender to the pleasure of denial. They never were a man. Real men have virile potent cocks and males interested in Chastity definitely do not have that. They have a tiny nub of flesh and nerves placed between their legs as a reminder of the ineffectual impotence. They at the least have the confidence to purchase a cage to put on their baby dick. They have to know that this is extremely embarrassing for them and there is no reason for this to continue. The only shred of dignity that they could possibly have exists in the locking of a cage on their so called penis. Let go and move forward because acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that Chastity is the only way through it. This is a unique erotic fetish that turns them on so much and they can actually practice every day.


“…Do you ever know a moment is important as it’s happening, or is it only when you look back that you can see your life has changed?”

Choice
Choosing to lock oneself in Chastity uncovers who you subconsciously are or desperately want to be. You have a deeply hidden and inarticulate desire for things beyond this mundane life. Something happens to males when they’re locked. You become strangely free, uncivilized. You may do anything devilish. You like the ethos of Chastity and the idea of joining an ritual in which, at the very least, everyone who signs up believes in something. You will treat a Chastity cage with the reverence it deserves. Next time, you will stop and appreciate it and you’ll marvel at the miracle of a cock clad in stainless steel. Beautiful and diabolical, Chastity makes you impatient indeed to claim it. The cage reveals the person that has been hidden inside you. Chastity is both a symbol of what a you see and what you do not see in yourself. Look at your past and find, woven like the hidden symbols on a treasure map, the path that will point to your final destination.
Chastity when in practice is not a fantasy anymore, it is a defining reality. It is as if the cock cage is a mirror reflecting your soul.


“When a small cock is locked, the male is finally living up to expectations”


About Me

When I first discovered contemporary male Chastity my intense feelings of inadequacy were put in perspective. For the first time in my adult life everything made sense. I prefer a world with many kinks and sexual identities. It stimulates my commitment to Chastity to keep growing day by day. The concepts of my manhood, bravado and masculinity now have been completely erased from my mind. Chastity had brought me to my knees and made me acknowledge my own nothingness, and out of that knowledge I had been reborn. They say, you become what you think about all day long. Chastity is my obsession, joy, and torment. The outside world holds no interest for me without chastity. I don’t possess these thoughts I have — they possess me. I don’t possess these feelings I have — They curse me. Somewhere between love and hate lies confusion, chastity is discovered in misunderstanding and desperate hope. I was no longer the centre of my life and therefore I could see my Chastity in everything. A clear path to total submission was shown to me and it brought me peace. Passion drives me, and I let chastity hold the reins. If I have any faith or spirituality it is the belief of sin because I am a sinner and I want to pay for every one of my sins. But sometimes I feel like an animal, and animals don’t know sin, do they? I want all of you small cock males to also know my sins. I want you to see my Chastity and crave it. Nothing is more real than the masks we make to show each other who we are. Chastity is my masks and I believe in it – The person I made up is me, I believe in my Chastity – And my destiny. To me photos of locked cocks are way more sensually erotic than pornography. There is an intensity to the simplicity of the submission. For those who have interest in viewing chastity pictures, it is a intense aphrodisiac. Once upon a time all I did was look at male chastity blogs matsurbating myself into a lethargic goon. It was a sensual dichotomy of wanting to be locked and wanting to jack off at the same time. Fast forward to the present and I am now permanently locked away only to be let out for the only briefest amount of time. Now I am the creator of male chastity erotica. In a somewhat narcissistic way I post pictures of my locked penis. I am proud of the way
It looks. I want people to masturbate to them. I have a fantasy that a large cock male is clicking through chastity blogs looking at pictures getting extremely aroused and ever so close to climax. Image after image and finally the last photo they see is mine. The cum load starts to spurt out all over. After looking at all my pictures I want the thought of chastity to eat away at you to the point of insanity. You will memorize all of the Chastity websites, Tumblr URLS and masturbate to the posts. Male Chastity will become your sexuality above all others. It will no longer be a choice, the pattern will be irreversible. I want Chastity to be all consuming. All other thoughts will be clouded by the images of locked cocks flashing in your minds. The only option will be to obtain a chastity device by any means possible and lock up your worthless cocks. You will look at styles and brands trying to find the perfect one. You will lay around nude writhing and moaning with the tight fitting cage existing in a chastity tortured bliss. You all will start a blogs and post pictures in provocative poses of your succulent, limp, locked penis. 
You will become extremely vain and narcissistic. A drooling sexually addicted goon worshiping your flaccid locked penis. Chastity will control every aspect of your life. 
You will become me.

“Chastity, that stealthy thing that entered life as a secretive visitor, then became a welcomed guest, then a best friend, and now is the sexual Master”

Pledge


I pledge to willingly submit my cock to chastity. I am a caged slave. I have no choice in this matter. It has consumed me from the moment I knew I could slide my penis in a modern device. The look, the feel, the action is a part of me. I am proud to be in chastity. I need to be trained. I have to be controlled. The more flaccid my penis becomes the more psychologically aroused I am. There is supreme pleasure in impotence. I admit my small penis fetish. My useless cock belongs in a small cage. My only purpose is the be a slave to Chastity.

“They never really had a manhood in the first place and Chastity allowed them to stop looking for it. It’s time to throw away the masks and finally put on the soul.”

Beauty


Chastity is a pure human experimental art form. The art of sacrifice, the art or virtue, and the art of pure, sensual indulgent lust. It is glorious body display and adornment. Device Chastity in reality is an abstract concept. Natural human sexuality is what makes it organic. Chastity is as beautiful as it is vulgar. It is the balance of raw power and submissive weakness. Chastity is longing and lamenting. For those who like it, love it, and for those who love it, crave it. Chastity will provoke you sexually and yet you need it to control that same urge. It creates the illusion of pure innocence and projects total deviant sexuality all at the same time. It is a granted wish with unforeseen circumstances. It is cool calculation and reckless abandonment. Submission is everything that refers to the delight of the senses. There is more sensuality and stimulation in Chastity, even for the briefest time than in most recreational drugs. That’s what Chastity does, it stimulates the body in every possible way.

“Comfort…is the key ingredient to making the prisoner crave the prison.”

Poem


Beware of the submissive caged male because they are the Devil’s pawn. Alone among God’s primates their sexuality is for mindless sport or lust or greed. True when unlocked they will continuously masturbate to total impotence simply for the feeling of shame and the punishment. Without chastity they are selfish errant freaks. Let them not be bred in great numbers for they will make a disgrace of their homes and yours. Deny them and permanently force them back inside a chastity device for they are the disgusting harbingers of pure perversion.


“Knowing purpose helps in using all available resources in achieving Chastity.”

Resources


If you seriously look for Chastity, you will find it. If you ignore the craving, Chastity will follow until you submit. Are you thinking about trying Chastity?


Here’s some links to help you start.


http://ezinearticles.com/?A-Male-Chastity-Guide—Myths-and-Facts&id=4111647
https:www.malechastityjournal.com/living-with-chastity/getting-a-good-fit/
http://thegrittywoman.com/beginners-guide-to-chastity/part-1-fitting-and-measuring
http://www.maturemetal.com/guide-to-measuring-your-penis-for-a-chastity-device/
http://chastitylife.com/chastity-device-sizing-guide/
https://denyingthumper.com/2015/01/05/how-to-measure-for-a-male-chastity-device/
http://malechastitynow.com/index.php?route=information/information&information_id=7
http://www.micropenis.info/2015/11/best-chastity-belts-for-men.html?m=1
http://chastitylife.com/chastity-device-sizing-guide/
http://adultsmart.com.au/blog/chastity-myths/
https://www.google.com/amp/s/myboyinchastityblog.wordpress.com/2016/07/14/how-to-get-your-wife-to-lock-you-up-in-chastity/amp/


“Chastity is sometimes bitter but the fruit it bears is so sweet.”

Wednesday, 3 October 2018

Below I have outlined the step by step process of becoming my new slave.

Step 0: You must read through this whole post, including the requirements near the bottom of this post, and make sure you fulfill them all before continuing to Step 1.

Step 1: Send a PM to Mistress containing the following things; your preferred name, your age, your location, your occupation. You will fill in this BDSM Checklist (found here) and Questionnaire (questions at bottom of post, copy and answer) and send both your completed list (copy and paste the list, then fill in each line as ACTIVITY - YES/NO - WILLINGNESS RATING - COMMENTS) and answers to Mistress. This will outline your hard and soft limits as well as the things you're most interested in doing with Mistress.

Step 2: If Mistress is impressed by your initial message, Mistress will give you her kik username are you will verify yourself by sending a live photo via the in app kik camera. You will need to show your face and be fully clothed.

Step 3: Mistress will now be in control of your orgasms. You are no longer allowed to touch yourself or cum without Mistress’ permission - if you do, you will be punished accordingly. If you already own a chastity cage, Mistress will become the provisional key holder and you should not take off the cage without Mistress’ permission.

Step 4: You will submit to Mistress’ list of rules, agree to follow them and accept any punishment if any rules are broken. The first time you break a rule, you will get a stern warning. The second time, you will be punished accordingly. Please see below for a list of Example Rules that Mistress wrote. Mistress believes that each slave should have a set of rules tailored exactly to meet that slaves needs, so the rules are meant as just examples.

Step 5: You will complete a series of tasks set by Mistress. This will be a chance for Mistress to get to know you better and test how good of a submissive you would be to Mistress. See the table below for some examples of tasks relating to a specific kink. You must be willing to try most of these tasks and the kinks associated with them. The biggest kinks mentioned are sissification, anal play, chastity and edging, bathroom play and humiliation.


Sissification

Go into a store that sells women's underwear, pick out a colourful/frilly/girly pair and purchase them and only them. Go home and stripe naked. Put on the pair of underwear and take a few photos. Then start rubbing your cock through the panties and make yourself hard (if you weren't already) and edge yourself. You do not have permission to cum while doing this.
Cum Eating
 How many times can you cum in one day? For a period of 24hrs you will be instructed to cum as many times as you possibly can and collect all your cum in a glass/bottle. Mistress will choose the porn you are allowed to watch and will need a video/photo of every time you cum. Depending on how well you've done, Mistress will reward you with very special gifts. You will be told to eat all of your cum at the end of the 24hrs, not matter how much you cum.
Anal Play + Sissification
Shave all of your public and ass hair. Mistress would like to see you playing with your shaven asshole, from behind with you bent over, reaching behind you. At least 2 fingers must be inserted, one at first, then stretched to two. Then you should try to fit 3 fingers but can stop at 2. While doing this, you must not touch or stroke your dick, you are allowed to cum, but from anal stimulation only. Mistress would also like to see photos of your nice pretty shaven dick clit and your ass pussy.

Bathroom Play
You will drink a liter of water within an hour, every hour, until you are desperate to pee. At that point you will strip naked and film yourself struggling to hold the pee in. It will start to leak out until you just can't hold it anymore and you piss all over yourself, very forcefully and then send that video to Mistress.

Edging

The 1000 strokes edging challenge. On the first day, you must perform 100 stokes without cumming. On the second day, you must perform 200 strokes without cumming. On the third day, you must perform 300 and so on and so forth until the 10th day, when once 1000 strokes are completed, you will be allowed to cum. The stokes don't have to be performed all at once but all the strokes must be accounted for in the 24hr period. If all the strokes are not completed in the 24hr period or you cum any time, you will fail and have to restart back to the first day.

Anal Training

Long wear butt plug training. You will wear a butt plug for longer and longer periods of time ie 1 hour, then 2, 4, 8 etc. This will include wearing a plug under clothes in public going to work/school while wearing a plug.
Sensation Play (Ice)

You will freeze some water into ice cubes. Once they are solid, strip naked and take the ice cubes out of the freezer. Take one and rub it over your nipples, then take it down to your balls and rub the ice all over them and up and down the shaft of your cock. Let it slide over the head of your dick and feel how cold it is. Take another ice cube and rub it around the outside of your asshole, the cold probably making your little hole tighten up. Even so, push the ice cube into your hole. Do it slowly and carefully, feeling ever but it moves inside you. Push it all the way in and feel it melt. Take another one and push it inside too. See how many you can put inside. Record the whole process and send the video to Mistress.

Humiliation

With a permanent marker, you will strip naked and write a word or phrase of Mistress' choosing, in a location that Mistress picks and take a photo. This photo does not have to include your face if you do not want. You will then post this photo somewhere public, such as on your blog or on an appropriate subreddit.
Bathroom Play 
For one day, you will keep a bathroom diary. I'd like you to get a measuring jug and every time you need to pee, you pee into the measuring jug while videoing it and make a note of the reading on camera. Then dispose of the pee in the toilet and send the video to me.
Anal Play
You will give yourself an enema. Go to the pharmacy and buy and enema kit. Follow its instruction and record a video of yourself during the whole process and send it to Mistress. For completing this task, Mistress will allow you to pleasure yourself anally and if possible, cum from anal play only. If you have access to toys or something to penetrate yourself with, Mistress would be very pleased to see that. If you do manage to cum, you will eat it afterwards.
Sissification You will buy nail polish and I've yourself a nice pretty pedicure. You will trim all your nails and carefully coat all your nails with the polish. You will then take a photo at the beginning of each day to make sure they're still painted and leave them painted for about a week.

Edging

You will make your cock hard and keep your cock hard for as long as possible. First, record a video of your cock starting out soft and the getting hard without you touching it. You are not allowed to touch your cock, but can watch porn etc to keep hard. See how long you can keep yourself hard for. You don't need to continue to record your cock, but are required to send photos whenever Mistress asks to prove you are still hard.
Pee Play

You will strip naked and get into the shower/bath. You will make sure you need to pee (either by waiting until you naturally need to pee or drinking a lot) and pee into your mouth. If you have a bath, you can either be standing or lying down. You do not have to swallow any of your pee, but Mistress wants you to taste it. You will film the whole time and then send that video to Mistress.
Sissification + Humiliation

You must wear women's panties for a full day under your clothes. You must go to a public bathroom and pee in a urinal and pull your trousers down enough for someone to see the underwear that you are wearing. Take a photo of your trousers down showing your panties, best if done so while peeing.
Forced Homosexuality

Mistress enjoys watching gay porn while she touches and plays with herself. You are tasked with searching for gay porn you think Mistress will enjoy. You must then edge yourself while watching the gay porn but are not allowed to cum. You will present Mistress with the gay porn you have found and if Mistress is pleased she will allow you cum to the gay porn. You will record yourself cumming to the gay porn and then eating your cum afterwards and send the video to Mistress.
Porn

You will search online for a porn video you would enjoy recreating in a scene with Mistress. You will then send the video to Mistress and explain why you enjoy it and how you would go about recreating it.

Sissification

You will only be allowed to use female hygiene products including deodorant, shampoo, body wash etc. You will make sure they have a very girly scent.
Your first task will be to create a new (public or private) tumblr blog and write a detailed post about your past experiences in BDSM. Talk about how you discovered BDSM and found out you were submissive, the things you have tried, what you've liked and what you haven't. If you have no experiences whatsoever, then write about what you would like to try.

Your second task will be to write a blog post at least once a week detailing your general feelings about what you've done with Mistress in that week, what you enjoyed, what you didn't enjoy, what you'd like to do again or try new next week, what you'd not like to do again. Talk about how you feel, the things that Mistress does that you enjoy and the things that you don't enjoy that much. You are allowed to write anything you want and will not be punished for anything that you say. You must be 100% honest at all times. You will also use this blog to find porn or anything else relating to BDSM that you would like to show to Mistress - ideas on things you would like to try etc. Mistress will also set you writing tasks over the course of the relationship which should be completed and posted onto the blog.

Your third task and the rest of the steps will be discussed later on, as from this point, they will both be tailored for you.

Slave Requirements:
  • 18+ (no upper limit
  • Located anywhere - I'm open to meeting up in person, if you're close by or willing to travel to me.
  • Bisexual, or at least bi-curious.
  • Any race, any height, any weight etc. I do not mind what you look like, appearance is not the important to me.
  • You must be currently single.
  • You must be willing to send photos and videos and appear on video chat. Must verify who you are and show your face to Mistress

Below is the list of rules that Mistress will ask slave to agree to following. Over time these rules will change to fit slave best, some rules will be added and some removed.

List of Rules for Slave
  • You must always refer to Mistress as Mistress.
  • Every time you cum, you must eat and swallow and eat your cum.
  • You must not cum with Mistress' permission.
  • Every time you go to the toilet you must sit down and not stand (unless a urinal is the only option).
  • As soon as you wake up in the morning, you must message Mistress telling her you are now awake.
  • Before you go to bed at night, you must tell Mistress Good Night.

If slave breaks any rules or disobeys in anyway, Mistress will first warn slave what rule or rules he has broken a rule or how slave has disobeyed and disappointed Mistress. Slave will not get another warning. If he does the same again, slave will be punished accordingly. Below is a list of punishments Mistress may use.

Example List of Punishments
  • Mistress will increase the time you are in chastity and the time till you will next be allowed to cum. It could be an hour or one week, depending on the severity of punishment needed.
  • You will write out lines by hand on paper. 'I will be a better submissive to Mistress', 'I will not break any more rules', 'I will always obey Mistress' are some examples of what line Mistress will require you to write. This could be done 50 times or 500 times, depending on the severity of the punishment needed.
  • You will lose the privilege to use the bathroom inside your house. Every time you need to use the bathroom, you must go outside or to a public bathroom and record yourself peeing and send it to Mistress.
  • You will dress up in women's underwear (at least panties, but the more clothing, the better), take a photo and post it online for the whole internet can see (face not needed in the photo). You will as for humiliating comments to be left on your photo and will read them out to Mistress on video.
  • You will find something that can be used for spanking and self spank an allotted number of times as said by Mistress.

Below is the list of questions that Mistress would like you to answer. They are mostly background questions, information that will be useful for Mistress to know. You should answer each question with as much detail as possible and with 100% honesty. There are no right or wrong answers.

Questionnaire:

What are your current masturbation habits? Do you what porn? What kind?

What toys/equipment do you currently own? Please give a detailed list of each toy, photos would be a great advantage.

Do you have any physical or mental health problems that Mistress should be aware of?

Do you have any dietary issues or allergies?

Do you take any drugs, prescription or otherwise?

Do you smoke? If so, how often?

Do you drink alcohol? If so, how often?

Have you ever been arrested/broken the law?

What is your biggest hobby? How do you like to spend most of your time?

What would be a good reward for you?

What would be a punishment you would not like to do? Do you think there are any punishments that would work well for you?

How often would you like to have contact with Mistress?

Tell Mistress why you would be a good slave to her and why you're worth her consideration.

You Tell Him He Can’t Cum

The first time and you feel awful. It hurts you as he begs and tells you how much he needs it. As he curses and his hand shakes as you make him put his cock away. As he wheedles and tries to undermine your command and you aren’t so sure anymore this is what he wants, but you shore up and are firm and you tell him how it will be.

It turns out he loves you for it. It drives him mad. Hearing stern rules almost makes him cum on the spot untouched. Being denied fuels him in a way you can’t quite comprehend, and this first time as you fight guilt and relief in equal measure you don’t enjoy the power.

Oh but the next time… the next time you barely breathe in his direction and he’s hard? You work him up with such little effort to the point where he tells you he needs to cum, asks you to cum… and this time you deny him with a smile. This time the commands fly off your tongue. This time wonderfully evil ideas spin through your mind and sorting through to pluck only one or two this time occupies far too much of your time. You are soaked through.

It is not just a no for now. It is a no for the afternoon. It is a no for the evening. It is a no as you cum and he listens. It is a no as you send him favorite porn of his. It is a no as you let him choose what toy you will masturbate with. It is a no as others tease him. It is a no as you cum again. A world of denial coming easily, and with each no his desperation is evident, but he doesn’t fight it. He’s so grateful. Drowning in lust and hotness and your attention. Denied but not forgotten. Allowed to edge and edge so pleasure builds, if not release.

He has a time limit. A count down. He knows when his torment is set to end. That does not stop him from asking. From needing. From begging. From cursing, but with a smile. Enjoying the teasing nearly as much, if not more, than he’ll enjoy his release. That’s okay… you’ll enjoy that release enough for both of you, over and over and over.

Locktober 2018

Locktober 2018 - An introduction

My goodness, October does come around fast! Locktober was one of the things that really helped kick this blog off in 2015 and so here we are again.

So last year I spent time adding in some advanced options for those who want to try keeping their partner locked up for much, or ALL of Locktober. I still plan to put those things on the blog but over these last 12 months I’ve had many, many requests from men asking how to get their, usually ‘vanilla’ wives into the idea of exploring chastity and tease/denial games with them at all.

So this year that’s the extra focus. Some of that is going to be on the blog but as I hinted a couple of weeks ago, frankly this blog, and Tumblr as a whole is a pretty hostile environment for those not used to all this kind of stuff.

So I’m going to be offering some ideas for very low key introductions to this, and most importantly, we’re putting together an ‘offline’ version that you could get hold of, and work through with your partner, without having to get them to wade through all the other stuff Tumblr will throw at them.

We hope you think that’s a good idea. It’s something hubby and I are still finalising but we hope it’ll be useful to those into all this, not just this month, but every month! Watch out for more details on the blog.

Firstly a message to all of you for whom this is new - and well, probably a bit weird, hopefully a bit exciting too!

Let me from the bottom of my heart encourage you to give this whole tease and denial, and male chastity thing a go. I’m writing this blog because when we tried it for ourselves a few years back I would not have BELIEVED how good it would have been for our relationship.

A little about us

We’re a married couple in our 30’s, we have two kids under ten, and like most couples I think, especially after having kids, found our sex life had lost a lot of it’s ‘umpfh!’ and hubby particularly was frustrated with how it was. Me, I was mostly just tired! But we got to the stage where the kids were a little less work, and we were getting things going again when as part of some sex toy shopping hubby pointed out a cock cage and said ‘that might be interesting!’

Now, and this is important, this was a bit of a change on how things were for us. I’m pretty submissive and he’s mostly dominant - although, well we run a blog about cock cages, obviously ‘switchy’ is a definition that works for us too!

But I say that because a big part of this blog is the fact we’re focused on the benefits and fun you can have with cock caging and denial and teasing, but it’s never really about him being hugely submissive. We use the cage and tying up to explore some of those things but this is all quite based on reality, of how putting your loved one’s cock in a cage can bring out the most amazing intimacy and boost your sex life in ways I didn’t think possible.

There’s more about us in the blog and I’m sure you’ll read more throughout the month too but I hope that gives you an idea of where we’re starting from

So - Why Cock Caging?

When we got that first cage, I thought it would just be a like a toy we tried a few times and then got stuck in the drawer for occasional use, if ever.

Boy was I wrong.

Pretty much from the start we both realised that the tease and denial play, plus the caging, was having a MUCH hotter effect on our relationship than we expected. Now we’re not new to orgasm denial. We’ve always been somewhat kinky and enjoyed exploring things, although I came to the relationship a naive virgin, so hubby taught me basically everything I know. One of the ways he did that was tease and orgasm denial, on ME! Yep, I was the one not allowed to cum, kept horny and eager, and damn I loved it, and still do! And I guess it gives me a good insight into why he might like it. And sure we did teasing and a little denial on him over the years too, but somehow, the cock cage takes it all to a completely different level.

That’s part of why I’m excited about Locktober, as it’s really quite hard to describe just what an impact this can have on you. You just have to try it for yourself. And you know what, it may not work for you, and that’s okay. Come to it with an attitude of fun and being prepared to try anything a few times and you won’t go far wrong.

I thought I’d break this down into advantages for the different people involved, obviously I write as a married woman and use the terminology to match but I’m sure this would work well in other types of relationship, just figure out where you are in the mix and apply!

Let me quickly say what this isn’t - Locktober and this blog are not about creating what is called a ‘Female Led Relationship’ - sure, male chastity and cock caging can be part of that, but it’s just not what we’re interested in. Neither are we looking to make hubby submissive or humiliate him (although there is some hot teasing about some things that works for us). What this is about is exploring how the super hot experience of male orgasm denial, male chastity and keeping his cock in a cage can be a LOT of sexy fun and give you an even better relationship.

For the women

So, maybe you’re really into this already, and if so that’s great! But that’s definitely the minority of us! For most women it’s a mixture of curiosity and quite possibly some serious doubts as to whether you want to try this at all.

Let me just underline the biggest benefit we’ve seen from exploring male chastity and cock caging - it’s greater INTIMACY. Massively increased intimacy between us. To talk about sex, to be open about what we want, to spend a greatly increased time actually having sex (of sorts!), but more than that, the other stuff we love, kissing, cuddling, him touching us, being romantic, attentive, helpful.

I wrote a post sometime that if you could get this effect in a pill it’d sell in the millions!

We’ll go into what I think is behind all that further in the month but for now just try to trust me, that’s the biggest overall impact, we are much closer in so many great ways through this.

Second on the benefits, orgasms, lots of them, for us. And not just okay orgasms, I’m talking about mind blowing oral sex on a scale I didn’t think possible. And he WANTS to do this, like, asking me,desperate to go down on me at times. It’s awesome! Hubby was always okay at it, but this is in another league, and what’s even better, is it’s orgasms without guilt, without any sense of having to reciprocate because it’s often hotter if I don’t!!!

A shared secret - this is part of the intimacy but I wanted to list it separately as it’s such fun knowing he’s locked up. It makes me think about sex lots more which is great and we supplement that by having a shared private tumblr that we both post things too that is just for us. I’ll talk more about that soon.

A sex life that’ll be the envy of all your friends - if you choose to share of course, and no, my friends don’t know the cause (although my best friend knows something’s up…) but we have sex, of some kind, five or six times in a normal week. Hubby is in bed, excited to be there, most nights! And if I’m not in the mood… his cock is literally unable to do anything about it! In fact, it’s turned NOT having sex into something sexy, how great is that!

For men

So most of you guys will have been the instigators of this, it may be you’re just curious about male chastity or you are crazy into it, either way, Locktober is a great opportunity to actually initiate or takes things further with your partner.

An invigorated sex life - okay so I ended with this for the women, I’m starting with it for you lot (see how that works!). While it seems counter intuitive that locking up your cock would lead to more sex, I’m talking about more than just fucking. It’s going to force you to be more creative and look to giving her pleasure in new ways, and she will LOVE that. She’ll likely be hornier and more up for things than you’ve ever known her - once she gets used to the idea at least. And it’s also very empowering for us women to know we can say no to sex and that’s actually part of the game.

Exploring a changed dynamic - so as I said, we predominantly fit into him being the dominant sexual partner and me being the submissive one, and I still love that. But obviously caging his cock changes that to a degree. Not hugely though, for us, and this is not how everyone would do it, he still has the ultimate say in what’s happening, if he asked to be let out of the cage I probably would (although, not so definitely as a year ago). But he doesn’t ask because we both love it! And that’s why you should be doing this, because it’s working for both of you.

Now a lot of guys into this are obviously more on the submissive side, and that’s probably even easier as having your cock locked up and being made to focus on your partner’s needs will come naturally to you. Just be aware that if you are submissive it’s very easy to get carried away and want to go futher, faster, than your partner is comfortable with. So try to just encourage all she does, and look to pleasing her as your focus and you’ll find with the increased intimacy and communication you should naturally find a level of denial and chastity that works for you both. This is NOT the green flag for every one of your fantasies to immediately come true, sorry! Focus on the stuff that brings you closer - which all the Locktober tasks should, and help your partner see how great it can be for them to indulge this side of you.

For singles

Obviously this blog and Locktober are going to be written from a couple perspective, but I know we have lots of single followers too so I will try to make things accessible and useful for you guys too. Some things will work, some won’t, but that’s just the nature of this blog.

About Locktober 2018

Advice for beginners to male chastity and cock cages

  • So if you are using this Locktober series to start your exploration then firstly, well done for trying something new, that’s brilliant. Please don’t feel any pressure to follow what I suggest to the letter, just use it to inspire ideas and dip into things as you feel comfortable.
  • If you’re completely new to wearing a cage then I suggest the following sequence for using it:
  • Just try it on, outside of sex, just to see how it feels and wear it for a bit to figure out how you like it
  • Try it next with your partner during some teasing - tip you won’t get it on once you start playing so put it on FIRST and then play around and then take it off towards the end or if you’re struggling and get your reward!
  • Next try it for a day, during the day. On in the morning, teased during the day and then a session at night before it comes off.
  • Then try it for a day and a night - the nights are often the hardest, your cock will wake you up trying to get hard. Keep the ring of the cage lubed to minimise the discomfort and be prepared to take it off it if gets too bad. But you will adjust to wearing it and that will get easier.
  • And once you’ve managed a day and a night… see what works for you both. Feel free to have times with it off, maybe you only want to try it a few times a week and you can work through the locktober ideas over a longer period of time.
Then again, you may find you love it, we did! And want to escalate, and try it over Locktober as a real full on exploration. Talk to each other, figure out what works for you!

For those with some experience

So if you’re used to wearing a cage hopefully Locktober will give you some new ideas and a structure to work with to enjoy male chastity even more with your partner, and add some freshness to the whole experience. We’ll be reusing some of the ideas from last year,

The objective of Locktober is NOT necessarily complete orgasm denial. The focus as the name suggests is keeping you locked up for most of it. If you follow the ideas it will involve frequent release for tease and denial, and some of those will include ruined or full orgasm.

However if the two of you want to make it so you don’t cum at all for the whole month, agree that now and just adapt my ideas to work for you!

Note however, if you agree now that’s what you want, ONLY the woman is allowed to reverse that, and it should be with the guys agreement too (we get weak sometimes). You opt out of cumming this month and you don’t get to ask to change it :P

The FULL lockdown

For those of us who want to really challenge ourselves then Locktober The Full Lockdown is the content where the tasks and ideas have been tweaked to not let him out of his cage at all (or perhaps you just let him out at weekends, that’ll be an option too).

Okay, given all that, here are the rules for Keephimcaged’s Locktober 2018

Locktober Rules

  1. This is about having fun - if you’re not enjoying it, talk about it and fix it so you are!
  2. If in doubt, lock it up - if the choice comes for you to let him stay out or to lock him up, by default you are to cage his cock unless you have a good reason not to
  3. Be flexible - my ideas are just suggestions, feel free to adapt to what works for you and maybe to reschedule if the timing just isn’t working out
  4. She cums, every day - that’s the objective, while he is caged and denied, the other side of the coin is the woman is to cum or be made to cum every day - we want to build that as a good habit!
  5. No masturbating without permission - the man is not allowed to masturbate himself in or out of the cage
  6. No cumming unless you say so - unless you say he can cum he is not allowed, even if you are the cause of it! It’s HIS fault (lol).
  7. All unauthorised orgasms must be ruined (be strict on this!) and if you want even stricter you can agree in advance he has to eat it too. (Yep, kinda gross but the concept turns a lot of guys on - before they actually cum, and it’s a genuine disincentive for them to go over - but if you agree it you have to make them do it or it’s pointless).

Necessary Equipment

You will need a cock cage! You can read our recommendations here

A good lube for wanking him with

Some kind of restraints to use in bed (you can just try it with silk scarves but the velcro strap ones are great and so easy to use.

Optional extras

A strap on if you want to explore having sex with him still caged

Butt plugs can be fun too, but very optional

Cock rings are very useful for keeping him hard and sensitive

As you can see we recommend toys from our own favourite online toy store, Lovehoney. We do get a small commission from them, if you object to that, please feel free to not use our links - we’d recommend them anyway. The big factor is they offer 365 day free returns so you’re trying all this stuff risk free. Don’t like it, or discover this isn’t for you? Send it back, used, yes used! for a full refund. So cool!

Health and safety

The ideas here are things that work for us but please be sensible and adapt to your situation and medical requirements. Especially if you’re new to caging just take a cautious approach and don’t overdo it. If you’re feeling any pain or discomfort that isn’t from the obvious cause of trying to get hard in a cage or achey balls from not cumming then do something about it. This is meant to be fun, not cause problems.

Besides that, I recommend you both go for a serious pubic haircut. If you want the best from his oral skills then you should get rid of most hair around your pussy (you can leave your normal pubes, they don’t get in the way). His should be cut very short, especially with a plastic cage to avoid trapped hairs causing pain. You can try getting him to shave too if you fancy it. Shaved balls are much more fun to play with in my opinion.

Plastic cages need removal and cleaning pretty much every day to stay fresh in our experience. Metal cages just need a shower and hose down, with maybe a weekly removal and spray and scrub with a sex toy cleaner for any nooks and crannies.

So, that’s about it now, I shall post the first Locktober task in a bit, a simple tease and denial as it was last year, to get things going.

I’d love any feedback, including hearing how things are going or questions, and I’ll do my best to get back to them as fast as possible.

If you are a woman denying her partner and you want some help then please feel free to email me at keephimcaged@gmail.com if you’re struggling or just need some encouragement. There’s a group of us now who I chat with and it’s just nice to have some others to do that with. Guys, please don’t use that email, it’s not for you,and yes if you pretend to be a woman I can tell, it’s very obvious.

Enjoy Locktober and of course, and keep him caged!

Jane

Little daily things you can do to make Her feel superior

1. Be respectful
2. Address Her by Her preference (eg Ma’am, Mommy, Mistress, Ellie, etc etc etc etc)
3. Be ultra polite (please, thank you, ask for permission)
4. Ask Her for Her opinion on your clothes and dress accordingly
5. Be Her enthusiastic fuck doll (who never says no)
6. Clean for Her
7. Cook for Her (bonus points for cooking for Her tastes and not your own)
8. Bring Her drinks and food when She’s relaxing
9. Cook and serve Her as many meals as possible
10. Wake Her up with cunilingus
11. Edge daily to remain hard and eager
12. Do not cum unless She tells you to
13. Send Her random nudes and sexts every day
14. Look your best for Her (styling yourself for HER preference)
15. Compliment Her every day
16. Tell Her how hard and horny She makes you
17. Thank Her after She uses you
18. Don’t begin or encourage arguments; She is always right
19. Don’t complain
20. Don’t nag
21. Massage Her
22. Care deeply for Her and make it obvious to all
23. Strip for Her and give Her lap dances (like Magic Mike)
24. Never move away if She wants to touch you (eg public)
25. Always make sure cleanup after yourself when you cum no matter where it lands.
26. Buy Her presents
27. Don’t talk back

CHASTITY AND ORGASM CONTROL - THE 28 DAY CYCLE METHOD

After a number of years keeping my husband in permanent chastity I have reached the conclusion best results can be achieved when my husband’s chastity cycle is designed to coincide with my menstrual cycle. Why I didn’t figure this out earlier god only knows - it’s a complete revelation and has significantly improved our relationship for the better.

I allow my husbands full release - i.e. orgasm ( and therefore start of a new cycle for him) to occur at day 24 of my menstrual cycle. During day 24 to 28 of my cycle, in the days before my period, I feel least like sex and my husbands whining is most likely to annoy me.

Between day 24 to 28 of my cycle ( Day 1-4 of his ) I allow him to cum as much as he likes, in fact i demand it. Whilst it might seem counter-intuitive in a female led relationship, ideally your husband should be cumming at least 5 times a day during this period. He will find this hard at the start. He will not be used to cumming without your permission, he will be low on sexual energy after his 28 day orgasm and you will have to be strict with him to make sure that he hits his daily 5 cums a day target. He has had the belt from me a number of times over the last 6 months for failure to do so. This is the only time that i don’t expect my husband to eat his cum for me, although you can still demand this if you wish. You can supervise his masturbation or just get him to come and show you the proof that he has ejaculated - A humiliating idea is to buy him a little bowl that he has to cum in or alternatively make him cum in a condom. What is important is that you give his balls a good work out.

You want to kick start them into sperm production overload, so that when you finally lock him up on day 5 of his cycle ( day one of my menstrual cycle ) he will quickly reach his POMCI ( period of maximum courtship investment.) - There is a good article explaining this on the dreamloverlabs.com site.

POMCI is the point of maximum obedience, the point where your male is most sexually frustrated and most willing to serve. Once this point has been reached, provided you maintain a daily tease and denial session, there is no significant drop off and his level of sexual frustration will be maintained until to the point of his next full orgasm. Day 5 ( lock up day ) will be particularly frustrating for your male. As he has cum so much in days 1-4 his dopamine levels will be very low and his prolactin levels high. Consequently he is likely to resist to wanting to go back into chastity. A good way around this is to make him wear a set on handcuffs on one wrist during an extended tease and denial session at the start of day 5 before lock up. When you have finished tell him to put his chastity cuff on. Until the chastity device goes on the cuffs don’t come off - a very simple an effective technique to getting his compliance and getting his penis safely locked up.

Most males will reach their POMCI point within 9 -12 days of being denied an orgasm. Through my technique of forced masturbation and ejaculation during days 1-4 of his cycle I have managed to cut my husbands POMCI point down to 8 days after lock-up, so he reaches this point around day 12 of his cycle.

My period has normally finished by day 6 of my cycle and i am ready to have him start to provide me with oral service. Day 6 of my cycle is day 10 of his so by this point he is more than eager to “be a good boy” and provide me all the service I require.

I normally feel horniest during days 8 -16 of my cycle and then there is a slow tail off until around day 20 when I start to prepare for my next period and my desire for sex is low.

Let’s compare this to his cycle. Day 8 of my cycle is day 12 of his, so marvellously my desire for sex directly coincides with his POMCI point or the point of his maximum sexual frustration and willingness to serve. I then have 12 days ( days 8 - 20 of my cycle ) of an obedient, sexually compliant male giving me all the sex i crave with out complaint and additionally a male who is willing to do all the household chores that I give him.

Normally around day 14 of his cycle I will give him a prostate milking with an Aneros prostate massager ( there are lots of articles around detailing how you can do this this - Lady Lubyanka’s technique is the best on the web IMO.) If you do this properly you will clean his pipes without reducing any of his sexual frustration or desire to serve. You must absolutely ensure that you only milk him rather than allow him to cum. If you always insist on your hubby eating his cum as I do apart from during day 1-4 of his cycle ( although I sometimes do that as well LOL ) you will be able tell if his has cum i.e. had a full orgasm. Milked husbands and boyfriends eat up all their cum without any complaint, whilst males who have cum will often resist.

This will take him through to day 28 of his cycle, day 24 of mine and a full release. I always try to make his release session nice and humiliating for him - After all he’s earned it. A good pegging session followed by flipping his legs above his head and jerking 28 days worth of frustration on his face normally does the trick.

I hope you find this technique useful. Its taken me nearly five years of trial and error to get to this point of understanding how to manage my husbands chastity cycle to my best advantage. If you use this method I promise you that your relationship will be all the stronger and that you will have a well trained and obedient male.

Those little things subs do that absolutely drive us doms insane - in a very good way - and turn us on way more than you can imagine

  1. The innocent smile they gift you with after you thought you brought them to their limit, that smile that says “Ah but I’m still good, why not continue, pretty please?”
  2.  Every single time they got enough courage to ask or beg for something they really, really want, and they still turn bright red when you grin at them for being so sweet
  3. When they’re very, very desperate to be dominated, because of hormones or something else, and they subtly try to provoke you and turn on your dom mode
  4.  Drooling
  5.  Being so eager to touch you in a session where they were tied up or not allowed to lay a single finger on you for the most time
  6. Moaning/whining/screaming/whispering your title
  7.  When you ask them if they want to be a good little slut/fucktoy/whore for you, and they just nod instantly and very eager, sometimes combined with a “Yes, very”
  8.  Showing off how well behaved they are by going down to their knees without getting asked to do it
  9.  Thanking you for bruises, hickeys, bite marks or any other kind of mark that you caused during a session
  10.  “Can I please taste you? Please, please”
  11.  Confidently teasing you
  12.  Shyly teasing you
  13.  T e a s i n g
  14.  Softly trying to fight back when you’ve tied them up because they want you to push them down harder and show them their place
  15.  Being so, so, so well behaved when they really want to be rewarded
  16.  Puppy eyes
  17.  Initiating a session themselves by coming into the room naked, or wearing lingerie, or wearing their collar
  18.  Showing you things they saw online that are very fucking hot because they really want to try them
  19.  Wiggling their butt when they want to be spanked
  20. “I’ve been really naughty, you have to punish me”
  21. Starting to touch themselves in front of you without permission to get your attention and turn you on
  22.  Biting or scratching you when you’re fucking them real good
  23.  Smiling at you innocently when they provoked you and you asked them if they’ll behave from now on or need a reminder who they’re talking to instead.