Contract for Male Chastity and Female Domination

Contract:
I, Submissive husband to Dominate wife, agree that I will be locked into the chastity cage for an indefinite time. I understand that my wife, i.e. Queen, Mistress, will keep and control all keys to the lock the device. My Keyholder controls my chastity freedom and confinement.

Attitude

1. He will exercise regularly, keep himself maliciously manscaped, always be well groomed and be impeccably dressed.
2. He will aggressively show my friends his endearing respect and worship of his Queen.
3. He will never be disrespectful to me, my friends or other women.
4. He will address me as Mistress or Queen. He is only allowed to call me darling or sweetheart when it is not possible to use my declared title.
5. He will put my needs before his needs.
6. He will not swear or raise his voice to me or use foul language.
7. He will listen and not turn away or interrupt me when I am speaking to him.
8. He will be openly honest and truthful to me.
9. He will not disregard any request I have made.
10. He will not try to change or amend plans that I have made. He can offer suggestions and advice but when I have told him that my decision is made, it is final.

Chores

He will be proactive in carrying out his core chores around the house, cooking, cleaning bathrooms, vacuuming, washing dishes, washing clothes and ironing, taking out the trash. These are his domestic duties and he will do them to a high standard and without needing to be reminded. He will make sure he does his chores before he has personal time.

Sexual

1. He will not beg, pout, or whine for sexual attention.
2. He will wear his cock cage at all times unless given permission to remove.
3. He will keep himself manscaped including face, chest, and all private parts.
4. He will be 100% monogamous to me.
5. He will be open, without question to ALL of my sexual needs.
6. He will clean before submitting to the strapon.
7. He cannot cum without permission.
8. He will always swallow his cum, unless I give him permission.
9. He will be respectful and accommodating with my playmates and will, at her wish, provide the Keyholder with whatever sexual gratification she desires, whenever she desires it, without any hesitation of any kind as long as it is not dangerous, hurtful, or severely unlawful.
10. The Keyholder is under no obligation to allow my sexual pleasure.

Review and Punishment

His performance in following these rules will be monitored and evaluated regularly. General performance below an expected standard or specific incidents of rudeness or disobedience will result in punishment. As Queen, I will determine the punishment, humiliation, public voyeurism, extension to time in chastity, or any other punishment of my choosing.

As always Happy Fetish!

The 10 Rules For Enforced Chastity (Men In Panties!)

In a Femdom led domestic discipline household the topic of enforced chastity may raise its head. So to speak. Any Fem Dom will have her own ideas about rules, but here my rules.

10 Commandments of Compulsory Chastity

1. As your owner owns every part of you she is entitled to determine which bits are used and when. Your owner therefore has the right to secure your genitals in any sort of chastity device of her choosing whenever she likes and for whatever period she likes.
2. Your owner does not require any reason or justification to lock you in a chastity device. The fact that she wants to is reason enough.Whether you do or don’t want her to is irrelevant
3. You may not attempt to remove or circumvent any device with which you owner fits you. You are obliged to co-operate with your owner in the fitting of the device, help her in the securing of your genitals and draw her attention to any shortcomings in the functioning of the device so that she may ensure that it performs as she intends.
4. You must keep yourself clean and well cared for in that area so that wearing of the device is not impeded on health grounds and you can continue to be locked up for as long as she wants. This includes submitting to prostate milking to keep you clean internally.
5. Your owner has locked up your genitals to deprive you of the ability to play with yourself, attain erection or orgasm. They are no longer there for your pleasure: they’re for hers. You’re just carrying them around for her. If trying to get erect causes you discomfort, then don’t do it.
6. You are obliged to keep your owner informed of your experiences in wearing your device. You should look at and touch the locked up area regularly to remind yourself of what you used to be able to use and enjoy, which she has locked away from you. Let her know how that makes you feel. She enjoys hearing about your suffering.
7. Your owner is entitled to tease you about your lack of ability to attain an erection or gain any satisfaction. She has taken it away from you and wants to enjoy it. She can get satisfaction whenever she wants: you can’t. Tough. She probably finds that amusing.
8. You are not entitled to have your neutered status kept secret. If she wants to show off your condition, she can. Her friends will probably find it amusing too.
9. Your owner is entitled to stimulate you whether by exposure to erotic material, direct contact or otherwise so that she can enjoy the fact you gain only discomfort, not pleasure from it. It’s funny.
10. You should take pleasure in the fact that your owner takes the time to control the use of her property and happy that it gives her some amusement. You should always thank her for securing you in chastity and let her know how grateful you are to have your genitals locked up under her control. You should always be happy if she decides to extend your time in chastity and tell her how much you like to continue being emasculated.

Breaking the limits, or Pavlovian effect in practice

Everyone has their limits. What to do when the Mistress has desires that are the limits of her slave, and if a slave to the beginning of the serviceclearly indicated that it does not accept? Dominant woman in such a case may force him to change his mind. How do to slave liked the action, which at first did not accept? We are helped by science and controlorgasms! Suffice us two months to slave not only accepted, but also likedsomething that previously was his limit. How to do it? It’s simple! We have to teach him that he liked it!

At this point I quote wikipedia:

Classical conditioning (also Pavlovian effect or respondentconditioning) is a process of behavior modification in which an innate response to a potent biological stimulus becomes expressed in response to a previously neutral stimulus; this is achieved by repeated pairings of the neutral stimulus and the potent biological stimulus that elicits the desired response.

Why do we need this knowledge? Pavlov experimented with control of the behavior of their dogs. The dominant woman can also experimentwith her human dog. This dog has a weak point with which a woman can control it. It’s his brain – this, of course, between his legs. Let’s use it!

Pavlov effect in short is to reward desired behaviors. After several repetitions of the brain creates an association between the reward and the desired behavior. We just need time and patience. In the original experiment, Pavlov run sound, which dazzled the dogs shock. After ten such repetitions enough to run the the sound itself, the dog began to behave as if he was struck by shock. The reaction was triggered sound itself. Of course, we do not offend anyone shock, we reward for appropriate behavior. In the case of sexual desires we have a much more powerful.

A simple example:

We make it our slave penis becomes hard when you slap him. Automatically and immediately. How to do it? This will help us control his orgasm, because orgasm is the greatest reward for a slave. With this knowledge, you can control the desires of your slave.

1. Command him to live in celibacy. Chastity belt? A total ban on sex and the prohibition of masturbation.
2. After a few weeks, let him masturbate only when you slap him in the face.
3. Let him for a few orgasms. Repeat the process for a month. At this time, the brain form a connection. Slapping creates a permanent association with sexual pleasure.
4. If all you’ve done well, then simply slap him, and his penis becomes hard immediately. This is precisely the effect of Pavlov.

An extreme example:

I have to honestly say that I write this reluctantly. Example, that I am going to describe, it’s my hard limit. I do not feel the pleasure of thinking about it, and it is for me a type of BDSM practice, which now I would not agree. On the other hand, it excites me when I realize that a woman can do what she wants. And that means that I agree to the fact that my queen could change me and my desires with the help of this method. It scares me, who do I need to become (And what I would have done), but the power of women, which I let do it, it would be total, and nothing excites me more than a woman with a total power. I would prefer that our interests were similar. But I can not force her to quit something, what she really wants. In Femdom relation I’m the one who has to adapt.

Extreme example: Let’s change that slave in a full–toilet. Let’s try to make it eat shit, and was happy with it. If a slave has big resistances, like me, you need a little more time. You must also work in stages.

1. Command him to live in celibacy. Chastity belt? A total ban on sex and the prohibition of masturbation.
2. After a few weeks, let him masturbate only when you sit on the toilet and defecation. Put his head between your thighs and let them look.After a few weeks, if he’s after something like this will have an orgasm several times, go to the next step.
3. Now use his tongue as toilet paper. Allow him to masturbate only whenhe licks your dirty ass. After a few of his orgasms in this role, you can go to the next step.
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5. If all you did well, you can now use his mouth full. Several times let himmasturbate while he eats your scat. Especially at the beginning. After such brainwashing you change your slave in a real toilet. At the end of this procedure he even starts to like it.

Pavlov effect in combination with forced celibacy and control orgasmscan work wonders. Make use of these methods carefully. Utilise this method only for slaves, who gave you heart and soul.

A slave – the best gift for your wife

Why you should consider employment of a slave to your wife? Stranger in the house that will serve your woman? Sounds weird. But in reality, you do not have to be afraid. A slave could have closed the penis in a chastity belt. Your wife does not need to touch it at all. A slave has no right to expect that!

With a slave under the feet of your wife, her loyalty would be safe. If your job requires frequent travel, and the wife at home bored, misses you, then the slave is the perfect thing to help her survive the time of separation. The relationship between your wife and the slave will never be equal to the relationship between you and her. A slave will always be lower in the hierarchy.

Your wife will be able to use a slave to satisfy their needs. A slave will have to lick her pussy, her ass and her feet – something you do not have to do. A slave is here living vibrator. There will never be her lover! Only you can have sex with your own wife! Your wife will never want to have sex with someone whom she can urinate into the mouth, right? She will never be treated as a real man guy who at her command would bewilling to eat her excrement and drink her urine, and thank her for this honor.

Your wife will be able to beat a slave. She will be able to bully him, humiliate him, slapping, spitting, cursing. Such a slave can be a perfect punching bag, which your wife will be able to transfer his anger.

If you want, you can arrange it so that you will not even have to see the slave. He may live in the closet of her shoes, or her private bathroom. A slave can go there only when you are not at home! Excellent toy that can be locked in the closet when it is not needed.

A slave will be cleaning the house, cooking, doing laundry, so your wife will have more time for yourself. Your wife will be delighted such an arrangement!

A slave will also take care of her appearance. Manicure, pedicure, shaving legs, massaging the body, creaming body, help with dressing, Shoe Shine, wiping after exiting the shower, assistance with bathing. Your wife will always look perfect when you come back.


A slave does not have to be expensive. He can eat the leftover food. You can hire him as a servant to the agreement, if the law of your country so require, however, a slave can give back your wife all the money earnedin this way.

Do you want to make a gift to your wife? Bring her slave!

My Expectations & Chores

Expectations
To be followed at all times

1. How often may the submissive partner argue? If the submissive partner desires something it may be requested. If something is strongly desired, it may be argued for. However, if it is denied more than four times, the answer is no.
2. What contact of a sexual nature can be asked for by the submissive partner? A kiss, holding hands, and casual contact may all be requested by the submissive partner. Do not ask for any contact more sexual in nature than a kiss, as that is a gift, not an option. Questions will always be phrased respectfully and eloquently – “Kiss me?” will not be an acceptable question.
3. What acts may the submissive partner initiate? What acts must be asked for? Light casual contact is acceptable in moderation. However, the submissive partner must request casual contact a majority of the time. Casual contact is defined as follows: including but not limited to joining the dominant partner in bed, cuddling, or holding hands.
4. How shall the submissive partner be treated in public? In public, the submissive partner will be treated like a woman, unless punishment has been deemed necessary or her actions require otherwise.
5. How is the dominant/submissive relationship defined? The submissive partner is the property of the dominant partner, and will do as requested without exception, but will be treated well.
6. What will the submissive partner tell the dominant partner? The submissive partner will always be transparent. Dreams will be shared each morning without being asked for and other concerns will be raised as necessary. Nervousness or embarrassment will not stand as acceptable excuses for not sharing.

To be followed when in an active dominant/submissive nature

1. When will the relationship exist in a dominant/submissive nature? The relationship will exist in a submissive/dominant nature at the dominant partner’s discretion.
2. To what extent will the dominant partner have control over the submissive partner’s apparel? Clothes are a free point, but the right is reserved by the dominant partner to edit, censor, or entirely recreate outfit choices.
3. How should the submissive partner address the dominant partner? When making a request, the language used will be formal in nature, at all times, regardless of current activity. Conversation may be lighter in nature. The dominant partner shall always be referred to as ma’am.
4. In what ways may the submissive partner be punished? Punishment will never be overly painful or extremely intense in nature, however, punishment is left at the ultimate discretion of the dominant partner. (Outlined on the “Punishments” page)
5. What are the provisions for a safe word? The safe word to be used is vanilla. It is not to be used on the first feeling of pain, as occasionally, pain is intended. However, if the submissive partner truly feels at harm, the safe word may be enacted.

Chores
(written by the Dominant)

At All Times

1. Daily – Bed made, laundry kept tidy, dirty clothes in the hamper, all surfaces kept clean (table, counters), care for body, eating healthy.
2. Weekly – On Mondays, clean the bathroom. On Fridays, dust all surfaces. 30 minutes of cardio (Monday, Wednesday, Friday, more if desired), Errands (at the Dominant’s request).

When With Mistress

1. Chores – Make the bed, laundry (organized, put in hamper, washed if needed), straighten the room (organize the Dominant’s books, art supplies, etc), clean/sterilize any toys used, do any homework that you have (should be done before the Dominant’s return home), other errands upon request.
2. Services – the Dominant’s drink shall never be empty, get up for anything (extra blanket, pencil, answer the door). The submissive will sit at the Dominant’s feet unless invited otherwise. The submissive will service the Dominant every night before bed to orgasm.

Punishment Protocol & Application

Punishment Protocol

1. Punishment will not be conducted while the Dominant is angry
2. Before administering punishment, the submissive will have an opportunity to explain her actions. If she feels that no rules have been broken/she does not deserve punishment, the wrongdoing will be explained as well as why the action was done. – It is no use punishing someone who doesn’t feel that they should be punished. 
3. As well as the action, the type of punishment will also be discussed. Ideally, at this point, the submissive will understand why she deserves the particular type of punishment, as well as why it’s as severe/gentle as it is. – This will never break any hard boundaries and is always for the benefit of the submissive.
4. Consistency is important, I must give exactly what is agreed to as well as keeping punishment consistent with the infraction.
5. As soon as punishment is completed, everything is forgotten. Punishments absolve all guilt. The submissive, at this point, must forgive herself as well.

Forms of Punishment

1. Pain – Immediate response, well practiced and controlled. However, this runs the risk of associating an unpleasant punishment with an activity that was previously enjoyed. Be aware of the consequences.
2. Humiliation – Important to remember that from this type of punishment, the submissive must gain, not be damaged. Make sure she comes out of the punishment knowing she’s served it opposed to feeling worthless.
3. Denial – Self-explanatory. New methods must be created because denial is translated as pleasure when it comes to sexual endeavors.

Types of Punishment – Organized by Level of Infraction, With Examples

1. Repeatedly pestering about something/forgetting “ma’am”. Withdrawl of Dominant influence (ignore for a period of time), a simple “bad girl” or other directional influence, spanking.
2. Improper question phrasing. Prolonged nudity, writing assignments (notes, essay, sentences), standing in the corner (degrees of severity can be applied).
3. Kissing or touching without permission. Holding an uncomfortable position, kneeling (can be made more severe with rice), denial of furniture.
4. Approaching without permission; cuddling or joining in bed. Watch the Dominant complete your chores, flogging, food restrictions.
5. Not following through on instructions, poorly done chores, not being silent. Speech restrictions, denial of technology, a specific unpleasant chore (washing the walls, scrubbing the floor with a toothbrush). UPDATE: not referring to Mistress as ma’am has now become a Level 5 infraction.
6. Orgasm without permission. Grounding, dominant expressing anger, repeating the infraction over and over (orgasm without permission, spilling a drink).
7. Slight public disobedience, acting as an equal. Sleeping on the floor, clothing restrictions, cold shower.
8. Medium public disobedience, failing to orgasm on command. Removing the option of teasing or denial of orgasm (other privileges), solitary confinement, requiring the dominant orgasm for every orgasm the submissive receives.
9. Severe public disobedience, shame to Dominant, not pleasuring the Dominant. Denial of kissing even if other sexual acts occur, denial of simple casual contact, short or medium term length suspension of all the submissive’s rights.
10. Blatant or intentional disregard for rules or instructions. Financial penalties (watching the Dominant pay for things the submissive takes pride in), taking away markings the submissive enjoys to wear, denial to please the Dominant at all.

Non-debatable:
– Lecture for levels 2-5
– Corporal punishment 5-8
– Public apology 8-10
– Create your own punishment

Punishment Application:

1. Punishment for repeatedly forgetting to address Mistress as ma’am. Five paragraph, three page essay completed, as well as a written apology. Very effective, as the subjects required me to consider how I can better serve Mistress.
2. Punishment for intentional disregard for Mistress’ instructions. Loss of training collar (bracelet) for half an hour. Very effective, as the half hour was almost unbearable without my collar.
3. Punishment for repeated pestering regarding being allowed to orgasm. Required to complete dishwashing and light tidying while wearing nipple clamps. Very effective, as when I needed to reach for something, my nipples were strained. The chain kept getting caught on the sink as well.
4. Punishment for refusal to obey “heel”. Required to remove training collar (bracelet) until Mistress returned from her errand.
5. Punishment for repeated pestering regarding being allowed to orgasm. Mistress ignored me for a period of time.

10 Chastity / Forced denial Benefits.

I’ve listed what i consider to be the 10 most positive things you can gain from Chastity or any form of long term or forced denial.

1. It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you - and lying to you by default. Even if your man is only thinking about you when he has fun alone he is lowering his testosterone which should be built up so he can please you better and more frequently. 
2. Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms and more massages per week than you’ve ever had before. 
3. Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each others needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and forced denial can help any couple improve their natural bonding not to mention will make him more attentive, passionate and caring. 
4. His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger, usually he will last longer in bed too because cumming alone they do it in a few minutes and get used to that, after chastity I’ve seen men that could only go 5 minutes last a half hour after some training being locked up, this does not apply to all men but I’ve definitely seen mens duration improve from denial. 
5. You’ll never have to worry about him cheating on you. Face it - most men, no matter how much they love their girlfriends, can’t turn down an opportunity with another woman you’re likely never to find out about. Male chastity makes it impossible for him to act on these urges, this enforced that he remain faithful. This is perfect if you’re in a long distance relationship it also ensures he stays locked up thinking about you for days at a time eager to please. 
6. The romance will improve in your relationship. As long as he knows he can have cum any time he wants, there’s no reason for him to romance you. That’s why the romance stopped after awhile. By limiting his sexual access to you, you’ll train him to be the romantic lover he was when you were still dating. 
7. You’ll never have to put effort into pleasing him ( blowjobs, handjobs ). Of course, you can if you want to; but he’ll be quite happy with any sort of release / stimulation, you could give him a single lick and he would thank you for it ( well, he better ;) its good to use these things against him, teasing is just as important as denial. they go hand in hand. 
8. Your friends will compliment you on what a wonderful, attentive boyfriend you have. They will be jealous of your strong, committed relationship. No man is as ideal as one constantly denied. 
9. He’ll become much more helpful around the house. Knowing that the only way he can get the release his body craves so badly is by pleasing you, he’ll actually volunteer to do the dishes, clean the bathroom and make the bed every morning. Won’t that be nice? 
10. He’ll feel better about himself. Most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks!). But, they are slaves to their libido and can’t help themselves. It’s an addiction. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can’t control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he’ll feel proud of his self-control and behave more like a man who releases his sexuality into his girlfriend, instead of down the shower drain.

In summary, you will get a lot more pleasure in any way you want, and he will be stuck in a state of arousal that keeps him addicted to you more then he could have been before, he will do more chores, he will be more attentive, passionate, loving, last longer, be eager to please you, and will never cheat.