Real Sadism, Real Suffering

Hours? Days? of Suffering

You have said:

1. I want a cruel Mistress.
2. I deserve to suffer at the hands of a merciless Domme because I am male and hence inferior.
3. Women have the right to torment men just for fun.

Perhaps not those words but others that express the same sentiments.

Finally, you win the attention of a sadistic woman whose greatest pleasure is consensual erotic cruelty.

You refuse a safeword.

You set a date, meet her and she takes you to the place she thinks of as her dungeon.
You take off your clothing, stand before her naked and vulnerable.
Mistress ties you up. Now you are helpless. She is ready to begin.

You would scream if she had not gagged you. That pain was from nipple clamps. They remain on for a long as you are in her dungeon. She will remove and reposition the clamps. Spasms of pain follow each removal and reattachment.

She likes to whip and beat men. She has so many whips and canes, and corporal punishment implements you have never heard of. Like that deadly cane made from the branch of a rose tree.

Each pain toy lands with a thud or sting unique to it. Mistress knows how to orchestrate a session like this. How to organize and modulate a man’s suffering.
She is unhurried. She pauses to admire the red streaks on your body. She listens to your heavy breathing and moaning. You have made her happy.

Tormenting a man is hard work. Mistress takes periodic breaks. Each time you sigh with relief believing the session ended. She knows this and laughs at you. In your ear, she whispers a reminder that you forego having a safe word. She gives you sardonic thanks for that.

You have suffered for hours now. Mistress has hours more for you.
Suddenly she stops. Her bladder is full. She showers you with her hot piss.
But she does not let you go.

Mistress will take a nap. When she returns your tortured nerves will suffer yet more.
Maybe she will stop hurting you one day.

Femdom Total Power Exchange

His life’s fulfillment is in complete surrender to a woman’s will. He becomes her property to use as she wishes. Only in absolute selflessness will he be happy. His trust is unbounded. Her discipline is for his own good and their mutual pleasure.

He requires the pain she administers as much as he does air. He worships her cruelty.

His Mistress loves him for offering his body for her enjoyment. Her use is hard, but measured. Nothing she does to her slave man will take him beyond recovery.

Nipple Rings

Nipple rings make a great body modification for any slave man.

Attaching nipple rings to a frame or wall using elastic bands will add to the torment of a whipping or any sort of sadomasochistic Femdom play.

The nipple rings can be attached to the O-ring on the slave’s collar. Too much head movement will cause pain.

The nipple rings stay on even when the slave is dressed. In a public place a what looks like a caress will make the slave flinch with pain.

Ask your Mistress for nipple rings today.

Guidelines for Femdom Slave Men - Humanity & Mindfulness

I was skimming through lists of rules for consensual slavery. I may write about some of them later. I thought I’d try dashing out my own list.

My list ignores distinctions like whether the role is submissive or slavish. Lifestyle, intermittent or for play partners. I tried to concentrate it into what might be called core values. Or my sense of what is common to the full spectrum of D/s relationships.

I’m not claiming that my list is definitive (indeed I tried to keep it open ended). As physicists say it is a thought experiment.

Written in a F/m framework only because all of the others weren’t. Limited to ten rules by design. Order is arbitrary.

Your quibbles, additions are as always invited.

1. A slave must be honest from the moment he begins communicating with a dominant woman. Never lie about relationships, experience level or anything else.
2. A slave will seek to understand want he wants and needs and to know the difference between the two.
3. A slave needs to realize some fantasies will never be more than just that. And that some of his fetishes may not strike a responsive chord within her.
4. A slave has a duty to act as an intelligent human being.
5. A slave repays a dominant woman’s attention with respect, humility and obedience. This is inherent in the nature of the relationship.
6. A slave always communicates his feelings as clearly as possible.
7. If the slave feels that his needs aren’t being met he will confess that respectfully without seeming to make demands.
8. A slave will watch to see if his dominant woman is tired or not feeling well and focus on her comfort, not on having a session.
9. A slave should never think of a dominant woman as a torture and humiliation machine. That is objectifying her.
10. A slave will remember that D/s is a relationship between people. He will strive to never forget that the dominant woman is a human being. That regardless of the power relationship thoughtless behavior on his part can inflict emotional hurt on the other person.

Civility, honesty and honor sum it up.

Rules for Femdom Submales By Mistress Christianna

1. The submale must always practice traditional courtesy which men have shown Women in polite society, whether in private or public. Stand when She enters the room. Sit (or kneel) as soon as She is seated.

2. Be totally attentive: open doors, wait at table so that She begins eating first, always ask permission to leave Her presence.

3. The submale should never speak unless spoken to, or unless anticipating the needs of his Mistress.

4. The submissive will never sit with legs spread or slouch in a way typical of untrained males. Good posture and decorum is a sign of respect.

5. The submale will never stare at a Woman without Her permission. Unless the Woman seeks eye-contact, the submissive will keep his eyes lowered at all times.

6. When walking with his Mistress, or any Woman, the submissive will keep his gait in step with hers, which usually means taking smaller steps. The submale should always be at least a step behind; but not too far, because he must open all doors.

7. Respect is shown by a submissive as long as he never fails to forget his lowly role in life. The submissive must always be pleasant, never argue and never pout.

THE submale’s NAME
8. The submale should be given a new name by his Mistress to symbolize his submissive state. If the submale is a sissy, it should be a feminine name. Other names may be “made up” words that sound humiliating or which are amusing or pleasing to the Mistress; for example, names typical of pet dogs or cats.

THE submale’s BODY
9. A submale surrenders control to his Mistress. He surrenders control of his body, how he spends his time, how he dresses, what he eats, where he sleeps, the friends or acquaintances he is allowed to keep. In all aspects, the Mistress controls the submale.

10. Because a submale’s purpose is to please his Mistress, more than anything else She owns, he must learn to control his response to sexual stimulation for the greater enjoyment of his Mistress. his orgasm is the only that the submale has left to control for himself. Failure to control his orgasm is disobedience. Disobedience requires punishment.

11. If the Mistress prefers simply to torment the submale and deny him release, then the submale must control himself to provide Her than pleasure. He must dedicate himself to abstinence and thank his Mistress humbly for removing the pleasure of ejaculation, thus allowing him to dedicate his lost pleasure to Her.

12. If the Mistress demands satisfaction through sexual intercourse, the submale must be able to control effectively his own orgasm so that it is timed to the pleasure of his Mistress. His purpose is not to please himself but to please Her.

13. In all cases, the submale must remember that his orgasm does not belong to him — his orgasm belongs to his Mistress. It is Hers to use, however she sees fit.

14. The submale should be as clean-shaven as the Mistress requires: from the top of his head to his toes, body hair should be present only if the Mistress allows it.

15. The submale may wear long hair, styled to imitate the superior styles of Women, only if the Mistress permits.

16. The submale may never touch his own genitals without the permission of his Mistress. When washing, he must use a washcloth or brush, never his hands.

17. The submale will allow himself to be pierced or tattooed as required by his Mistress, if safely and professionally done.

PERSONAL PROPERTY
18. The submale is the personal property of the Mistress. his possessions are Her possessions.

19. The submissive should always be saving to purchase “big ticket” items that his Mistress wants to buy. This means the submale is always on a strict allowance, kept by his Mistress.

CLOTHING
20. Feminization is training in submission. Wearing items of Feminine attire separates the submissive from and puts him outside of the world of the macho male. Wearing feminine attire doesn’t make the male like a Woman; this is impossible.

21. Standard attire is pink or white panties, an extra-absorbent pad (normally used by those suffering from incontinence), and panty hose worn under male clothing.

22. Whether a woman knows what the submissive is wearing or not, feminization pushes the submissive closer to the company of women and away from the company of men. This is good for the submale, because it creates greater opportunities for him to be of help to Women, to serve them, and to model his behavior on their own superior behavior.

23. Feminine items can also be used as punishment — corsets, girdles and foundations. These should be selected by the Mistress for maximum discomfort.

24. If the submale is a sissy or TV, very feminine clothing should be reserved for rewards; drudge clothing — plain white panties, plain lingerie, housecoats, aprons, etc. — should be required as normal attire.

25. The submale should never buy his own clothing without the guidance of his Mistress. He should buy what pleases her, not what he likes.

HEALTH & HYGIENE
26. The submissive will use only Feminine hygiene products: soaps, shampoos, lotions, deodorants, etc. and will be clean and properly groomed at all times.

27. The submale will submit to enemas, or self-administer enemas, on demand by the Mistress.

28. When urinating, the submale will always sit on the toilet; no exceptions.

29. For good health, the submissive will enroll in a dance aerobics class. As an alternative, the submale will prepare his own dance aerobics routine and perform it for his Mistress for Her amusement.

30. The submale must diet as required to maintain a correct weight for his height and should drink at least six 12-ounce glasses of water each day.

31. The submale must submit to eating only “submale food” selected by his Mistress whenever she requires it.

MAID SERVICE
32. When a meal is over the submale must be quick to clear the table and wash the dishes.

33. The submale must always give his Mistress the first choice of everything — She picks the section of the paper to read first, the channel on TV to watch, the restaurant to go to, the movie to see, the friends to entertain, etc.

34. The submissive must always keep his own quarters spotless, as directed by the Mistress. All furnishings and interior decoration will follow Her taste.

35. The submale will perform all household chores for the Mistress, to include:

• sweep and vacuum all floors and carpets
• mop and was all floors
• dust and polish all furniture
• make the beds every day
• wash and fold all clothing and linens
• iron
• handwash all lingerie
• scrub bathrooms
• clean kitchen
• cook simple meals; assist in all cooking
• wash dishes and put them away
• set the table
• shop for groceries and put them away
• take out trash and sort recycled items
• run all errands as directed
• perform yard work; plant flowers as directed

Drinking From Mistress’ Toilet - Augmenting Humiliation

Many submissive men celebrate drinking women’s urine. Some adorn the piss with fancy names, perhaps to deflect shame.

The psychology of drinking that same urine from a toilet is different. In a home where proper sanitation is practice the toilet is clean, the water pure.

It is the toilet itself not the contents that change the mindset. The toilet serves for quotidian activities that ancient taboos have rendered degrading.

Lowering his head into the bowl, sipping the diluted pee fills a man with shame. Drinking from the cleanest toilet humiliates most men.

Which of course means that many emotional masochists want to be, ahem, forced to drink from a commode. Even if it is only clear water.

Golden Showers: Sweet or Sour?

Are Watersports Part of Your F/m Lifestyle?

Golden Showers (Watersports. Urophilia, Urolagnia) is believed by many to be a normal part of Femdom relationships. My own experience reflects that. But the invisible Femdom majority may not eroticize urine.

Femdom piss play has two primary divisions:

1.  Some submissive men delight in drinking their wife’s or girlfriend’s urine. They call it ‘nectar.’ A usage I find too precious and cute. For them this form of submission is cheerful and sweet.
2.  Other men find golden showers humiliating Serving as a woman’s chamber pot marks the different status between the glory of woman and the inferiority of men.

They fantasize of being Mistress’ only urinal. Repeatedly they are used and shamed.

The slave man can also be required to drink his own. Since it does not emerge from the ‘divine female,’ the experience may be more intensely degrading.

The most potently shaming use of urine is to flavor the man’s food.

Do you dream of golden showers? Is the experience loving or degrading?