So Your Husband is Submissive… What Next?

Most (but certainly not all) men that desire to submit to their wives follow a similar pattern. They almost always first make up their minds that they are going to begin a campaign of stealth submission to their wives. Said another way, they are going to try to satisfy their desire to submit by behaving as if she were already in charge. They begin doing more and more of the household chores, offering massages, foot rubs, running baths for their wives, etc. Women are very often confused by this approach. They ask their husbands what is behind the change in behavior, but their husbands have not yet mustered the courage to articulate their honest feelings. Women often think that the change in behavior is driven by guilt for something that their husbands have done wrong. Of course this is mistaken, but for the wife's part, she is left puzzled and confused by the new behavior. 

The problem is that men that undertake stealth submission quickly find out that it is not working for them. It is not enough for most submissive men to simply undertake to serve and pamper their wives. There must be some explicit acknowledgement on the part of the woman or else the man is left unfulfilled. At some point the husband wants his wife to come out and say that she in charge. The men want not just to do things for their wives; they want their wives to tell them what to do. They want their wives to exercise more control over them. 

While most men start out pursuing stealth submission, eventually, the brave among them (probably a minority) end up stumbling into a conversation on the topic. This conversation is usually vague and fails to communicate the depth of his feelings. After all, men generally do a poor job of communicating their feelings. The net result is that he never ends up articulating his desires in a way that is satisfactory to him or his wife. The wife understands that her husband likes doing nice things for her, that he wants to give her more free time, that he is putting her pleasure ahead of his own in the bedroom, etc., but she never really understands the motivation. This lack of communication, this lack of an open and honest conversation on this topic, is a great missed opportunity for both the husband and the wife. This is not just because the husband never has the opportunity to explore a much desired dynamic in the relationship, but also because the wife never fully appreciates what is in it for her.

He is still the same man that you have always loved

By far, the most common concern that we hear from women is that they do not want to trade in the husband that they love for a mindless domestic servant. This is a fair concern, but it is the manifestation of an essential misunderstanding of how this dynamic will impact their relationship.

While some men, and doubtless some women, fantasize about a relationship where the man is engaged in a constant, 24/7 effort of nipping at his wife's heels to please her, this is simply not a relationship that works for most people in the long-run. It is better to understand loving female authority as a dimension of the relationship that is always present, but not always out in the open. Day in and day out, the vast majority of the woman's interactions with her husband will be exactly as they are today. Husbands and wives share friendship, trust, affection and a spiritual love that is completely independent of who has the final authority in the household. None of this - absolutely none of this - changes when the wife acknowledges her husband's submission.

They will still laugh together, they will still play together, and they will still work together for common goals. If there are disagreements in the household, the woman's decision will certainly be final, but relationships do not revolve around conflict resolution. The husband will most likely take on a much greater percentage of the household chores, but neither do relationships revolve around domestic work. The woman can be as demanding as she chooses as often as she chooses. Just because the submissive husband has an innate desire to feel controlled by his wife, she does not have to reinforce that control every time she speaks to him. She can do so daily, weekly, or however often she feels that the husband's role in the relationship needs reinforcing to keep him fulfilled.
Of particular concern is that fact that many women do not want to feel dominant in the bedroom. When the make love they like to feel, either once in a while or virtually every time, that they are being taken by their strong, masculine mate. 

A woman that feels this way should feel open to communicating this with her husband so that her sexual needs are being satisfied in a way that suits her particular tastes and preferences. This woman, however, should understand that her husband craves this same sense of submission in the bedroom that she does. She should nurture his submission by dedicating periodic sexual activity that reinforces her authority and his submission. How often this takes place is something that each couple should work out together.

Pegging- Breaking Him

Pegging, definition according to Wikipedia: “Pegging” is a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo, which is held with a harness or with her own vagina.

Doctor Jenn Gunsaullus says that pegging “unites men, women, dildo, lube, pleasure and power”
The most important to me is POWER.
From my experience as a Mistress, I know that pegging is the most effective way to get the transfer of the standard dominant role from men.

Through pegging, the dominant role of the relationship passes radically from the man to the woman.

The couple relationship dynamics will completely change once he will be underneath you and you will fuck his ass with a strap-on. From that moment, you will stop seeing him as the “leader” of the relationship and you will be stating a precedent for having things done your own way, not his. And the best thing about it is that he is going to love it too.

You will discover yourself soon making decisions he used to make before, or for which you needed his approval. You will feel much more self-confident, Dominant, and at the same time, he will start feeling and showing himself more submissive, more sensitive to your needs, wishes and whims.

Determined but cautious

If you have decided to incorporate the pegging to your relationship, don’t rush. Choose the best moment to tell him; a moment when he is very excited and receptive. Tell him you want to fuck his ass in the next months. Be very sexy when exposing your idea and take profit of that excitement to negotiate with him. Deal and establish clearly the limits, changes and punishments, also the physical ones, which you will apply if he decides not to obey at some stage.

He will not know how far you intend to go, and accept all your conditions. He will be too excited and worried planning to get to fuck you for his own pleasure, to stop thinking in the future. This will be his first great lesson.

Before starting with the strap-on training, you have to realize at all moments that you have to look confident and pushing. It is a training, that may seem too slow to you sometimes, but it is clearly pleasant for both of you, so, enjoy the process as well. The results will come, but it must be something positive from the first moment to you.

Another way to pleasure

What you will do, as a matter of fact, will be changing is pleasure area. He will have to learn to transfer all the pleasure he thinks he has only in his dick, from the top of his penis, to his anus… After a while, you will get to make the anal pleasure his only way to get sexual satisfaction. And you, will get this way all the power and the control you wish on him and much, much more pleasure. Because, in exchange of the pleasure he will get from your strap-on, he will feel the impetuous need to give you all the pleasure you may want, and will do anything to make you happy. He will be “programmed” to satisfy you.

His penis stops being a pleasure tool, also for you, and you rediscover the pleasure of oral sex, a pleasure that you will need and ask constantly. The more pleasure you will get like this, the more he will need to satisfy you.

Humiliation

Very important: you can add some humiliation to the training. Take profit of any occasion to show him you really have all the control and all the power. You may need other dicks for your pleasure, not his, and you may use them or not; anyway, you decide. If you use other dicks, don’t feel guilty; on the other hand, tell him your intention to do it and your experiences. He must learn, and understand, that your pleasure is the most important thing, NOT the source where it comes from. He will have to make an effort then to be the only source of pleasure. You know, they always love to be the Alpha “Macho Man”.

Chastity

Rise your control on him: cage his penis in a Chastity Belt. Even if it seems unbelievable, the fact of not touching himself, nor seeing his useless dick, will turn him on a lot. This is because he can’t disconnect his mind from you while wearing the Chastity Belt. The CB, or cage, as I call it, will keep him in a state of perpetual excitement and obsession for his sexual needs and pleasure.

Remember, once you start fucking his ass with the strap-on, you won’t see him the same way. You will not see him as a man, he will be your whore, a slut you take by his ass, each time you wish to.

Rejection

It won’t be so easy to induce him. He will try to convince you that pegging is an absurd practice, unnatural, strange and shameful to him.

He will think that the idea of being penetrated will seem to him an atrocious act, and he will describe the scene of you fucking him as something horrible. Those are just excuses. Ignore them!

Sometimes the “Macho” hides away the strap-on not to be fucked. Other men stay at work until later, when they feel “it is time”. Others allege, finally their rejection from their fear to be identified and catalogued as “gays”… He will always find excuses to take your attention away from his ass. Don’t hesitate, use discipline and corporal punishment, if needed, to prevail.

Fuck him again and again

In a FemDom relationship, it is important that you fuck him regularly during the first months of the strap-on training. In my opinion, several times a week.

Do it in a way that he will never know when you will do it: before he falls asleep, or early in the morning, before he gets to work, after work, even in the middle of the night, and most of all, each time you will feel like fucking his ass.


With the pegging practice you fuck his ass, but also his mind and you reinforce your authority. Ignore his complaints. Reward will come soon.

Little by little, his resistance to be fucked will start to decay, as it will happen with his sphincter in the same way.

The combination of forced chastity, corporal punishment and pegging will make your man a new creature, unselfish and submissive. The power dynamics of the relationship will change. Remember always that your authority will grow more the more you apply it.

He will soon understand that he does not control anything _not even his penis_ he will not be able to have something as private as an erection without your consent. He will realize he can’t have what he wants, when he wants it, without your approval.

Masturbation

It is very important to control the masturbatory customs of men. A man should not be allowed to masturbate in a FemDom relationship.

Always full

Your authority will grow, while he gets used to have something inside his ass: make him use a butt-plug, of a good size, when you are not fucking him.

You can also enjoy making him feel always full. During a meal, surprise him ordering him to go to the bathroom to introduce himself a butt-plug you have prepared for him.

He must get used to other physical things. But mental and psychological changes in him will be very deep and definitive.

Knickers for him

The moment has come to ask him to wear knickers, instead of a male slip. Hide all his slips, and take him to buy his own girlie underwear. Make him wash every night the knickers of both of you. Hand wash.

It is normal to wear a whore’s clothes if he is being fucked as one. This way you show him it is not just a game; he will feel your control on him while being dressed as a whore all day, he will not have relief, even when he is far away from you.

Milking

His body must get used to the new situation. Receiving the strap-on will change from being painful, to being uncomfortable, and finally just a strange sensation.

Take your time in order to stimulate his prostate when you are fucking him, it will be very pleasant for him, even if also humiliating, and he will not recognize it easily. He is enjoying a strange new pleasure, humiliating, but for sure milking will help.
What you will really do is milking his prostate and, remember, keep his penis caged. During the milking process, he must feel relief, but something really different from his usual pleasure with his precious penis. Milking is necessary to drain his prostate, that will be extra full of his seminal liquid almost for sure, because of the level of continuous excitementyou provoke in him.

More humiliation

Verbal humiliation can be useful during this process to break his ego, you will see soon how necessary it is to break him, humiliate him.

The first time you will call his ass “hole to be fucked” or “male cunt”, he will be shocked and ashamed. Ignore him. You will see he is dripping, excited, only because of your words.

Cruelty

You can be even more cruel. If you say to him, in a calmed but self-confident tone, that his little penis is useless, that he fucks like a girl, hat you need a big man, with a big cock, who will know how to use it to fuck you… for sure you will get his attention immediately.

Explain to him that you are going to tell to two or three of your best girlfriends some private aspects of your sexual life… Things like that he has a small dick, that you put him in chastity, that he has controlled orgasms, that he is a cunt-licker, that you love fucking him with the strap-on, that you make him wear knickers, that he has to share your cunt with other men and that he must clean after… all that will be very humiliating to him, but will reinforce your authority, he must realize that you are serious about it.

After three or four months of chastity treatment, pegging, discipline and humiliation… Being self-confident, firm, strict… he will stop resisting and fighting.


He will bend over for you, will hug and hold you after you have fucked him with love, and will desperately need to lick your cunt to give you pleasure and thank you for what you do for him.

No pleasure for his dick

He mustn’t have “conventional sex,” during this period. I recommend you not to offer him “vanilla sex”, at least during the first months, until he understands his dick is not necessary anymore to give or get pleasure. Sex for him, must be limited to serving you orally. You can masturbate him some time in a humiliating way, or with lack of interest. Better if you do it with your feet. May be I don’t need to say it, but your mouth will never touch his penis again.

Having his dick caged, has no real effect on him giving you pleasure with his mouth, but while being frustrated by the fact of not coming for weeks,, his sexual tension will arise dramatically and, of course, his desire towards you. This produces his wish to see you get pleasure and sexual satisfaction many more times.

Finally, your man’s brain will end by associating the anal penetration with your pleasure and orgasms, he will want his strap-on treatment, and will beg for it. He will be your whore, always in disposal to please you. He will need to be fucked by you, and he will do anything to get it.

A one way trip

If the man receives the strap-on regularly, his body and mind adjust to the new situation, and he experiences some physical and psychological changes.

Fucking him turns into a “normal” experience, and he will even need it. This happens because you succeeded to change is erogenous zone, by ignoring and caging his penis and by constantly stimulating his prostate through his anus.

His own pleasure becomes secondary, and he prefers to make you enjoy, gets excitement and joy when you ignore his penis, but you use more his mouth and tongue… he discovers a richer and more exciting world in which he is not the centre anymore, he does not even decide.

Contract for Male Chastity and Female Domination

Contract for Male Chastity and Female Domination

Contract:

I, Submissive husband to Dominate wife, agree that I will be locked into the chastity cage for an indefinite time. I understand that my wife, i.e. Queen, Mistress, will keep and control all keys to the lock the device. My Keyholder controls my chastity freedom and confinement.

Attitude

1. He will exercise regularly, keep himself maliciously manscaped, always be well groomed and be impeccably dressed.
2. He will aggressively show my friends his endearing respect and worship of his Queen.
3. He will never be disrespectful to me, my friends or other women.
4. He will address me as Mistress or Queen. He is only allowed to call me darling or sweetheart when it is not possible to use my declared title.
5. He will put my needs before his needs.
6. He will not swear or raise his voice to me or use foul language.
7. He will listen and not turn away or interrupt me when I am speaking to him.
8. He will be openly honest and truthful to me.
9. He will not disregard any request I have made.
10. He will not try to change or amend plans that I have made. He can offer suggestions and advice but when I have told him that my decision is made, it is final.

Chores

1. He will be proactive in carrying out his core chores around the house, cooking, cleaning bathrooms, vacuuming, washing dishes, washing clothes and ironing, taking out the trash. These are his domestic duties and he will do them to a high standard and without needing to be reminded. He will make sure he does his chores before he has personal time.

Sexual

1. He will not beg, pout, or whine for sexual attention.
2. He will wear his cock cage at all times unless given permission to remove.
3. He will keep himself manscaped including face, chest, and all private parts.
4. He will be 100% monogamous to me.
5. He will be open, without question to ALL of my sexual needs.
6. He will clean before submitting to the strapon.
7. He cannot cum without permission.
8. He will always swallow his cum, unless I give him permission.
9. He will be respectful and accommodating with my playmates and will, at her wish, provide the Keyholder with whatever sexual gratification she desires, whenever she desires it, without any hesitation of any kind as long as it is not dangerous, hurtful, or severely unlawful.
10. The Keyholder is under no obligation to allow my sexual pleasure.

Review and Punishment

1. His performance in following these rules will be monitored and evaluated regularly. General performance below an expected standard or specific incidents of rudeness or disobedience will result in punishment. As Queen, I will determine the punishment, humiliation, public voyeurism, extension to time in chastity, or any other punishment of my choosing.

As always Happy Fetish!

Chastity Ideas - How Long should he be Locked?

1. It should be up to the keyholder and her alone, but some people like to switch things up, so here are some fun ways to let fate decide.
2. Determine the number of orgasm he has to give the keyholder before he earns an orgasm.
3. The keyholder could require him to provide her with 10 oral, 10 using a vibrator, and 10 using his cock before he earns the right to have his own. Or 20 using his fingers and 5 using his mouth, and 5 with a dildo, or strap on, you get the idea.
4. How about adding one day every time he has an orgasm, so if he made it 21 days this time he has to wait 22 next time.
5. There is a myriad of dice games that could be used. If you Google dice chastity game, you can find an endless supply.
6. Marbles seem to be another favorite, again if you Google marble chastity game, there are plenty to choose from.
7. Use trivia to determine his lock up time. While lying in bed the keyholder can ask a series of questions about anything she likes really, and for every answer the sub gets wrong he gets a day or a week or whatever time period the keyholder desires locked in chastity, this is fun because the keyholder is still determining the lock up time, by the number of questions or how hard they are. Try Keyholder trivia, she can ask questions about what she likes, you can both have fun and learn what makes your keyholder happy!
8. It is a big turn on for the sub to know that regardless what the “game” determines should be the lock up time, that he knows it is ultimately what his keyholder decides, so when the time arrives that he has earned his orgasm, simply tell him, “I know you were supposed to have an orgasm today, but I have decided to keep you locked another few days.”

Being a good servant means developing and investing in your skills.

Let’s be real - most women don’t want naked men sitting around in rope and collars begging to serve.

Most Dominant women I’ve met are practical, have specific needs and desires, and always have things that have to be done that prevent them from doing the things they want to do.

If you really want to serve a Dominant woman, it’s important to give some thought to her inevitable question: “How would you serve to make my life easier/better/enjoyable/successful?”

And no, being her sex slave, or ‘doing anything she wants’ is not a suitable answer. Neither is offering to clean her house but being shit at it, or being her chauffeur but then expecting other things from her.

After all, you don’t employ a plumber who then pesters you to whip him…

A suitable response is:

• Cooking meals for you during the week when you are busy with work
• Running your errands so you don’t have to sit in traffic or take time off
• Preparing, organizing and cleaning up your parties or social events
• Building and fixing things around the house and car
• Meticulously cleaning your car and home each week
• Preparing your home after returning from travel - groceries, airing, fresh sheets
• Preparing and managing your travel - luggage, lists, mail, visas, bookings
• Detailed research and documentation for things you want or need to buy
• Sewing repairs, washing, folding, ironing, and putting your clothes away
• Buying gifts for your family, colleagues and friends for each occasion
• Performing pedicures and manicures to a professional standard
• Being your personal shopper doing pickups, returns, and exchanges
• Finding and curating things you enjoy - music, art, experiences, foods, people
• Providing physical help or assistance to any of your friends and family

Oh, and when doing these tasks, don’t expect to be sitting around naked in a collar with a butt plug in - unless that’s what SHE wants!

These things aren’t sexual. They’re useful. They’re valuable. They free her up so she can enjoy her life, and explore and grow her empowerment. All that you do ADDS to her life. It improves it. It enables her to grow.

You must be good at these things. Go and learn if you need to. Take a class, or contribute your professional skills. If you don’t have skills, or anything you can think of, you’re simply not ready to serve another person in a meaningful way.

Go and work on yourself first. Go make yourself valuable for her. It’s an important thing as a man to truly know your own value, and what you can bring to a woman’s life. Being a submissive servant doesn’t mean being a doormat; it means being empowered that her needs and desires are your own, and you can meet them to a standard that exceeds her expectations.

Your unhinged horniness and a willingness to spend money to relieve aforementioned horniness, is simply not enough - nor appropriate.

If you do have skills, experience, or ability, then really put yourself in her shoes before engaging your mouth / fingertips. Learn about her and what matters to her. Her goals, her ambitions, her ideas, and her dreams. Offer things you can do and give that matter to HER. If you have something to offer that doesn’t matter to her, either develop a skill that does, or find another woman who wants what you have to give.

If she’s smart, she will value you and give you just the right amount to keep you enthralled, engaged, and fed, but still hungry and eager to serve. Her empowerment will expand in time; you’ll definitely notice. Your submission will deepen in time; you’ll definitely notice.

If she’s not smart, she’ll take advantage of you without valuing you and mistake her sense of self-appointed entitlement as empowerment and domination.

Dominant leadership is about inspiring a submissive to view serving them as an opportunity to fulfill their highest purpose;

Dominant management is about demanding compliance and obedience because she said so.

They might sound similar in the short run, but in the long term, one leads to fulfilling your purpose as a submissive, while the other leads to a life of unmet expectations and resentment.

Be smart - you can have the lifestyle you’ve dreamed of, but the secret isn’t that you just need to find a Dominant woman. It’s that you need to develop yourself in both skills and attitude to such an extent that you are undeniably valuable to her.

Women are smart - they protect and take ownership of what works for them.

The Elements of Male Chastity by chastitychronicles2017

“A free cock corrupts the mind, 
a caged cock exposes the soul”
“If you fantasize about being in Chastity, you probably should be locked up.”

Acceptance


The initial discovery and interest of chastity can be quite an epiphany. It is eye opening and more than often unlocks a myriad of unrealized sexual feelings and emotions all tied to looking at that first penis locked up in a device.

The word “addiction” is derived from a Latin term for “enslaved by” or “bound to.” the domination of one’s thoughts or feelings by a persistent object, idea, image, desire, etc.

“I wish there was a more intense word other than“Chastity” to convey what I feel for it.”

“Chastity Desire” exerts a long and extremely powerful influence on the mind and body. An eager male willingly putting on a Chastity cage produces several natural Euphoria - Inducing chemicals in the body that will cause a Psycho - Physical awareness in every one of the twelve areas of the males brain. This will manifest itself in five very distinct ways:


1. Intense craving for the object of desire.
2. Complete loss of control over its use.
3. Uncontrollable involvement with it despite perceived cultural norms.
4. Recognizing the resulting sensory and mental states in reaction to physical stimuli.
5. Total disregard of the adverse consequences of being discovered.

Chastity is a triangle made up of three unconditional properties in equal measure:
1. Acceptance
2. Understanding
3. Submission

Remove any one of the three and the triangle falls apart
There are two kinds of chastity: the kind that drowns you until you’re useless, and the kind that fires your soul to purpose.

To some chastity for the first time is shocking, enlightening and to some spiritual. Everything about chastity has an underlying theme of vulnerability and at every stage the male realizes it more. Authenticity is beautiful. There’s nothing stronger than vulnerability. To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength. No matter how “normal” people look, living “ordinary” lives, everyone has a story to tell. And may be, just like you, everyone else is a misfit too. The willingness to finally express yourself. To be who you are truly is burden removed. The challenge accepted. One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your own sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else. Male Chastity is a multi-faceted virtue not a habit. It is respect for sexuality to such an extent that sex is reserved for only the worthy. Chastity submits to the power and beauty of sexuality and desires never to misuse it. Chastity is a sophisticated form of sexual honesty because it says “yes” to purity and the intoxicating ritual of orgasm denial. In Chastity a male will eventually become what they think about all day

“Chastity is a sexual preference and when you finally discover who you are, you never second guess yourself, you will be free.”


Understanding


Like with anything that a male has a serious interest about he will research and find out as much as he can about a topic. The history, the methods and how it relates to their interest in it. This is the beginning stage of developing a Chastity Persona. Chastity is a sexuality all on its own. The sexuality of Abstinence. Abstinence means saying “no.” It is about what you cannot have or cannot do. It means avoiding certain things. Sexual abstinence encourages withholding sexual activity. The desire for Chastity Abstinence is the willingness to forgo and refrain. The male who is interested in Chastity needs to unlock the secrets and unlocking it requires understanding. Discovering Chastity is the key to discovering purpose and discipline. A male is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides. You don’t want to inhabit the world under false pretenses. You have the choice to not be in Chastity … but you can’t resist it. Once you accept your limits, you go beyond them and become true to yourself. Chastity is not going to be in your head all the time. But once you know it, Chastity will be forever in your heart. Chastity is happiness by limiting desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy all of them. Chastity is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust. It has nothing to do with who you are as compared to everyone else. It has everything to do with who you are in companionship with your Chastity. You are attracted to the physical adornment but it also is spiritually internal and on the inside it comes when validation from the outside doesn’t matter anymore. You know you need to be in Chastity. But in order to make Chastity come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, sacrifice, and effort. The one person you’ll be spending the rest of your life with is you. Do not let the regret of not trying Chastity burden you. These Chastity desires are not to be suppressed or fixed — they’re to be acknowledged. It is beautiful to express your Chastity and even more beautiful to feel it. You have everything you need for complete Chastity and total happiness right now. Chastity is the cement of civilization and progress. Without it there is no stability in society, and without it knowledge one cannot attain the Science of Life.


“Fantasy is hardly an escape from reality. It’s just another way of understanding it.”

Fantasizing

Usually ones mind starts to wander and imagination takes over to the desires and intense feelings towards experimenting with Chastity. The male masturbates to almost clinical impotence to Chastity pornography wishing it was his cock locked away. The mind can go either direction under chastity — toward sexuality or toward abstinence: on or off. Think of it as a spectrum whose extremes are unconsciousness at the abstinence end and hyperconsciousness at the sexual end. More often than not, these two perspectives can swing like a pendulum with a person. It’s ironic but it’s an exploration into trying to make sense of all these sexual feelings on the recurring idea of the thing that turns someone on the most is the same thing they need to control that arousal. Don’t forget - no one else sees life the way you do, so no one else can live the reality that you have to live. A chastity device won’t put out the flames of burning flesh. The male unconsciously needs guidance. The fantasy grows and becomes more elaborate as time passes. Perhaps a males imagination needs Chastity fantasies to fulfill some craving he has as a way to assuage the darkness in himself. With Chastity nothing is lost …Everything is transformed.


“Most truths are so naked that males feel sorry for them and cover them up, at least a little bit.”


Lamenting


What can best be described as “Chastity Cravings” take over. It is a compulsion to be locked and it will grow as the male becomes extremely vulnerable as he obsessively goes over all the elements. Vulnerability always comes with risks, but the rewards run deep. Male Chastity does all of this. It will bring it out of males. The way the mind will lean under chastity is strongly influenced by the person, reasons and desire for chastity. They chose to be locked in chastity because their brains are wired to completely surrender to it. Almost if they have a genetic, disposition for it. They still have a thread of free will and it is giving in to what they so badly want. There is no perfection only beautiful versions of brokenness. A male will keep seeking validation but they already know what is about to happen. They should not confuse fear with curiosity. Let it forever alter their behavior. The male is already addicted to a drug he’s never taken. It’s a unfamiliar kind of suffering that seems both mental and physical. A male in Chastity is not made like any of those he has seen. They venture to believe that they are not made like any of those who are in existence. If they are not better, at least unique and different. An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior and a male in Chastity will always be figuring this out.

“Some men are born to roam free while you are destined for the cage because the relentless search for novelty and social status locked you into an iron cage of sexuality. Affluence has itself betrayed you and deviance has given you a reward.”


Research


Now it is time for the male to get serious and figure out what is the best device to have. No one undertakes research in Chastity with the intention of winning a prize. It is the joy of discovering something they didn’t know before. Awareness without action is worthless. The internet is a prominent source for devices. This is more of a logical methodical element and it is put here after the last two emotional elements because it is definitely useful but it also an attempt to try and get a grip on these seemingly uncontrollable cravings if only briefly.

A male should ask themselves these questions: 
Are you looking at pictures of male chastity again? 
How many times are you going to lie to yourself about how you seem to “accidentally” stumble upon these sites? 
Do you still remember that first locked cock photo you saw so long ago?

In the beginning it was weird how many just one image of a dick in a cage made you rock hard but now it seems so normal. A couple of jerks to smooth locked up male makes them bust a nut all over themselvesl. More often than not all of this going on with no one else knowing and the secrecy can be quite overwhelming. The male will slowly leave all those old inhiabitions behind because an incredible experience awaits. Everything will make sense and finally feel complete.

“The penis, often regarded as a weapon, it is also a burden, and the male curse.”

Science

Every penis in the womb starts as a clitoris before hormones ‘sex’ the brain of the to-be male.“ The penis "retains the mark of its female heritage: its dark underskin and the thin ridge or seam, known as the raphe, which runs from scrotum to anus, are remnants of the fusion of the vaginal lips. Male development requires hormones to suppress female development and further hormones to enhance male development. This makes female anatomy the platform for male development and so technically the penis is an enlarged clitoris. Of course this sounds provocative because it goes against the ‘received wisdom’ or ‘gender spin’ that gives primacy to the penis. The male genitalia has historically often been used as a primitive, superficial measure of masculinity among the strata of ‘lower-educated’ males of many societies. As such, a smaller or less 'masculine-looking’ penis can sometimes be labelled "feminine” in appearance (i.e., femininity being considered the default weaker / lesser gender). In this sense, the description can be both an insult (e.g., for a “straight” and / or insecure male) and compliment (e.g., for a MTF transsexual girl).

“You’re not gay; you’re not bisexual; you’re not straight. You are just curious.”

Objectification


This brewing emotional pot now causes a a definite change in sexual identity and also on how he views his penis. The connection between “manhood” and the penis is unbreakable. Size isn’t solely about physically being small. Size is also about mentally feeling small. He is in an intense process of redefinition of what it actually is in relationship with his manhood and personality. A sexual self realization takes place with very new drastic perceptions of ones self. Bravado, submissiveness and male roles all swirl around with this new idea of chastity. Masculine identity is intertwined with the penis. Masculinity represents drive, direction, force, especially penetrative force. We always need to know who’s got the biggest dick in the boardroom. It’s why every battle for superiority is called a “dick measuring contest.” If you violate laws of God, you’re a sinner.
If you violate laws of men, you’re a criminal. If you violate your own laws, you’re pathetic. Think about what phallic-shaped objects like obelisks, rockets and skyscrapers represent: masculine energy. They thrust up into the air, essentially penetrating the sky in defiance of gravity. Building those structures is an expression of masculine energy. NASA does not build rockets shaped like vaginas. There is no amount of wealth, status, education or fame that will change the size of a males small penis. The male will ask internal questions like “is there something wrong with me be cause I want this?” What are other small penis males really thinking, feeling, experiencing, when they finally lock themselves up, slip away from the gaze and culture of real masculinity?


“If you look at sculptures from hundreds of years ago, everyone’s naked. Everyone has a small penis. It’s not a bad thing.”

Communication


In order to find validation males will seek the like minded online. Love is our true destiny. Males do not find the meaning of Chastity alone - they find it with one another. Locked cock worship is a real thing. Just count how many chastity blogs there are on web. It’s not going away. The rise in popularity of Chastity has a direct correlation to more exposure on the web. Even if it is done anonymously one will want to know they are definitely not alone in this new erotic world they’ve found. A male needs justification for his desires. A male realizes all bad behavior is really a request for Chastity, attention, or validation. Some will communicate with others to find specific answers and sense of belonging, others will view anonymously, all seeking the element of understanding. A male is thankful, for the validation of feelings, and letting them know they are not alone. Chastity is not rational. Chastity is culture, habit, craving and identity. Men in Chastity leave traces of themselves where they feel most comfortable, most worthwhile. The natural state of chastity is unselfishness. When you lock your small penis, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You submit that position to your cage. Chastity is what gives males a sense of fulfillment and self-reliance. If you can share your story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.

“Sometimes the gap between what you are and what you want to be is a little piece of metal called a Chastity cage. ”

Submission


Finally the pot boils over. Anyway you look at it, it’s an intense experience for the male. Some may feel they are losing control. Submission is everything that refers to the delight of the senses and that’s what Chastity does, it stimulates the body in every possible way. The intensity to bring this about varies from individual to individual. Succumbing to Chastity, in an erotic sense, is not giving away a part of yourself, but seeking something new, something other, within yourself. Vulnerability always comes with risks, but its rewards run deep. Male Chastity does all of this. It will bring it out of you. If a male thinks he can stand to find out who they are and what they’re made of, they need to put on a Chastity device. Chastity is a balanced system of learning and evolution. Chastity is meant to teach us true spiritual human sexual character. It is meant for self-transformation. It is meant to transform anxiety into peace, arrogance into humility, envy into compassion, to awaken the pure soul in males and their love for the Source, which is the cage. Whether pleasure or pain; every situation in your chastity serves a purpose. It is up to you to recognize what that purpose could be. To feel aroused is to feel alive. A tight fitting cage on a small cock is like taking in huge lungfuls of fresh air, essential to the body, essential for health, and essential to life. Nothing makes a male feel more naked than when Chastity identifies a desire he never knew he possessed. He lives for permanent Chastity. His penis is locked in a sensual prison with guilt admitted and the sentence accepted. He is glorifying it, worshiping it and relishing the energy, with every fibre of his being. It is no better reason for being, naked, exposed, and alive. Chastity is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say NO to ones self. Chastity is where You put your chaos to rest and awaken inner peace. In simplicity there is truth. Strive for refrain and believe in small penis chastity. There’s no better time for a cage than now.

“They can remember the frustration of not being locked in a cage. They knew what I wanted to say, but could not get the words out, so they would just scream.”

Obtaining


Everything finally comes together and the only option will be to obtain a chastity device by any means possible. A goal without a plan is just a wish. The internet again has a part in the accessibility and large variety of Chastity devices. Looking at styles and brands trying to find the perfect one. They may even purchase more than one and so begins the device collection addiction. A device is a true poetic creation, and is always more than meets the eye. A device is grounded on living skin, so its essence emotes a poignancy unique to the sexual male condition. This is becoming a serious reality and it is under way. The device that is chosen expresses values that reflect the males small penis perception, including orderliness, balance, harmony, logic, and abstract beauty. A Chastity cage is not made of metal or plastic , but a tender balance of expectation and longing. A males Chastity is the root of small penis discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say “NO” to oneself. Once a device is in the males possession something amazing takes place.

“Being interested in Chastity isn’t a strange thing, it means that you are brave enough to find yourself”

Execution


Execution is on! Whatever regiment the male has created it will be individual to the chastity taste of the person. It’s about male discipline. It’s about following instructions. It’s about the execution of the plan. That’s what Chastity is. It doesn’t mater if the male is gay, straight, or bisexual. Chastity does not know what sexuality is nor does it care. Chastity is beauty, the perpetual invention of detail, the choice of routine, the exquisite care of execution. Something happens to the male when they remember around the time they became teenagers and thought about concepts of manhood and behaving masculine. They find out that not every penis is equal and there is a measurement across all males that is considered normal or average. After all the elements that have pleasured and tortured the males reach its apex, the first locking of the device on a penis can be one of the most erotic experiences they have ever experienced.


“They laugh at us because we are different. We laugh at them because they are all the same.”


Relief


All around us there are people who live their entire lives without exploring that one thing that would complete them, satisfy that craving that would make them whole. One must refuse to be that person. There is nothing more soul-satisfying than the first look of a succulent nude male wearing a secure tight fitting Chastity device. So sweet and delicious is the feeling, when a male is put in Chastity, that the pleasure it brings excels all delight, so the knot of Chastity, however tight it seemed before, is tied tighter still. There will be times in life when things simply have to be replaced because they are tired, broken, worn out, harmful, outdated, or irrelevant. Taking an inventory of the things that no longer serve the best and highest good and replace them with things which do. Chastity is the true key to success. Small penis males often lose their way at times. They embrace and overindulge from the fruits of success. Chastity halts this arrogance and self-gratifying trap. Humble males share the credit and wealth, remaining focused and hungry to continue the journey of permanent chastity. All those old inhibitions are left behind because an incredible Chastity experience awaits. If you’re comfortable in your nudity, why the hell do you need clothes? Once we are aware that our chastity makes us objects of desire, we truly become naked. Chastity makes us want to know what passion is. We want to feel something strongly. Chastity does that for us. The hurricane derives its powers from a calm center. So does a person locked away. The only way you can reach your full potential is if you open up and allow your self to be exposed to how you really feel. Remember that things are not always as they appear to be… Chastity creates possibilities and opportunities. Set out to discover the why of it, and to transform the pleasure into knowledge. Satisfaction of one’s curiosity is one of the greatest sources of fulfillment in life.

“The world says to males at a very early age they can become anything they want to be and another one has chosen to be locked permanently in Chastity”

Existence


Males are more revealing and exposed now that they have a chastity cage on. When they are just naked they were hiding. Now they are naked in chastity honestly exposing their true self. No lying anymore. This is who they are and what they want to be. It is an important lesson. Their happiness doesn’t need to be like others and that’s fine. They’re happy in their own way. There is something primal happening to them. It is instinctually beautiful. A graceful balance. This is exotic poetry physically played out stirring up powerful emotions. The complexity is intense and compulsions for these cravings seem to never stop. The cage has touched the soul long before they knew what Chastity actually felt like on their body. It is an abstract and organic thread weaving through them.

“No Free Cocks Ever. 
Stay Limp, Stay Locked. 
Stay Soft, Stay Smooth.”

Balance


Everything makes sense and finally feels complete. These uncontrollable emotions that exist in this new world where expectations are not set by those unrealistic traditional stereotypes that hold people all back, but by true intoxicating sexual cravings that drive real human passions. Insecure habits and mundane routines are noticeably identifiable and corrected since the introduction of Chastity. Chastity reveals. It doesn’t conceal. A cage reveals your cravings, your passion, your deepest most secret desires. It is a cleansing of body and soul. Males will never follow their own inner voice until they clear up the doubts in their minds and bound skin invites awareness. Nothing will change in ones life if they don’t do something different from what they have been doing. This is something that has been a long time coming but it has to be said. Lock up that small worthless penis. No longer lying about the intense desire for Chastity. Surrender to the pleasure of denial. They never were a man. Real men have virile potent cocks and males interested in Chastity definitely do not have that. They have a tiny nub of flesh and nerves placed between their legs as a reminder of the ineffectual impotence. They at the least have the confidence to purchase a cage to put on their baby dick. They have to know that this is extremely embarrassing for them and there is no reason for this to continue. The only shred of dignity that they could possibly have exists in the locking of a cage on their so called penis. Let go and move forward because acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that Chastity is the only way through it. This is a unique erotic fetish that turns them on so much and they can actually practice every day.


“…Do you ever know a moment is important as it’s happening, or is it only when you look back that you can see your life has changed?”

Choice

Choosing to lock oneself in Chastity uncovers who you subconsciously are or desperately want to be. You have a deeply hidden and inarticulate desire for things beyond this mundane life. Something happens to males when they’re locked. You become strangely free, uncivilized. You may do anything devilish. You like the ethos of Chastity and the idea of joining an ritual in which, at the very least, everyone who signs up believes in something. You will treat a Chastity cage with the reverence it deserves. Next time, you will stop and appreciate it and you’ll marvel at the miracle of a cock clad in stainless steel. Beautiful and diabolical, Chastity makes you impatient indeed to claim it. The cage reveals the person that has been hidden inside you. Chastity is both a symbol of what a you see and what you do not see in yourself. Look at your past and find, woven like the hidden symbols on a treasure map, the path that will point to your final destination.
Chastity when in practice is not a fantasy anymore, it is a defining reality. It is as if the cock cage is a mirror reflecting your soul.


“When a small cock is locked, the male is finally living up to expectations”

About Me

When I first discovered contemporary male Chastity my intense feelings of inadequacy were put in perspective. For the first time in my adult life everything made sense. I prefer a world with many kinks and sexual identities. It stimulates my commitment to Chastity to keep growing day by day. The concepts of my manhood, bravado and masculinity now have been completely erased from my mind. Chastity had brought me to my knees and made me acknowledge my own nothingness, and out of that knowledge I had been reborn. They say, you become what you think about all day long. Chastity is my obsession, joy, and torment. The outside world holds no interest for me without chastity. I don’t possess these thoughts I have — they possess me. I don’t possess these feelings I have — They curse me. Somewhere between love and hate lies confusion, chastity is discovered in misunderstanding and desperate hope. I was no longer the centre of my life and therefore I could see my Chastity in everything. A clear path to total submission was shown to me and it brought me peace. Passion drives me, and I let chastity hold the reins. If I have any faith or spirituality it is the belief of sin because I am a sinner and I want to pay for every one of my sins. But sometimes I feel like an animal, and animals don’t know sin, do they? I want all of you small cock males to also know my sins. I want you to see my Chastity and crave it. Nothing is more real than the masks we make to show each other who we are. Chastity is my masks and I believe in it – The person I made up is me, I believe in my Chastity – And my destiny. To me photos of locked cocks are way more sensually erotic than pornography. There is an intensity to the simplicity of the submission. For those who have interest in viewing chastity pictures, it is a intense aphrodisiac. Once upon a time all I did was look at male chastity blogs matsurbating myself into a lethargic goon. It was a sensual dichotomy of wanting to be locked and wanting to jack off at the same time. Fast forward to the present and I am now permanently locked away only to be let out for the only briefest amount of time. Now I am the creator of male chastity erotica. In a somewhat narcissistic way I post pictures of my locked penis. I am proud of the way
It looks. I want people to masturbate to them. I have a fantasy that a large cock male is clicking through chastity blogs looking at pictures getting extremely aroused and ever so close to climax. Image after image and finally the last photo they see is mine. The cum load starts to spurt out all over. After looking at all my pictures I want the thought of chastity to eat away at you to the point of insanity. You will memorize all of the Chastity websites, Tumblr URLS and masturbate to the posts. Male Chastity will become your sexuality above all others. It will no longer be a choice, the pattern will be irreversible. I want Chastity to be all consuming. All other thoughts will be clouded by the images of locked cocks flashing in your minds. The only option will be to obtain a chastity device by any means possible and lock up your worthless cocks. You will look at styles and brands trying to find the perfect one. You will lay around nude writhing and moaning with the tight fitting cage existing in a chastity tortured bliss. You all will start a blogs and post pictures in provocative poses of your succulent, limp, locked penis. 
You will become extremely vain and narcissistic. A drooling sexually addicted goon worshiping your flaccid locked penis. Chastity will control every aspect of your life. 
You will become me.

“Chastity, that stealthy thing that entered life as a secretive visitor, then became a welcomed guest, then a best friend, and now is the sexual Master”


Pledge


I pledge to willingly submit my cock to chastity. I am a caged slave. I have no choice in this matter. It has consumed me from the moment I knew I could slide my penis in a modern device. The look, the feel, the action is a part of me. I am proud to be in chastity. I need to be trained. I have to be controlled. The more flaccid my penis becomes the more psychologically aroused I am. There is supreme pleasure in impotence. I admit my small penis fetish. My useless cock belongs in a small cage. My only purpose is the be a slave to Chastity.

“They never really had a manhood in the first place and Chastity allowed them to stop looking for it. It’s time to throw away the masks and finally put on the soul.”

Beauty


Chastity is a pure human experimental art form. The art of sacrifice, the art or virtue, and the art of pure, sensual indulgent lust. It is glorious body display and adornment. Device Chastity in reality is an abstract concept. Natural human sexuality is what makes it organic. Chastity is as beautiful as it is vulgar. It is the balance of raw power and submissive weakness. Chastity is longing and lamenting. For those who like it, love it, and for those who love it, crave it. Chastity will provoke you sexually and yet you need it to control that same urge. It creates the illusion of pure innocence and projects total deviant sexuality all at the same time. It is a granted wish with unforeseen circumstances. It is cool calculation and reckless abandonment. Submission is everything that refers to the delight of the senses. There is more sensuality and stimulation in Chastity, even for the briefest time than in most recreational drugs. That’s what Chastity does, it stimulates the body in every possible way.

“Comfort…is the key ingredient to making the prisoner crave the prison.”

Poem


Beware of the submissive caged male because they are the Devil’s pawn. Alone among God’s primates their sexuality is for mindless sport or lust or greed. True when unlocked they will continuously masturbate to total impotence simply for the feeling of shame and the punishment. Without chastity they are selfish errant freaks. Let them not be bred in great numbers for they will make a disgrace of their homes and yours. Deny them and permanently force them back inside a chastity device for they are the disgusting harbingers of pure perversion.


“Knowing purpose helps in using all available resources in achieving Chastity.”

Resources


If you seriously look for Chastity, you will find it. If you ignore the craving, Chastity will follow until you submit. Are you thinking about trying Chastity?


Here’s some links to help you start.

• http://ezinearticles.com/?A-Male-Chastity-Guide—Myths-and-Facts&id=4111647
• https:www.malechastityjournal.com/living-with-chastity/getting-a-good-fit/
• http://thegrittywoman.com/beginners-guide-to-chastity/part-1-fitting-and-measuring
• http://www.maturemetal.com/guide-to-measuring-your-penis-for-a-chastity-device/
• http://chastitylife.com/chastity-device-sizing-guide/
• https://denyingthumper.com/2015/01/05/how-to-measure-for-a-male-chastity-device/
• http://malechastitynow.com/index.php?route=information/information&information_id=7
• http://www.micropenis.info/2015/11/best-chastity-belts-for-men.html?m=1
• http://chastitylife.com/chastity-device-sizing-guide/
• http://adultsmart.com.au/blog/chastity-myths/
• https://www.google.com/amp/s/myboyinchastityblog.wordpress.com/2016/07/14/how-to-get-your-wife-to-lock-you-up-in-chastity/amp/

“Chastity is sometimes bitter but the fruit it bears is so sweet.”