Easiest way to become the ultimate Master/Mistress

This has got to be the easiest way to to become the ultimate Dom in your relationship… it doesn’t matter if you are a novice or expert, it is a sure way to stretch those boundries and really push your sub in an easy, evil and cunning way.

Step one: DENIAL

You need to get your submissive slave (Male or female) at a libido peak. The higher the libido the more submissive they should be. This may require long term denial, prolonged chastity, edging and teasing… what ever it takes you need there mind racing and them willing to do anything to have a release.

Step two: Once your submissive slave has reached that submissiveness bliss you will propose this deal. In order for them to get their release (Give them what they really want) They need to submit to you a Very long list (the number is up to you but for and example we will use 150) of Things their dom can do. The goal here is to make them come up with some creative ideas for you to dom them. You need to stresd that you want them to come up with Anything and every specific thing you could do or have them do to punish, humiliate, torture and just pure dominate them. Remember the higher the number the more creative they have to be.

Step three: Format the list the way you want it…. Example being you want them to split it up into levels 1 2 & 3. One being simple easy and close to vanilla things (ie performing oral on your master/mistress, being spanked or being tied up). Level two being more extreme things (ie pegging, ball busting, being spit on, ruined orgasms, cum eating etc etc etc). Level three is being designated for extreme things including things outside of their boundries. (ie Being a cuckold/cuckcake, Urethral sounding, hot sauce on genitals, Having their genitals peirced or even as extreme as scat)

Step four: When their list is complete to your satisfaction (if your not impressed you could always make them add another 50,100 or so…) You then allow them to pick X amount of them to be off limits (they have a limited amount that you will keep of limits, unfortunately for them the amount you allow them to take off the list is a lot less then the amount of level three ideas on there.

Step five: You know have a massive list and look into your submissive slaves mind. You know what they find to be easy and what is extreme. You can now assign these tasks or use the punishments whenever you please and you barely had to lift a finger. This will work on so many levels because your sub will always have this list on their mind. You also are now and evil mastermind using their own dirty submissive mind againts them.

Rambling thoughts. 💋💋 by mistressvaliant

Few men understand this. If you give me you, all of you, no games, no pretenses, all of you, I’ll give you the world. That’s what a man does, he gives his heart, his soul, his body to the woman that he loves, in return a woman gives everything to that man. Build him up, give him a safe place to be himself, listen when he speaks, let him be strong, but also allow him to be weak, protect him always, make him feel special, appreciate him, show him the pleasure that comes with letting go.

It all stems from trust. Give me your time, make me feel important, cherished, worshiped. Tell me I matter. Tell me you can’t stop thinking about me. Call me for no reason because you have to, you can’t help it. Be there when I need you. Love me. The dark and light. The strong and the frightened. See me. All of me.

Be the man I need, and I’ll give you the world…

The enjoyment of intimacy without my orgasm is a daily connection that never seems to fade for us.

This picture shows the holistic approach to a relationship that can, if you want, accompany chastity. The approach that means you spend more time together being intimate without any expectation of sex, that magically brings your partner closer to you in a way that really shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone.

Maybe it is a paradox, that giving up your own orgasms helps your wife or girlfriend feel more loved, more damn sexy than ever before. But it does, and that is all that matters to me.

This is why you can’t have a Domme! by marquiseoftease

This post is not addressed at all the nice and genuine guys out there who are respectful and simply haven’t met their soulmate and domme yet. Your time will come, boys, don’t give up hope!

No, this post is a rant at “wannabe-subs” who just make me angry.
1) Those who barge dick(pic) first in my inbox.
2) Those who address me as their Mistress.
3) Those who think I’m a service provider.

It baffles me how “wannabe slaves / do me subs” are seemingly all about “worshipping the superior Goddess” and yet approach women like we were less than human, a species to fulfill their needs. Learn some respect towards Dommes / women / humans.

Let me tell you:

1) Yes, I do post pictures of cocks on my blog. Erotic photos that for one reason or another resonate with me. Maybe they are artistically beautiful, carry a relatable caption or show a scenario I like.
This does not mean I want to see your pitiful dick, snapped with your phone cam, also incorporating half of your bathroom or other mess in the background. Your dick is not special to anyone but yourself, so keep the pleasure between you two and don’t throw it at us females. In the unlikely event of a woman wanting to see your dick (or even worse, your unshaven butt hole - WTF ???) , she’ll tell you.
In all other cases: we do not consent !

2) I am not your Mistress. I’m also not your Goddess, Queen or whatever title your fantasy fap-fest provides.
Unless a dominant woman explicitly states she wants to be addressed in a certain way, don’t use titles.
News flash: we are human beings and we like to be approached as such.
Any honorific used for me is the sole prerogative of my submissive, and by using it outside of a dynamic you assume a position you don’t have.
We do not consent.

3) Messages from strangers starting off with “i’m a pathetic xyz and I need (you) to zyx”.
I am not your fetish vendor machine.
Yes, I post captions and posts about what turns me on, but that is not an invite to reduce me to your fetish and feel entitled to receive.

Over the course of the last couple of weeks I have received so many messages incorporating at least one of the above mentioned points that I’m truly frustrated.

I want this blog, my blog, to show the sensual side of D/s and of FLR, I want to encourage my followers to engage with me, to discuss situations, emotions, aspirations.
Of course this virtual place is intended to be sexy as, but some people clearly follow their own “fap agenda ”.

rant over

Thanks for reading

Edged Beyond the Point-of-No-Return

A “Mistake” Is Not A Failure – It’s Normal!

Part of teasing and edging my husband involves learning exactly where his edge is – learning exactly when to stop, so he is as close as humanly possible to orgasm, just one deliciously agonizing breath away, without actually climaxing. I carefully take him to that edge, then remove all stimulation for a few seconds, let him barely begin to calm down, then I take his cock and do it again. And again. And again…

It is perfectly natural to make mistakes during this process. In the perpetual challenge to edge my husband as intensely as possible, sometimes I misjudge his limit and accidentally send him over. Honestly, if you are exploring edging with your man, and you don’t accidentally make him cum sometimes (especially at first) then you aren’t edging him hard enough. In my humble opinion, you can never find a man’s true limit without crossing it sometimes. You need to learn the exquisite sequence of groans, twitches, and muscle contractions unique to your man that signal his imminent orgasm. Once you learn that sequence, and the EXACT spot in that sequence that marks his point-of-no-return, you can shatter him with deliciously pleasurable, toe-curling, mind-bending edges, over and over again, by stopping at EXACTLY the last possible moment in his sequence.

Getting that close – experiencing that much pleasure – is something he can’t physically do for himself, because the male brain loses conscious control long before that moment. Purely for illustration, let’s say your man’s preorgasmic sequence goes A-B-C-D-E-F. Let’s say his point-of-no-return is E. If he hits E, his orgasm reflex kicks in and he’s going to cum whether you keep touching him or not. So, to give your man maximum pleasure and totally blow his mind, you want to take him exactly to D and stop – over and over again, as many times as possible. The beautiful truth is that he needs you to do that for him; it is physically impossible for him to do it for himself. He can probably take himself to B, which is still intensely pleasurable, but once he hits C, his brain shuts off, instinct kicks in, and he cascades through D-E-F like a waterfall. Effectively, when it’s in his control, his point-of-no-return is C and his capacity for pleasure is limited to B. But, when you take control, you can take him all the way to D (a vastly more intense edge) over and over again!

How does it feel to know that he needs you in order to achieve pleasure he simply cannot achieve on his own?

How insane do you think it makes him feel, when you give him pleasure he’s literally never experienced before, because it was impossible without you?

So, if you want to achieve such extraordinary mastery of your man’s orgasm reflex, naturally mistakes will happen. You’re going to accidentally hit point E a couple times. The important thing to remember (for both of you) is that these mistakes are not failures – they are an essential part of the learning experience! Do not get angry with yourself or your man. Do not punish him for cumming (unless that’s part of your game).

Embrace your mistake!

Kiss him deeply while he cums in your hands. Pet his writhing body with your free hand. (My husband likes it when I claw him with my nails during his orgasm) Tell him how sexy he is – how sexy he looks when he cums. Tell him how impressed you were with his stamina, regardless of how long he actually lasted. Admire his orgasm. (“Wow! Good one! Keep going, baby!”) It’s okay to briefly apologize for sending him over the edge (“Oops! Shit, sorry baby!”) but don’t dwell on the fact you made a mistake. Just kiss and stroke him through his full orgasm. You can analyze the mistake later.

No matter how experienced you are, mistakes will still happen.I’ve edged my husband… ummm… thousands? of times. I have no idea. At least thousands. And I still make mistakes. In my neverending pursuit of that perfect, razor-close edge, I still push it too far and hit point E sometimes. That’s why I’m telling you, don’t sweat the mistakes. I would be more concerned if you were regularly edging your man and he never, ever climaxed – if you’re not making mistakes, you’re not pushing him hard enough, he’s not at his true maximum pleasure, and you’re not doing it right.

A Trick To “Undo” Your Mistakes:

Once you’ve got a little experience (and a delightful mistake or two) behind you, then I suggest you add so-called “ruined orgasms” to the mix. A “ruined” orgasm is when you barely take him to point E (the point-of-no-return) then let go of his cock and cease all stimulation completely. His ejaculation reflex is irreversible, but the subsequent touchless orgasm is an intensely frustrating pale shadow of a real orgasm. Cum should leak from his dick, like it’s crying, rather than spurting out in powerful contractions.

Why would you do that to him? Well, first of all, I always remind people, “ruined” is just a name – your man is still having an orgasm, so don’t feel bad about it. And the benefits of ruined orgasms are plenty – so many, that they deserve their own separate #journal entry, which I’ll write later. The short answer, though, is that although there’s a physical release, it’s hormonally unsatisfying, so he stays horny and eager for more edging (or sex), right away. It’s basically a way of clicking the “Undo” button on your mistake.

Pretty cool, huh? Male anatomy is full of awesome, fun quirks like that!

So if you’re edging him slowly and carefully, you will still have time to make a choice when you realize you accidentally crossed his point-of-no-return: you can choose to finish the party and stroke him through a full orgasm; or you can immediately let go and ruin it – essentially hitting “Undo” because you want to keep playing. Your man will be insanely frustrated when you ruin him, but it will blow his mind when you go straight back to edging him again. Used this way, the ruined orgasm just becomes part of the night’s edging session, and your mistake is less of an issue. In the end, through a swirling haze of pleasure, he’ll realize what you did, and he’ll thank you for ruining him so the two of you could keep playing. (He knows that a full orgasm would have meant the premature end of an otherwise long, fun night)

After an accidental ruined orgasm, it might take a few minutes and a little extra work to get him back to the edge again. There is still a small hormonal release, followed by a very short, weak refractory period, even from a ruined orgasm – a matter of minutes, usually. Just let the cum finish dribbling from his untouched cock, then kiss him, pet him, talk to him, and soothe him for 2-5 minutes. Assure him that he did a great job, you find him super sexy, you enjoyed watching him leak for you, and you’re not done teasing him tonight. His erection should return, full strength and ready to go again, so quickly, I guarantee you will both be pleasantly surprised. Then go back to your regularly scheduled program: edge him like crazy.

If it wasn’t obvious already, if you make multiple mistakes, it’s okay to ruin him multiple times in one night. For example, I had a really “off” night one time with my husband – he was good, so I planned to reward him with an extra-long edging session, with like 30 edges. But on the very first edge, I pushed him too far and saw his orgasm reflex starting. I was disappointed, but I kept my tone happy and positive. I smiled and said, “Oops!” and immediately let go of his cock. After his cock was done crying, we cuddled and I promised him we were just getting started. I went back to work and, sure enough, I fucked up again, pretty much right away. But I never stopped smiling, acting like it was no big deal, “Oops!” I let go and ruined him again. We cuddled for a few minutes, I talked dirty in his ear, then we went back to it. Let’s just say, it was not my finest hour… I misread his body and ruined him four more times that night. I never got anywhere near the 30 edges that I wanted.

But guess what? It didn’t matter! My husband was soaked in sweat and cum, his balls were totally dry, and he was so delirious with pleasure and exhaustion that he couldn’t form a complete sentence. And he was STILL hard! It was so hot, I couldn’t resist – I climbed on top, fucked, and vibed myself to an awesome climax with his stiff, aching, empty cock inside me. It was one of our best nights, ever! And all because I made (six) mistakes and embraced those mistakes with a smile!

Edge your man HARD tonight! And if you make a mistake and he cums – it’s okay! It’s part of the experience!

Someone’s happy in his panties by myslutbelongstome

Soon you will wear my panties around your face while you jerk off in my honor! A pathetically desperate little panty boi, you’re mine to use and abuse as I see fit!

You come over early in the morning to prepare my breakfast as you were told. You make all my favorite foods, placing them on the table, and then you prepare a bowl for me to smoke while I eat. The weed makes me feel more generous and makes me love the food, so I allow you to sit under the table and worship my feet while I eat. You sniff them, smelling the faint smell of sweat from the day before. I rub them on your face, balancing them there, so as to make myself more comfortable while you sit perfectly still as my furniture. When I’m done, you clean everything for me and I instruct you to clean my kitchen while I take a shower and leave for a hike with a friend. We enjoy working out together, so you’ve paid for my gym membership, but we mostly hike because it’s more fun and we like to smoke before we exercise. You straighten up my apartment while I’m gone, getting everything ready for when I get back, and you start to make my favorite dinner to be finished later. When I come back, I instruct you to remove my socks with your teeth, but tease you by forbidding you to smell them! My friend, Anna, sees what I’m doing to you and starts to laugh. “This is what you meant by bitch then?” I nod and she takes off her shoes and follows my lead, only this time, she makes you lie on your back as she rubs her toes on your face, and finally puts the tip of her big toe in your mouth. She commands you to suck on her toe, and then turns to me, laughing and pulling her toe away slightly, so you have to keep following it with your mouth like a dog with a toy. I like seeing you being used by someone else, but your primary purpose is to serve me, so she tells you to get up and make yourself useful to me.

Without a word, you come over and immediately kneel to make yourself into a proper foot rest for me, seeming to know that I would need a place to rest my feet while I decide how I want to be served. Feeling spontaneous, I command you to service Anna sexually, however she sees fit, while I tease you. You have no idea what I have in mind in terms of teasing, but Anna makes it clear right away that you will be servicing her orally until she is satisfied. As Anna explains, she usually uses an intensely powerful vibrator when she masturbates, so she is not an easy person to get off. Deciding that you have a lot of work ahead of you, I offer a reward. I will allow you to sniff my panties that I wore to work out in, if you can make Anna cum. If not, you will wear the panties yourself while Anna takes photos of you with my panties on and hers in your mouth. Fearing this fate, you work diligently, using the muscles you have built up in your mouth from training exercises that I have over seen.

You think back to the previous week when I finally introduced a toy for you to practice on. When I am not in the mood to be serviced, or any time I command you to practice, you must normally do tongue exercises to strengthen your oral skills. This is required for a slave who wishes to satisfy his Goddess. But recently I have decided to make the practice sessions a bit more humiliating. I have been desiring a way to feminize you and shame you into getting much better at oral, and of course also provide me with something more entertaining to watch! I blindfolded you, told you to sit silently doing your tongue exercises for a few minutes, then you feel it, a pointed velvety object entering your mouth. You only need a minute to realize that I have shoved a dildo in your mouth, and I expect you to suck it for my amusement. What else would I mean by putting it in your mouth while you are practicing oral skills? You have no time to think, you just begin servicing it at my command. Over and over it is pumping in and out of your mouth at my insistence, my hand guiding it with a tiny bit of force. I tell you to get used to it.

Now that Anna knows she can manipulate you and you can tell that Im having fun letting her take the reigns a little, you throw yourself into your effort to satisfy her, making her moan slightly and working very hard to bring her to the edge. Before long though, she stops you and says she wants me to think of a way to tease me instead, because she happens to enjoy humiliating a bitch even more than being serviced by one. I think for a second and it comes to me easily! I leave for a moment, during which Anna smiles at you sadistically, knowing I am also very amused by humiliation. I return with the dildo, you seeing it for the first time, having only touched it with your mouth, now notice that it is white, smooth, and slightly shapes like a penis. The tip is rounded and you feel embarrassed to have been sucking it earlier. You figure I am thinking about it too because I am laughing at your face looking at it for the first time. I approach you with it and you open your mouth, but I laugh, because you haven’t even heard how we are going to play. I sit on the couch, legs spread, and you start to move your face in my direction, assuming I want to be serviced, but instead I take the dildo, hold it between my feet on the floor, and use my hand to guide your face toward it. You realize what you must do and you reposition yourself into a kneeling stance, and begin sucking on the dildo at my command. Anna sits next to me, saying things like “That’s right bitch, suck it” and “Someone needs a little more training in this area, is this why you wanted me to see this?” She has a sissy of her own and she has commanded him to suck her partners dick in the past, so she has absolutely no tolerance for a bitch who can’t properly suck a man’s cock. You keep sucking the dildo, bringing your face closer to my feet and getting a whif in each time, the intoxicating scent of my sweat and the honor or being that close to my heavenly feet makes you very hard. Anna begins pointing at your hardon, ridiculing you for getting hard from sucking a smooth white dildo for our amusement. She laughs loudly at you, and your face turns slightly red from embarrassment. We keep watching, you never stopping until we finally take the dick away and excuse you to start preparing dinner for two. You walk out of the room, your cock still throbbing, thoroughly teased and unrelieved.

Public Pegging

One of the most humiliating thing to do to your man is to take him in front of an audience. It can be a girlfriend, another sub man or a like-minded couple that you meet for some swinger’s fun and games. Ultimately it can also be at a setting where the action take place in front of a larger public.

While it may be fun to surprise him with a public pegging I will not recommend it for beginners. Tell him a few days before the event. This way he will have to cope with the full pre-action stress of knowing what is coming at a specific time and place.

Since the humiliation side is a major factor in any public demonstration of dominance it is much more effective if you have him fully aware ahead of time. It also give you a lot more control on the way he prepare himself for the event. Make him wear a butt plug for a full day before Public Pegging.