- Obtain a jelly dildo or other flexible, phallic-shaped object.
- Get into a position where your mouth, throat, and esophagus are all in a straight line.
- Put the dildo in your mouth and perform oral sex on it to get everything loosened up and to relax a bit. When you’re ready, slide the head of it into the back of your mouth along the top of your tongue until you sense your gag reflex kicking in.
- Rest it there for a minute or two until that subsides. Tell yourself it’s supposed to be there. Relax, remain calm, and don’t get anxious.
- Gradually slide the dildo a little further, a millimeter at a time, stopping and holding each time you feel like you’re going to gag. Repeat this process as long as you can continue to make progress. This may take days or even weeks.
- At some point you’re going to reach the back of your throat. You’ll need to take a quick breath, relax your throat, and push the dildo down into your throat. If your neck is not straight, you may need to force it a bit.
- Continue sliding it down into your throat and into your esophagus. You’ll encounter a constriction known as the upper esophageal sphincter and it may take a bit of force to push it through there as well. The smooth surface of the dildo will not damage your throat, however, and you should continue pushing the dildo in.
- Once you have it in as far as you can get it, slowly withdraw it to learn the sensations of what a dildo coming out of your mouth is going to feel like. Don’t yank it out, but withdraw it gradually.
- Continue practicing until it becomes second nature to you.
- Once you’re comfortable with it going in and coming out, gradually speed up the penetration and follow it immediately by a withdrawal.
Saturday, 9 December 2017
Learn to Deepthroat
10 things to Do - Female Domination Style
1. Sexual Control
If you want to dominate your man in the bedroom, sexual control is the most basic requirement. This fantasy is about giving you all the sexual power, so your pleasure must come first.
Think about it, from the woman’s perspective, most sexual encounters tend to shorter and less satisfying than she would like. Not this time. For this encounter, he is only allowed to orgasm when (and if) you permit it. If he cannot agree to this basic rule, then all bets are off. If, on the other hand, he agrees, well then for all practical purposes you are already in charge of the bedroom.
As usual, he will want to rush to the main attraction, but now you can extend the foreplay for as long as you want. And, the hornier he gets, the more desperately willing he will be to do anything and everything you say. The truth is, a certain amount of sexual frustration on his part is what gives you power. Sexual control really is the basis for all domination/submission foreplay.
2. Sexy Enslavement
Ok, so you have established sexual control. Now what? Well, the next step is to make him your own personal love slave. Order him to serve you wine, give you a massage, strip naked, kneel at your feet… literally anything you want.
For this night he is yours…so have fun with it. Just be sure to speak with authority. Tell him what to do, and expect him to obey immediately, without question. Remember, if you want him to treat you like a Queen, you have to act like a Queen. So approach this role play with confidence.
Also, you may even want to give him strict rules to reinforce your dominance. A few common ideas: make him only address you a formal title (Queen, Mistress, etc.), prohibit from asking any questions, restrict him from touching your body or himself during foreplay (you are the only one that gets to touch), etc. Obviously, he must be punished if he ever breaks any of your rules.
Finally, never forget that, though he must wait patiently for when (and if) he get to climax, you face no such restriction. So, use him as a sex slave. This may mean you order him to give you oral sex. Or if you prefer, bring a vibrator into the bedroom. Whatever it takes to get yours. After all, the ultimate goal of any “slave” is the pleasure and satisfaction of his mistress.
Ok, so you have established sexual control. Now what? Well, the next step is to make him your own personal love slave. Order him to serve you wine, give you a massage, strip naked, kneel at your feet… literally anything you want.
For this night he is yours…so have fun with it. Just be sure to speak with authority. Tell him what to do, and expect him to obey immediately, without question. Remember, if you want him to treat you like a Queen, you have to act like a Queen. So approach this role play with confidence.
Also, you may even want to give him strict rules to reinforce your dominance. A few common ideas: make him only address you a formal title (Queen, Mistress, etc.), prohibit from asking any questions, restrict him from touching your body or himself during foreplay (you are the only one that gets to touch), etc. Obviously, he must be punished if he ever breaks any of your rules.
Finally, never forget that, though he must wait patiently for when (and if) he get to climax, you face no such restriction. So, use him as a sex slave. This may mean you order him to give you oral sex. Or if you prefer, bring a vibrator into the bedroom. Whatever it takes to get yours. After all, the ultimate goal of any “slave” is the pleasure and satisfaction of his mistress.
3. Bondage
The most direct way to take control of the bedroom is to introduce bondage. This can be as basic as blindfolding him during foreplay and/or sex. Or, it may involve binding his hands or otherwise restraining him.
Either way, there is something incredibly erotic about the loss of control. Bondage puts him in a very vulnerable position, which for most men (whether they admit it or not) is a huge turn on.Binding his hands (or handcuffing him) is good for simple play. But, it is really worth experimenting with slightly more advance bondage.
Probably the most popular bondage position is spread eagle- where both his and ankles are tied down to the bed. From this position he can squirm, but he won’t be able to escape. You meanwhile, have total control. You can play with body for as long as you desire. This may include giving him pleasure and stimulation of various kinds, or making him give you pleasure. For example, one rather evil, but fun, thing it try from this position is called face sitting: straddle his face while he’s tied up, and order him to give you oral pleasure. Or, pleasure yourself while he is restrained. Watching (or listening) to you pleasure yourself while not being able to participate (or touch himself) is an intense, but erotic torment for any man.
Finally, if you really want be dangerous, use temperature to enhance his stimulation. Ice can really enhance both pleasure and pain…as can heat. You can, for example, drag ice across his chest or carefully drip hot wax on his body while he his restrained.
Overall, bondage in its various forms is easiest way to turn your hunky man into your own personal little sex toy. Just be sure to play safe! Always use a safeword, and invest in a few toys designed for this type of play.
The most direct way to take control of the bedroom is to introduce bondage. This can be as basic as blindfolding him during foreplay and/or sex. Or, it may involve binding his hands or otherwise restraining him.
Either way, there is something incredibly erotic about the loss of control. Bondage puts him in a very vulnerable position, which for most men (whether they admit it or not) is a huge turn on.Binding his hands (or handcuffing him) is good for simple play. But, it is really worth experimenting with slightly more advance bondage.
Probably the most popular bondage position is spread eagle- where both his and ankles are tied down to the bed. From this position he can squirm, but he won’t be able to escape. You meanwhile, have total control. You can play with body for as long as you desire. This may include giving him pleasure and stimulation of various kinds, or making him give you pleasure. For example, one rather evil, but fun, thing it try from this position is called face sitting: straddle his face while he’s tied up, and order him to give you oral pleasure. Or, pleasure yourself while he is restrained. Watching (or listening) to you pleasure yourself while not being able to participate (or touch himself) is an intense, but erotic torment for any man.
Finally, if you really want be dangerous, use temperature to enhance his stimulation. Ice can really enhance both pleasure and pain…as can heat. You can, for example, drag ice across his chest or carefully drip hot wax on his body while he his restrained.
Overall, bondage in its various forms is easiest way to turn your hunky man into your own personal little sex toy. Just be sure to play safe! Always use a safeword, and invest in a few toys designed for this type of play.
4. Erotic Teasing
Once you have him tied up, what’s next? Well, the best thing to do now is tease him mercilessly. There is nothing sexier than watching your man squirm helplessly while you have your way with him.
Touch his body slowly, rub him, kiss various parts of his body, tickle him, speak to him seductively…whatever it takes to drive him wild with lust. The main idea here is to bring him close to climax, and then deny him. In addition to be fun, erotic teasing reinforces the exchange of sexual power. He only gets to release if and when you want him to. Until then, his body is your plaything. There is a ton of overlap between teasing and bondage. But, you can certainly tease him without bondage.
Just act as seductively as possible, and it will drive him crazy. Even mild teasing can have a dramatic effect on him. So have fun with it…casually introduce some new lingerie, tell him how wet you are, neglect to wear underwear… whatever. You can even tease him before the foreplay officially starts. Leave him a sexy voicemail or text message; he will be thinking about you all day.
Once you have him tied up, what’s next? Well, the best thing to do now is tease him mercilessly. There is nothing sexier than watching your man squirm helplessly while you have your way with him.
Touch his body slowly, rub him, kiss various parts of his body, tickle him, speak to him seductively…whatever it takes to drive him wild with lust. The main idea here is to bring him close to climax, and then deny him. In addition to be fun, erotic teasing reinforces the exchange of sexual power. He only gets to release if and when you want him to. Until then, his body is your plaything. There is a ton of overlap between teasing and bondage. But, you can certainly tease him without bondage.
Just act as seductively as possible, and it will drive him crazy. Even mild teasing can have a dramatic effect on him. So have fun with it…casually introduce some new lingerie, tell him how wet you are, neglect to wear underwear… whatever. You can even tease him before the foreplay officially starts. Leave him a sexy voicemail or text message; he will be thinking about you all day.
5. Corporal Punishment
Admit it, you want him to be your whipping boy. He (secretly) wants it too. So, make it happen!
Corporal punishment can refer to anything from light erotic spanking to flogging with a whip or crop. And it can be anything from extremely mild and playful to painful and intense. Early on most women want to approach with caution, starting out with gentle play and gradually becoming more aggressive over time.
Obviously, if you are going to experiment with any form of punishment make sure you and your man on the same page. Talk about things beforehand, and keep communication open before and after all sessions, and use a safe word.
Admit it, you want him to be your whipping boy. He (secretly) wants it too. So, make it happen!
Corporal punishment can refer to anything from light erotic spanking to flogging with a whip or crop. And it can be anything from extremely mild and playful to painful and intense. Early on most women want to approach with caution, starting out with gentle play and gradually becoming more aggressive over time.
Obviously, if you are going to experiment with any form of punishment make sure you and your man on the same page. Talk about things beforehand, and keep communication open before and after all sessions, and use a safe word.
6. Non-corporal Punishment
Spanking and/or whipping can certainly be both fun and arousing. But, there are plenty of other, more interesting ways to discipline a naughty boy.
Even without exploring hardcore S&M, there are literally hundreds of clever ways to punish him. A few examples: pinch him aggressively, put him in time out, make do a difficult or repetitive task, prohibit him from speaking, physically gag him, use clothespins on his body, make him wear a collar and leash, make him lick your boots and/or feet, temporarily deny him food or other rewards, etc. And, of course, bondage itself can be a form of punishment (his hands will be tied if he gets too touchy, etc.). The possibilities really are endless, just use your imagination.
If all else fails, order him to come up with his own punishments. You may be surprised what kind of things he comes up with. Also, keep in mind, some punishment ideas work well for disciplining him and/or teaching him a lesson, while others may be better if you simply want to torture him a bit for your own amusement.
Remember, no matter how sweet and loving you are under normal circumstances, in this context you need to embrace your evil side. This is the one time in life when it’s perfectly ok to be a little cruel and devious. Domination play is strange that way. You torture him, and he loves you for it.
Spanking and/or whipping can certainly be both fun and arousing. But, there are plenty of other, more interesting ways to discipline a naughty boy.
Even without exploring hardcore S&M, there are literally hundreds of clever ways to punish him. A few examples: pinch him aggressively, put him in time out, make do a difficult or repetitive task, prohibit him from speaking, physically gag him, use clothespins on his body, make him wear a collar and leash, make him lick your boots and/or feet, temporarily deny him food or other rewards, etc. And, of course, bondage itself can be a form of punishment (his hands will be tied if he gets too touchy, etc.). The possibilities really are endless, just use your imagination.
If all else fails, order him to come up with his own punishments. You may be surprised what kind of things he comes up with. Also, keep in mind, some punishment ideas work well for disciplining him and/or teaching him a lesson, while others may be better if you simply want to torture him a bit for your own amusement.
Remember, no matter how sweet and loving you are under normal circumstances, in this context you need to embrace your evil side. This is the one time in life when it’s perfectly ok to be a little cruel and devious. Domination play is strange that way. You torture him, and he loves you for it.
7. Mind Games
Ladies if you really want to dominate the bedroom, you can’t just play with his body…you have to mess with his head!
Fickle Mistress: Tell him you feel sorry for him- you are going to stop playing with him and give him exactly what he desires, right now. Then start rubbing and kissing him. But then, just before the climax, abruptly change your mind. Or, alternatively, play the opposite game. Tell him you have decided he will not be allowed to orgasm tonight and the decision is final (even if it isn’t). In his desperation, he will suddenly become even more obedient and submissive.
Playful Threats: Just as your session begins, tell him you are going all out tonight. Tell him to prepare his mind, because you are going to enjoy really making him suffer. He will be both intimidated and incredibly aroused by these threats. Or, tell him that you have something special planned (a really evil new punishment perhaps). Even if you don’t have anything particularly special, the anticipation will drive him crazy. Later, if you didn’t unveil a new punishment, just tell him that he was such a good boy you didn’t need it. He will just have to wait till next time.
Begging: Make him beg for release, and then tease him about it. Laugh, giggle, and tell him how amusing you find his predicament. This, will of course, make him want to beg even more…creating (for him) a vicious cycle.
Interrogation: Accuse him of a “crime” or bad behavior. If he denies, tease/torture him until he confesses. The “crime” can just be something silly or sexy (did you masturbate last week? Etc.) Of course, once he admits to whatever it is, you will have punish him for it. The funny thing is, you can play this game whether he is “guilty” of the “crime” or not.
The bottom line is, playing with his mind can be just as powerful as playing with his body.
Ladies if you really want to dominate the bedroom, you can’t just play with his body…you have to mess with his head!
Fickle Mistress: Tell him you feel sorry for him- you are going to stop playing with him and give him exactly what he desires, right now. Then start rubbing and kissing him. But then, just before the climax, abruptly change your mind. Or, alternatively, play the opposite game. Tell him you have decided he will not be allowed to orgasm tonight and the decision is final (even if it isn’t). In his desperation, he will suddenly become even more obedient and submissive.
Playful Threats: Just as your session begins, tell him you are going all out tonight. Tell him to prepare his mind, because you are going to enjoy really making him suffer. He will be both intimidated and incredibly aroused by these threats. Or, tell him that you have something special planned (a really evil new punishment perhaps). Even if you don’t have anything particularly special, the anticipation will drive him crazy. Later, if you didn’t unveil a new punishment, just tell him that he was such a good boy you didn’t need it. He will just have to wait till next time.
Begging: Make him beg for release, and then tease him about it. Laugh, giggle, and tell him how amusing you find his predicament. This, will of course, make him want to beg even more…creating (for him) a vicious cycle.
Interrogation: Accuse him of a “crime” or bad behavior. If he denies, tease/torture him until he confesses. The “crime” can just be something silly or sexy (did you masturbate last week? Etc.) Of course, once he admits to whatever it is, you will have punish him for it. The funny thing is, you can play this game whether he is “guilty” of the “crime” or not.
The bottom line is, playing with his mind can be just as powerful as playing with his body.
8. Roleplaying and Fantasy Scenarios
In the bedroom, many people enjoy sexual roleplaying. There are plenty of ways to use role playing scenarios in the context of bondage and submission/domination. For some people, role playing a formal scenario can help set the scene and keep things interesting.
A few common ideas:
These are just a few ideas. But, again, the possibilities are endless. Develop as scene that suits your own tastes, and have at it.
In the bedroom, many people enjoy sexual roleplaying. There are plenty of ways to use role playing scenarios in the context of bondage and submission/domination. For some people, role playing a formal scenario can help set the scene and keep things interesting.
A few common ideas:
- Wealthy Roman lady purchases a captured warrior to be used as her own personal pleasure slave.
- Sexy teacher must discipline a male student who simply will not behave himself.
- Wicked young princess (or Queen) decides to have some fun with the royal whipping boy.
- Seductive sorceress puts a magical spell on a handsome knight.
- Female detective uses unorthodox methods when interrogating a male suspect.
- Naive delivery boy falls into the clutches of a seductive (and sadistic) dominatrix.
These are just a few ideas. But, again, the possibilities are endless. Develop as scene that suits your own tastes, and have at it.
9. Slave Training
If you plan to play the dominate role frequently, it may be useful to “train him” in what you like. This may sound crazy, but the truth he won’t become your perfect little sex slave without some training.
This could simply mean you establish a basic routine (every scene starts with him stripping, kneeling down, and putting his hands behind his back). Or, you may make him memorize specific commands. Perhaps snapping your fingers means that he is to assume the position for a spanking. Training can also mean you teach him how to give you satisfying massages or foot rubs. The point is, you can train him to do whatever you want.
Now, when training him, both positive and negative reinforcement can be quite useful. If he has performed well, tell him (good boy) and perhaps give him some kind of reward. Obviously, if he ever performs poorly, he should be punished. At the very least, you should use the domination fantasy experience to train him in how to give you good oral sex. It may take him a bit, but he will improve.
You may soon find yourself having many more orgasms, on a more regular basis, than you ever thought possible.
If you plan to play the dominate role frequently, it may be useful to “train him” in what you like. This may sound crazy, but the truth he won’t become your perfect little sex slave without some training.
This could simply mean you establish a basic routine (every scene starts with him stripping, kneeling down, and putting his hands behind his back). Or, you may make him memorize specific commands. Perhaps snapping your fingers means that he is to assume the position for a spanking. Training can also mean you teach him how to give you satisfying massages or foot rubs. The point is, you can train him to do whatever you want.
Now, when training him, both positive and negative reinforcement can be quite useful. If he has performed well, tell him (good boy) and perhaps give him some kind of reward. Obviously, if he ever performs poorly, he should be punished. At the very least, you should use the domination fantasy experience to train him in how to give you good oral sex. It may take him a bit, but he will improve.
You may soon find yourself having many more orgasms, on a more regular basis, than you ever thought possible.
10. Body Worship
Last but not least, body worship should become a staple of your bedroom activities. You are sexual goddess, he needs to treat you like one.
The thing is, there are plenty of times when he is much hornier than you are. He wants it so bad, while you could basically take it or leave it. Well, put all that sexual energy to good use! Have him lavish your body with tender affection and sensual indulgence…kisses, caresses, massage, whatever it is that you like. The advantage of body worship is that is does not have to be explicitly sexual. It could as simple as kissing your hand or rubbing your feet. Just tell him what you want, and watch him go all out. (you may decide to give him some strictly enforced restrictions as well…no groping or touching of the breasts, etc.)
Of course you, as the sexy lady, do not have to do anything to reciprocate his affections. You can literally be reading a book or watching tv while he worships your body. Amusingly, if you do ignore him, this will tend to make him more aroused, not less. Try as he might, all this physical affection will do nothing to relieve the sexual pressure building up inside him. Thus, as he obsesses on your body, he gradually become even more aroused (and enslaved). You’re doing nothing, while he is become ever more wrapped around your finger.
Last but not least, body worship should become a staple of your bedroom activities. You are sexual goddess, he needs to treat you like one.
The thing is, there are plenty of times when he is much hornier than you are. He wants it so bad, while you could basically take it or leave it. Well, put all that sexual energy to good use! Have him lavish your body with tender affection and sensual indulgence…kisses, caresses, massage, whatever it is that you like. The advantage of body worship is that is does not have to be explicitly sexual. It could as simple as kissing your hand or rubbing your feet. Just tell him what you want, and watch him go all out. (you may decide to give him some strictly enforced restrictions as well…no groping or touching of the breasts, etc.)
Of course you, as the sexy lady, do not have to do anything to reciprocate his affections. You can literally be reading a book or watching tv while he worships your body. Amusingly, if you do ignore him, this will tend to make him more aroused, not less. Try as he might, all this physical affection will do nothing to relieve the sexual pressure building up inside him. Thus, as he obsesses on your body, he gradually become even more aroused (and enslaved). You’re doing nothing, while he is become ever more wrapped around your finger.
How to Properly Edge Him
The real art with edging is to learn exactly how to get him as close as possible to an explosion without actually allowing him to erupt. If you pay close attention while you fondle and play, you’ll learn precisely the clear warning signs of an imminent ejaculation. There’s nothing quite like edging for subliminally building a guys libido and desire. Not only will he cherish you more, thanks to neurochemistry, but within a short timeframe his vulnerable and exploitable mind will be totally under your feminine control…
Here are some tips:
1 - Make him always tell you exactly how close he is. Kind of obvious, but Insist that he tells you when to slow down and when to stop. Especially in the beginning while you’re learning how to read his body language. Keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best. You’ll soon get the feel of it and he’ll love you even more for it…
2 - Feel for his body and muscles tensing, him holding his breath, arching his back or even tensing, all are signs he’s getting very close. Learn to read and understand the signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re learning. Just be sure it’s a libido-building ruined orgasm…
Here are some tips:
1 - Make him always tell you exactly how close he is. Kind of obvious, but Insist that he tells you when to slow down and when to stop. Especially in the beginning while you’re learning how to read his body language. Keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best. You’ll soon get the feel of it and he’ll love you even more for it…
2 - Feel for his body and muscles tensing, him holding his breath, arching his back or even tensing, all are signs he’s getting very close. Learn to read and understand the signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re learning. Just be sure it’s a libido-building ruined orgasm…
3 - Move from strong to soft strokes, from his vein filled shaft up to his tip constantly. Change it up, take your time and make sure you get him ultra rock hard for maximum dopamine production in his vulnerable brain… I personally like lots of lube and oil and fast but not too tight of strokes, and then as he gets closer and closer, move to a looser grip and then focus on his hypersensitive head and frenulem (the strip underneath the head at the top where guys are most sensitive). Also take breaks frequently. It’s better to stop one second too early than one second too late, stroke - edge - deny - repeat…
4 - Make it ultimately his fault if he erupts. So again, if he does explode make sure you properly ruin it. Stop all rubbing and stimulation as soon as he starts to climax. Or if he’s tied down, you turn it into a post orgasm torture, after the ruined orgasm, where you use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive Joystick, scolding him by saying: you’re so naughty, I didn’t give you permission to cum…
5 - When you do want to enjoy his pent up explosions, make that part of the tease too. When you’re planning to make him climax and erupt, this is a great time to also practice your edging techniques. Use it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him, where you’re not worrying about accidently taking him over the edge…
6 - Oh and you can add a wonderfully sadistic element with this line: If you can hold on for just five minutes more my love, I won’t ruin it when you do cum, okay baby…
Thanks to FemdomDoneRight for this effective mindfuck and programming tool.
Extra notes by HerBodyOnMyMind:
1 - Routine is critical. Edge him every day. For best results: One short session (15 minutes) every other morning; one medium-length session (20-30 minutes) every evening before bed; and at least one long session (40+ minutes) every weekend. If this seems like a lot of time, consider how much time you spend alone doing things you wish he was interested in (like watching your favorite shows on Netflix). This is one activity he will eagerly join. Edging is addictive to male neurochemistry, and it very specifically addicts him to you, as long as you do it regularly. The more you do it, the more deeply he bonds to you, and the more he will crave spending time with you throughout the day. This feeds on itself, and before long, your nightly “quality time” together becomes perfectly natural for both of you. Even if you’re already in love, married, and devoted to each other, your connection can still go deeper - and the fire of wilder days can be rekindled. No more going to bed alone! Also, any time spent having sex or pleasuring you can count toward his edge time. (at your discretion) Daily orgasms for you, his heat beside you as you drift to sleep, and an eager, attentive lover totally addicted to your touch - what’s not to love? No matter how busy or tired you are, you both have the time for this, I promise. Do it for a week, and you will start making time for it.
2 - Edge him more than once. For most, this is obvious. But for some new to edging, it needs to be said. Don’t just edge him once and assume you’re done. Depending on his stamina (and how long it’s been since his last orgasm) it can take a while to build him up to his first edge of the night. It’s important to think of it that way: “first edge of the night.” Because once you’ve guided him to his edge - and stopped - he is still highly aroused, and edging him again becomes easy. All that build-up was time invested to get him to his most blissful state. Now “cash in” your investment and keep him there, by edging him over and over again. It should be easy. A single, slow, tight pump is sometimes enough. Watch his reaction and enjoy the show! (Women report that this is usually their favorite part - guiding their loved one from edge to edge with subtle touches, watching him, and knowing the exquisite gift he trusts only her to give.)
3 - Keep him guessing. Every single time you touch his cock, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give him a full orgasm. Lie to him. Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t. Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm. Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night. This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth. Once he learns you are unpredictable, his body will naturally prepare for orgasm, (every time!) giving him the rush he craves - while his mind reels in fear of the alternatives. You are fucking his mind, in addition to his body - in a very good way! Watch how he reacts - from the curl of his toes to the flare in his eyes. It’s incredibly hot.
4 - A “ruined” orgasm is when you let go and cease all stimulation, a split second before he climaxes. His cum will sort of just leak out, and it’s not as satisfying as a full orgasm. “Ruined” is a misnomer, though, because he still gets some small pleasure from it, so don’t be afraid to ruin him regularly. He might thrash, beg, or try to finish it himself, so this is a good time to playfully experiment with restraints - something as simple as tying his wrists together behind his back with a belt or necktie will do the trick. The important difference between a ruined and regular orgasm is that the male libido does not diminish after a ruined orgasm. He will stay horny, eager, erect, and attentive, as though he had no orgasm at all, and you can continue playing, if you wish, after a short break. You can even ruin him twice in one night - the second one is usually harder to achieve, though.
-BodyOnMind
4 - Make it ultimately his fault if he erupts. So again, if he does explode make sure you properly ruin it. Stop all rubbing and stimulation as soon as he starts to climax. Or if he’s tied down, you turn it into a post orgasm torture, after the ruined orgasm, where you use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive Joystick, scolding him by saying: you’re so naughty, I didn’t give you permission to cum…
5 - When you do want to enjoy his pent up explosions, make that part of the tease too. When you’re planning to make him climax and erupt, this is a great time to also practice your edging techniques. Use it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him, where you’re not worrying about accidently taking him over the edge…
6 - Oh and you can add a wonderfully sadistic element with this line: If you can hold on for just five minutes more my love, I won’t ruin it when you do cum, okay baby…
Thanks to FemdomDoneRight for this effective mindfuck and programming tool.
Extra notes by HerBodyOnMyMind:
1 - Routine is critical. Edge him every day. For best results: One short session (15 minutes) every other morning; one medium-length session (20-30 minutes) every evening before bed; and at least one long session (40+ minutes) every weekend. If this seems like a lot of time, consider how much time you spend alone doing things you wish he was interested in (like watching your favorite shows on Netflix). This is one activity he will eagerly join. Edging is addictive to male neurochemistry, and it very specifically addicts him to you, as long as you do it regularly. The more you do it, the more deeply he bonds to you, and the more he will crave spending time with you throughout the day. This feeds on itself, and before long, your nightly “quality time” together becomes perfectly natural for both of you. Even if you’re already in love, married, and devoted to each other, your connection can still go deeper - and the fire of wilder days can be rekindled. No more going to bed alone! Also, any time spent having sex or pleasuring you can count toward his edge time. (at your discretion) Daily orgasms for you, his heat beside you as you drift to sleep, and an eager, attentive lover totally addicted to your touch - what’s not to love? No matter how busy or tired you are, you both have the time for this, I promise. Do it for a week, and you will start making time for it.
2 - Edge him more than once. For most, this is obvious. But for some new to edging, it needs to be said. Don’t just edge him once and assume you’re done. Depending on his stamina (and how long it’s been since his last orgasm) it can take a while to build him up to his first edge of the night. It’s important to think of it that way: “first edge of the night.” Because once you’ve guided him to his edge - and stopped - he is still highly aroused, and edging him again becomes easy. All that build-up was time invested to get him to his most blissful state. Now “cash in” your investment and keep him there, by edging him over and over again. It should be easy. A single, slow, tight pump is sometimes enough. Watch his reaction and enjoy the show! (Women report that this is usually their favorite part - guiding their loved one from edge to edge with subtle touches, watching him, and knowing the exquisite gift he trusts only her to give.)
3 - Keep him guessing. Every single time you touch his cock, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give him a full orgasm. Lie to him. Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t. Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm. Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night. This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth. Once he learns you are unpredictable, his body will naturally prepare for orgasm, (every time!) giving him the rush he craves - while his mind reels in fear of the alternatives. You are fucking his mind, in addition to his body - in a very good way! Watch how he reacts - from the curl of his toes to the flare in his eyes. It’s incredibly hot.
4 - A “ruined” orgasm is when you let go and cease all stimulation, a split second before he climaxes. His cum will sort of just leak out, and it’s not as satisfying as a full orgasm. “Ruined” is a misnomer, though, because he still gets some small pleasure from it, so don’t be afraid to ruin him regularly. He might thrash, beg, or try to finish it himself, so this is a good time to playfully experiment with restraints - something as simple as tying his wrists together behind his back with a belt or necktie will do the trick. The important difference between a ruined and regular orgasm is that the male libido does not diminish after a ruined orgasm. He will stay horny, eager, erect, and attentive, as though he had no orgasm at all, and you can continue playing, if you wish, after a short break. You can even ruin him twice in one night - the second one is usually harder to achieve, though.
-BodyOnMind
Being Divinely Dominant… by Tickleberry
Being Divinely Dominant to your man
Divine Domination naturally involves the subsumation of Erotic Surrender, and is an exciting variation on the role play of slave and Mistress, placing your man in the position of Erotically Surrendered Servant with duties above and beyond those of a slave.
The Erotically Surrendered Servant cannot exist independently of You, his Mistress. Being in the role of your servant gives him something to aspire to, and brings excitement and variety to your fantasies. His elevated position of Servant has to be earned, but once earned and bestowed upon him places responsibilities on him to serve you with honour, dignity, and absolute devotion.
PROVING HIMSELF WORTHY
You may want to put him through a number of tests to ensure he can serve you properly and in all ways. You could include both domestic and intimate tasks. These would test his abilities to maintain the home or bedroom, as well as making sure he can anticipate and satisfy you every need and desire.
You could see if he can provide sexual pleasure for extended periods neither seeking pleasure for himself nor succumbing to his own lust spontaneously, particularly if he has been placed in chastity. Through the game you will find your own ways to do this and the prospective servant is unlikely to be short of ideas to please you. Don’t simply let him suggest everything, though. You are in charge – it is his place to do what you say, not manipulate you for his pleasure, however surreptitiously!
THE COLLARING CEREMONY
Once he has proven himself to you, a collaring ceremony will cement his status as your Fully Surrendered Servant, and his erotic surrender to your Divine Dominance begins. Pick a new collar which will reflect not only his status but, more importantly, the value of the gift you have bestowed upon him. You have raised him from the lowly position of slave and his collar should remind him of his debt to you every day. He is your plaything, and will offer himself for your pleasure whenever, and in whatever way, you desire.
Once you have collared him, you can establish the rules governing his behaviour as a servant. For instance, how he stands, how he kneels before you, how he should look at you and address you, and so forth. You can think of rules regarding how, and in what position, he pleasures you, as well as ways in which demonstrates his own restraint. For example, you might want to make him hold his cum as he masturbates while you kneel astride his face, taking your pleasure from his tongue.
MAKING HIM COMPLETELY YOURS
You might also wish to assert your Dominance of him by choosing his clothes and other attire. This can include another less obvious collar which could be worn under clothing, cock rings, and chastity devices. Some Dommes make their servants wear a finger ring engraved with phrases like *“In Erotic Servitude”, “I am Your pleasure”, or “Semper Praesentialiter” (‘I am always in your presence’) – a constant reminder of the Woman whom he serves.
He should always be properly attired as you will have instructed him, always paying particular attention to intimate wear such as cock rings and chastity devices, never allowing them to become soiled or odourous.
DISCIPLINE
You have the right to correct or discipline him as you see fit. Should he transgress against you, he should kneel before you, confess his offence, and seek your forgiveness. Whatever your punishment he will endure it without complaint. Unless you want him to, of course.
What kind of discipline you dispense is completely up to you, but you could consider some of the following:
Reverse Cum Control: Forbid him to ejaculate while you masturbate him (preferably after several days’ denial) and then make sure he does cum. Then you can punish him for disobeying you. Two or three firm smacks per spurt is usual. Or you could measure the length of his spurt and punish him by the inch.
Extended days in chastity: Double his usual period in chastity and fill his time with activities which will increase his frustration no end, perhaps even forcing him to watch you masturbate.
Wearing handcuffs for the day: This can be particularly entertaining, especially where dressing himself and performing the day’s chores are concerned. Difficult tasks leave plenty of scope for extra chastisement on the way
Removal of his collar: For a servant to lose his collar, even briefly, should be the most shaming of punishments because it means he is demoted to slave and should be put to work, rather than allowed to serve. Toilets scrubbed with toothbrushes and shoes licked clean, along with the contents of your laundry basket!
Once punishment is over he should kneel again before you, thank you for punishing him with justice and fairness, and ask to be allowed to continue serving as before.
You are his lover, his guide, his teacher and his muse. You know when to listen, when to take control, when to stop and can distinguish his fantasies from reality. He shares with you his secret desires and you are his trusted partner. Overall you are an imaginative, creative role player and lover. You’re concerned with his emotional and physical self. You are empowered and lovingly, deliciously wicked!
Thanks to Tickleberry
Divine Domination naturally involves the subsumation of Erotic Surrender, and is an exciting variation on the role play of slave and Mistress, placing your man in the position of Erotically Surrendered Servant with duties above and beyond those of a slave.
The Erotically Surrendered Servant cannot exist independently of You, his Mistress. Being in the role of your servant gives him something to aspire to, and brings excitement and variety to your fantasies. His elevated position of Servant has to be earned, but once earned and bestowed upon him places responsibilities on him to serve you with honour, dignity, and absolute devotion.
PROVING HIMSELF WORTHY
You may want to put him through a number of tests to ensure he can serve you properly and in all ways. You could include both domestic and intimate tasks. These would test his abilities to maintain the home or bedroom, as well as making sure he can anticipate and satisfy you every need and desire.
You could see if he can provide sexual pleasure for extended periods neither seeking pleasure for himself nor succumbing to his own lust spontaneously, particularly if he has been placed in chastity. Through the game you will find your own ways to do this and the prospective servant is unlikely to be short of ideas to please you. Don’t simply let him suggest everything, though. You are in charge – it is his place to do what you say, not manipulate you for his pleasure, however surreptitiously!
THE COLLARING CEREMONY
Once he has proven himself to you, a collaring ceremony will cement his status as your Fully Surrendered Servant, and his erotic surrender to your Divine Dominance begins. Pick a new collar which will reflect not only his status but, more importantly, the value of the gift you have bestowed upon him. You have raised him from the lowly position of slave and his collar should remind him of his debt to you every day. He is your plaything, and will offer himself for your pleasure whenever, and in whatever way, you desire.
Once you have collared him, you can establish the rules governing his behaviour as a servant. For instance, how he stands, how he kneels before you, how he should look at you and address you, and so forth. You can think of rules regarding how, and in what position, he pleasures you, as well as ways in which demonstrates his own restraint. For example, you might want to make him hold his cum as he masturbates while you kneel astride his face, taking your pleasure from his tongue.
MAKING HIM COMPLETELY YOURS
You might also wish to assert your Dominance of him by choosing his clothes and other attire. This can include another less obvious collar which could be worn under clothing, cock rings, and chastity devices. Some Dommes make their servants wear a finger ring engraved with phrases like *“In Erotic Servitude”, “I am Your pleasure”, or “Semper Praesentialiter” (‘I am always in your presence’) – a constant reminder of the Woman whom he serves.
He should always be properly attired as you will have instructed him, always paying particular attention to intimate wear such as cock rings and chastity devices, never allowing them to become soiled or odourous.
DISCIPLINE
You have the right to correct or discipline him as you see fit. Should he transgress against you, he should kneel before you, confess his offence, and seek your forgiveness. Whatever your punishment he will endure it without complaint. Unless you want him to, of course.
What kind of discipline you dispense is completely up to you, but you could consider some of the following:
Reverse Cum Control: Forbid him to ejaculate while you masturbate him (preferably after several days’ denial) and then make sure he does cum. Then you can punish him for disobeying you. Two or three firm smacks per spurt is usual. Or you could measure the length of his spurt and punish him by the inch.
Extended days in chastity: Double his usual period in chastity and fill his time with activities which will increase his frustration no end, perhaps even forcing him to watch you masturbate.
Wearing handcuffs for the day: This can be particularly entertaining, especially where dressing himself and performing the day’s chores are concerned. Difficult tasks leave plenty of scope for extra chastisement on the way
Removal of his collar: For a servant to lose his collar, even briefly, should be the most shaming of punishments because it means he is demoted to slave and should be put to work, rather than allowed to serve. Toilets scrubbed with toothbrushes and shoes licked clean, along with the contents of your laundry basket!
Once punishment is over he should kneel again before you, thank you for punishing him with justice and fairness, and ask to be allowed to continue serving as before.
You are his lover, his guide, his teacher and his muse. You know when to listen, when to take control, when to stop and can distinguish his fantasies from reality. He shares with you his secret desires and you are his trusted partner. Overall you are an imaginative, creative role player and lover. You’re concerned with his emotional and physical self. You are empowered and lovingly, deliciously wicked!
Thanks to Tickleberry
Rules for a Male in Chastity
1. As your owner, owns every part of you she is entitled to determine which bits are used and when. Your owner therefore has the right to secure your genitals in any sort of chastity device of her choosing whenever she likes and for whatever period she likes.
2. Your owner does not require any reason or justification to lock you in a chastity device. The fact that she wants to is reason enough. Whether you do or don’t want to is irrelevant. You gave her the right to make the choice for you.
3. You may not attempt to remove or circumvent any device with which you owner fits you. You are obliged to co-operate with your owner in the fitting of the device, help her in the securing of your genitals and draw her attention to any shortcomings in the functioning of the device so that she may ensure that it performs as she intends. An attempt to remove the device will and should be harshly punished.
4. You must keep yourself clean and well cared for so that the wearing of the device is not impeded on health grounds and you can continue to be locked up for as long as she wants. This includes submitting to prostate milking to keep you clean internally.
5. Your owner has locked up your genitals to deprive you of the ability to play with yourself, attain erection or orgasm. They are no longer for your pleasure: they’re for hers. What you want and need are no longer relevant.
6. You are obliged to keep your owner informed of your experiences in wearing your device. You should look at and touch the locked up area regularly to remind yourself of what you used to be able to use and enjoy.
Which she has locked away from you. Let her know how that makes you feel. She enjoys hearing about your suffering. If she does not you will soon be fitted with a gag to stop your pathetic whining.
7. Your owner is entitled to tease you about your lack of ability to attain an erection or gain any satisfaction. She has taken it away from you and wants to enjoy her power over you. She can get satisfaction whenever she wants: you can’t. Tough. In future many of your duties will include giving her such pleasure, through your tongue.
8. She probably finds your lock up amusing. You are not entitled to have your neutered status kept secret. She may decide to inform your friends, boss, or family as she see fit, or just random strangers in the street. If she wants to show off your condition, she can and will. You are no longer a man, but a inferior male, you exist for her pleasure in whatever form she decides.
9. Your owner is entitled to stimulate you by exposure to erotic material, direct contact or otherwise so that she can enjoy the fact you gain only discomfort, not pleasure from it. You Will never touch your unlocked pathetic excuse for a cock again, from now you will be bound with your arms behind your back when ever you are unlocked for cleaning or to shave off your pubic hair. You will already be shaving the rest of you hair off on your own, she does not want to waste her time shaving the rest of you this is your responsibility, Fail to keep up with this duty satisfactorily will result in the loss of your eyebrows on a 1st offence and a following offence will result in a loss of all hair any where.
10. You should take pleasure in the fact that your owner takes the time to control the use of her property and happy that it gives her some amusement. You should always thank her for securing you in chastity and let her know how grateful you are to have your genitals locked up under her control. You should always be happy if she decides to extend your time in chastity and tell her how much you would like to continue to be Locked and serve her. Ask your self do you want to be home alone sat in front of you computer jacking off alone, or down on your knee’s licking her where you belong?
2. Your owner does not require any reason or justification to lock you in a chastity device. The fact that she wants to is reason enough. Whether you do or don’t want to is irrelevant. You gave her the right to make the choice for you.
3. You may not attempt to remove or circumvent any device with which you owner fits you. You are obliged to co-operate with your owner in the fitting of the device, help her in the securing of your genitals and draw her attention to any shortcomings in the functioning of the device so that she may ensure that it performs as she intends. An attempt to remove the device will and should be harshly punished.
4. You must keep yourself clean and well cared for so that the wearing of the device is not impeded on health grounds and you can continue to be locked up for as long as she wants. This includes submitting to prostate milking to keep you clean internally.
5. Your owner has locked up your genitals to deprive you of the ability to play with yourself, attain erection or orgasm. They are no longer for your pleasure: they’re for hers. What you want and need are no longer relevant.
6. You are obliged to keep your owner informed of your experiences in wearing your device. You should look at and touch the locked up area regularly to remind yourself of what you used to be able to use and enjoy.
Which she has locked away from you. Let her know how that makes you feel. She enjoys hearing about your suffering. If she does not you will soon be fitted with a gag to stop your pathetic whining.
7. Your owner is entitled to tease you about your lack of ability to attain an erection or gain any satisfaction. She has taken it away from you and wants to enjoy her power over you. She can get satisfaction whenever she wants: you can’t. Tough. In future many of your duties will include giving her such pleasure, through your tongue.
8. She probably finds your lock up amusing. You are not entitled to have your neutered status kept secret. She may decide to inform your friends, boss, or family as she see fit, or just random strangers in the street. If she wants to show off your condition, she can and will. You are no longer a man, but a inferior male, you exist for her pleasure in whatever form she decides.
9. Your owner is entitled to stimulate you by exposure to erotic material, direct contact or otherwise so that she can enjoy the fact you gain only discomfort, not pleasure from it. You Will never touch your unlocked pathetic excuse for a cock again, from now you will be bound with your arms behind your back when ever you are unlocked for cleaning or to shave off your pubic hair. You will already be shaving the rest of you hair off on your own, she does not want to waste her time shaving the rest of you this is your responsibility, Fail to keep up with this duty satisfactorily will result in the loss of your eyebrows on a 1st offence and a following offence will result in a loss of all hair any where.
10. You should take pleasure in the fact that your owner takes the time to control the use of her property and happy that it gives her some amusement. You should always thank her for securing you in chastity and let her know how grateful you are to have your genitals locked up under her control. You should always be happy if she decides to extend your time in chastity and tell her how much you would like to continue to be Locked and serve her. Ask your self do you want to be home alone sat in front of you computer jacking off alone, or down on your knee’s licking her where you belong?
Friday, 1 December 2017
The femdom rules of engagement
1) Her word is his command.
2) His body is hers to do what she wants with.
3) She decides what clothes he wears, if any.
4) He may never touch her without permission.
5) She can order him to use his hands, penis or tongue to pleasure her in any way she wants, at any place and at any time.
6) Being allowed to lick/kiss any part of her body, including her pussy, ass, arm pits and feet is a privilege he should thank her for.
7) He must never have an orgasm without her permission.
8) He must never touch his penis while it is erect.
9) She may tease and stimulate him as she wishes without any obligation to allow him an orgasm.
10) She can bind him in any position she wants for her pleasure or amusement.
11) His genitals and ass must be clean and shaven at all times.
12) She can inspect his genitals and ass whenever she likes.
13) She can punish him physically for not following her directions or if she simply just feels like it.
14) She may penetrate his ass with butt plugs or strap-ons whenever she likes.
15) He is responsible for buying any sex toys she wants and cleaning them after use.
16) He should do all household chores, unless exceptions are made by her.
17) He must ask for permission to go to the bathroom.
18) When sharing a meal together he must always wait for her to start eating before he starts.
19) He must exercise for at least 30 minutes on average every day
20) She may change or add rules whenever she likes.
2) His body is hers to do what she wants with.
3) She decides what clothes he wears, if any.
4) He may never touch her without permission.
5) She can order him to use his hands, penis or tongue to pleasure her in any way she wants, at any place and at any time.
6) Being allowed to lick/kiss any part of her body, including her pussy, ass, arm pits and feet is a privilege he should thank her for.
7) He must never have an orgasm without her permission.
8) He must never touch his penis while it is erect.
9) She may tease and stimulate him as she wishes without any obligation to allow him an orgasm.
10) She can bind him in any position she wants for her pleasure or amusement.
11) His genitals and ass must be clean and shaven at all times.
12) She can inspect his genitals and ass whenever she likes.
13) She can punish him physically for not following her directions or if she simply just feels like it.
14) She may penetrate his ass with butt plugs or strap-ons whenever she likes.
15) He is responsible for buying any sex toys she wants and cleaning them after use.
16) He should do all household chores, unless exceptions are made by her.
17) He must ask for permission to go to the bathroom.
18) When sharing a meal together he must always wait for her to start eating before he starts.
19) He must exercise for at least 30 minutes on average every day
20) She may change or add rules whenever she likes.
Beating your man properly by strictjulie
For this post, I thought I would share some of my experiences on how to really beat a man, but good, without injuring him. I have had a few missteps along the way, and I got some feedback and coaching from david, but I have had a lot of practice now, and can give some good tips. Everytime I give david a very intense beating, it hurts him like crazy at the time, and for hours afterwards he is sore, but he is so much happier in the end! He is also very eager to avoid another such beating, and so is very attentive to my every need for at least the next week or two.
You need a heavy implement. Perhaps a large paddle, but I think a thick cane or a thick leather tawse works best (or all three for the variety).
Aim for the region from the middle of his bottom down to where the thighs and the bum meet. Too high and he feels it in his low back (even though you didn't actually hit there, it seems that way to him). Going too low is not a problem, as the backs of his thighs are well-padded, but this is for sure "extra" punishment.
Aim so that the very tip of the implement hits anywhere between the side-to-side midpoint of each cheek. I made the mistake of aiming the general end of the strap or cane, not aiming the very tip. As a result, the strap or cane wraps around his hips, and damages the thinner skin at his hips. That is no good. So just understand that the very tip is what is moving the fastest, and wherever that hits, that is where he will feel it most. Just aim that part for the fleshiest parts.
Notice the spanking concentrating beneath the midline of his bum? She went a little more over to the side, and a few smacks down low for extra punishment. Those thigh smacks tend to bruise up nicely and cause soreness for a while.
When I go hard, I like to have him flat on the bed, with maybe just one or two pillows under his hips to raise him up a bit. If I bend him over too much the skin stretches tight, he loses the padding, and it becomes too much agony (for david anyways, your mileage may vary).
I think you should restrain him so that you can really take your time beating him, and be confident that you are really in charge (he needs to feel that as well - and restraining him makes him feel completely in your power). A belt wrapped around and around his ankles is a good start. You need to pull extra hard as you are tightening it because when it settles back in it loosens, and as he wiggles around and kicks it loosens as well. You can also consider a second belt around his knees as well. This keeps his thighs together and prevents any chance of accidentally strapping his balls. Then some kind of restraint around his wrists as well. Perhaps one of those furry things from a sex shop. Fasten his hands in front of him, and either tie them to the top of the bed, or just have him lie down on his hands. I don't mind that he plays with his penis during the beating. If it gives him some comfort, then so be it, he needs all he can get! You don't want to restrain his hands behind his back, as they may get in the way.
I also like a ball gag. A nice big one.
Make him go out and buy everything you need. With a ball gag, again, you must fasten it down more tightly than you imagine, as it loosens up as it slides around. Be prepared for a lot of slobber, though, and perhaps put a towel down at his head.
Then just go to town for as long as you want on his derrière. Take your time with each stroke, but really aim it carefully, and use a full swing of your arm and your body. It is easy to practice this alone. Just set up a few pillows and beat the stuffing out of them (just like you will do with your man later). Honestly, five minutes of practice is all it takes. We're not talking rocket science here.
And if you miss and are a little off centre with a strike, don't worry about it, and DON'T apologize whatever you do. Just remind him that if he hadn't screwed up, he wouldn't be lying here now having to receive a beating.
Don't be concerned about the sounds that come out of him. You can easily smack him hard enough to get a spine-curdling scream from him without injuring him. This has happened many times with me. It sounds like you're killing him, and he's just fine as soon as the beating is over. Just something you need some experience with.
I personally like beating him until I see some bruising. Red is not even in question: he should be deep red. Beat him until you see him really sweating. If he is not stinky and sweating, you are not going hard enough. There should also be tears in his eyes. It's not that he cries exactly, it's more like the pain is just so great that the tears leak out on their own.
For a proper beating, keep at it for at least thirty minutes, something around 300 strokes or so should get the message across.
You need to get him past the first 100 or so, after that he numbs up a bit and can take the strokes easier, but that is where the strokes that will cause him the deeper, longer lasting soreness will be doled out, so don't skimp on these if you would like to see him in discomfort for the rest of the day, and maybe well into the next, which is fun.
Yes he will be a pitiful sight to behold, but he'll be just fine from almost the moment you stop, with just the residual soreness. But a beating like this can be very cathartic for a subby male, and he will love you even more for doing it to him. Even the soreness will be a badge of honour for him, and something you can tease him about for days. He will not be injured even though his bum will look very beaten up.
I don't like to just end a beating like this casually. I will put him against the wall, bare beaten bum showing, holding up a coin with his nose. If you beat him in the bedroom, then take him nude into the living room for this. The unfamiliar surroundings will add to his distress. Make sure to let him know that if he drops the coin, he will be beaten again. If he does drop it, you absolutely must carry through on the promise, and then start his timeout from the beginning again. Fifteen minutes can be a very long time to him, and is what I generally use for timeout.
After he is done, allow him to come out and make him crawl over and kiss your feet and thank you for beating him so severely. You may then take some pity on him, and perhaps rub some cream into his bottom. Despite the beating he is usually horny after I do this (especially if I let my hand stray when applying cream or lotion). I will allow him to jerk himself off while I watch so long as he swallows his mess afterwards.
You should aim for something like this.
Poor baby.
So that is how I beat my man when he needs it. It took me a while to get over the thought that I was hurting him, but now I really enjoy making him suffer for me, and, ultimately, so does he.
Disclaimer: this type of limit-pushing play is only for couples who genuinely wish to engage in it: both parties. It is immoral, illegal, and incorrect to ever do such a thing in any way non-consensually. Be safe, be sane, and be consensual always. And have fun!
You need a heavy implement. Perhaps a large paddle, but I think a thick cane or a thick leather tawse works best (or all three for the variety).
Aim for the region from the middle of his bottom down to where the thighs and the bum meet. Too high and he feels it in his low back (even though you didn't actually hit there, it seems that way to him). Going too low is not a problem, as the backs of his thighs are well-padded, but this is for sure "extra" punishment.
Aim so that the very tip of the implement hits anywhere between the side-to-side midpoint of each cheek. I made the mistake of aiming the general end of the strap or cane, not aiming the very tip. As a result, the strap or cane wraps around his hips, and damages the thinner skin at his hips. That is no good. So just understand that the very tip is what is moving the fastest, and wherever that hits, that is where he will feel it most. Just aim that part for the fleshiest parts.
Notice the spanking concentrating beneath the midline of his bum? She went a little more over to the side, and a few smacks down low for extra punishment. Those thigh smacks tend to bruise up nicely and cause soreness for a while.
When I go hard, I like to have him flat on the bed, with maybe just one or two pillows under his hips to raise him up a bit. If I bend him over too much the skin stretches tight, he loses the padding, and it becomes too much agony (for david anyways, your mileage may vary).
I think you should restrain him so that you can really take your time beating him, and be confident that you are really in charge (he needs to feel that as well - and restraining him makes him feel completely in your power). A belt wrapped around and around his ankles is a good start. You need to pull extra hard as you are tightening it because when it settles back in it loosens, and as he wiggles around and kicks it loosens as well. You can also consider a second belt around his knees as well. This keeps his thighs together and prevents any chance of accidentally strapping his balls. Then some kind of restraint around his wrists as well. Perhaps one of those furry things from a sex shop. Fasten his hands in front of him, and either tie them to the top of the bed, or just have him lie down on his hands. I don't mind that he plays with his penis during the beating. If it gives him some comfort, then so be it, he needs all he can get! You don't want to restrain his hands behind his back, as they may get in the way.
I also like a ball gag. A nice big one.
Make him go out and buy everything you need. With a ball gag, again, you must fasten it down more tightly than you imagine, as it loosens up as it slides around. Be prepared for a lot of slobber, though, and perhaps put a towel down at his head.
Then just go to town for as long as you want on his derrière. Take your time with each stroke, but really aim it carefully, and use a full swing of your arm and your body. It is easy to practice this alone. Just set up a few pillows and beat the stuffing out of them (just like you will do with your man later). Honestly, five minutes of practice is all it takes. We're not talking rocket science here.
And if you miss and are a little off centre with a strike, don't worry about it, and DON'T apologize whatever you do. Just remind him that if he hadn't screwed up, he wouldn't be lying here now having to receive a beating.
Don't be concerned about the sounds that come out of him. You can easily smack him hard enough to get a spine-curdling scream from him without injuring him. This has happened many times with me. It sounds like you're killing him, and he's just fine as soon as the beating is over. Just something you need some experience with.
I personally like beating him until I see some bruising. Red is not even in question: he should be deep red. Beat him until you see him really sweating. If he is not stinky and sweating, you are not going hard enough. There should also be tears in his eyes. It's not that he cries exactly, it's more like the pain is just so great that the tears leak out on their own.
For a proper beating, keep at it for at least thirty minutes, something around 300 strokes or so should get the message across.
You need to get him past the first 100 or so, after that he numbs up a bit and can take the strokes easier, but that is where the strokes that will cause him the deeper, longer lasting soreness will be doled out, so don't skimp on these if you would like to see him in discomfort for the rest of the day, and maybe well into the next, which is fun.
Yes he will be a pitiful sight to behold, but he'll be just fine from almost the moment you stop, with just the residual soreness. But a beating like this can be very cathartic for a subby male, and he will love you even more for doing it to him. Even the soreness will be a badge of honour for him, and something you can tease him about for days. He will not be injured even though his bum will look very beaten up.
I don't like to just end a beating like this casually. I will put him against the wall, bare beaten bum showing, holding up a coin with his nose. If you beat him in the bedroom, then take him nude into the living room for this. The unfamiliar surroundings will add to his distress. Make sure to let him know that if he drops the coin, he will be beaten again. If he does drop it, you absolutely must carry through on the promise, and then start his timeout from the beginning again. Fifteen minutes can be a very long time to him, and is what I generally use for timeout.
After he is done, allow him to come out and make him crawl over and kiss your feet and thank you for beating him so severely. You may then take some pity on him, and perhaps rub some cream into his bottom. Despite the beating he is usually horny after I do this (especially if I let my hand stray when applying cream or lotion). I will allow him to jerk himself off while I watch so long as he swallows his mess afterwards.
You should aim for something like this.
Poor baby.
So that is how I beat my man when he needs it. It took me a while to get over the thought that I was hurting him, but now I really enjoy making him suffer for me, and, ultimately, so does he.
Disclaimer: this type of limit-pushing play is only for couples who genuinely wish to engage in it: both parties. It is immoral, illegal, and incorrect to ever do such a thing in any way non-consensually. Be safe, be sane, and be consensual always. And have fun!
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