Pegging Scenarios

These often work well will bondage and ties because it creates a form of helplessness that reinforces your control of the situation.

Level 1 - Gentle Force
- Fingering his ass
- Using small butt plugs
- Gently fucking his ass with a small dildo

Level 2 - Forceful
- Using a medium sized dildo
- Combining pegging with verbal domination (whose ass is this)
- Fast pace and deep fucking his ass

Level 3 - Submission under Threat

- Using a large sized dildo
- Not tying him down with as many ties
- Have him suck the dildo before fucking his ass

- Have him put on your strap for you

Level 4 - Full Submission

- Have him hold his own ass open on demand while you fuck his ass
- Tell him to get on his knees and suck your strap
- Randomly tell him to bend over and fuck his ass
- Have him jerk off while fucking his ass

Level 5 - Complete Domination
- Have him ride your strap on
- Fuck his ass missionary
- Force him to cum without touching his dick just by fucking his ass

How to Control Your Man

The following is a list of things that you should be doing. Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things not on the list that work for you.

1. You must absolutely take total control of his orgasms!
* Ruined Orgasms - use to your advantage.
* Orgasm Control - you control when, where, and how often.
* Anal Orgasms - teach him to learn to orgasm from prostrate simulation.
* Chastity - if you’re into it, lock him up and only let him out as you please!

2. You must get into his head!
* Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.
* Tease him with your words whenever possible.
* Find out what humiliates him.
* Use his humiliation whenever possible.

3. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible.
* Talk sexy to him.
* Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating.
* Fondle him, or let him fondle you.
* Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.
* Make him give you orgasms frequently.

4. Make him do something humiliating.
* Make him wear a butt-plug for a time.
* Make him be naked when you are not.
* Make him masturbate for you.
* Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum no matter where it is deposited.

5. Punish him whenever he displeases you.
* Don’t let him get away with anything!
* Spank, paddle, or whip him.
* Humiliate him in some way.
* Make him do anything he hates.

6. No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to tease him.
* Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private).
* Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear.
* Make him shop for lingerie with you.

Discipline

Discipline is a cornerstone of a D/s relationship. It is a tangible demonstration of a loving commitment which can be physically felt hours - even days - after it is administered.. Spanking takes time and effort.  submissive should routinely thank their Trainers for guidance and love, which is inseparable from the pain in their bottoms. The body’s response to that pain is the release of endorphins, a far healthier destressor than ejaculation. It enhances, rather than diminishes, feelings of submissiveness.

Those feelings are the glue that binds a D/s couple together.

What are some small (gentle and sweet) things that have a big impact reinforcing any D/s relationship?

Some things that immediately come to mind:

• Constant communication. This seems obvious but it is so so so very important and I think gets taken for granted.
• Consistent reward/punishment system. One cannot exist without the other and both are of equal importance. Pure reward and he/she’ll be a spoiled brat. Pure punishment and he/she won’t feel loved and cherished.
• Rules. Both normal day to day and special rules, they are crucial to a strong D/s relationship. And stay on top of it!
• Consistent reminders of status. This means doing/saying little things throughout the day to remind sub of his/her place in your relationship.
• Aftercare. This is such a huge one and I can’t believe it still gets overlooked by some members of the D/s community. If you are willing to play out an intense scene with your sub, then you better be equally willing to give them the proper care and attention afterwards.
• P R A I S E. For the love of god tell your sub they’re a good boy/girl. Shower them in kisses and affection. Buy them gifts when they’ve been good all day. Compliment them. PRAISE THEM. Remember that they are not obligated to do what you say and they do it out of love for you.

Something i hear all the time

“I want to be dominant and my partner wants me to be dominant, but I’m just too big.”

Allow me to introduce Namio Harukawa, probably my favorite artist as i was just entering the kink scene.
Now you may be thinking, clearly this is a fat fetish thing. At least for me, that would be incorrect. I find women beautiful, and the variety is part of that allure.

But what really entices me, is the mind. It doesn’t matter if you’re big or tiny, short or tall, race or ethnicity.

What matters is simply how you treat yourself and others.

So if you want to be dominant, pursue it. Read, learn, and experiment. Have fun with your partner. Confidence will come with time and experience.

Never forget, that no matter what anyone else says, no matter what a society may say, the person kneeling in front of you begging to worship you sees you as the Goddess that you are.

See yourself through their eyes.

Being Dominant…

A lot of women, when a submissive male presents themselves, find the task of enslaving him too daunting. But by remembering these simple rules, you can easily benefit with no hassle at all…

Just remember, being dominant is not something you “do”, its someone you “are”. Its not something you should have to lift a finger for, as lifting is what the sub male is for! You just need to think, something we are much better equipped to do than the male of the species...

Just remember these 10 points:

1) In general, a submissive only speaks when spoken to.
2) A submissive respondes better being told what to do instead of being asked.
3) Do not feel pressure to do anything. This is the submissive’s job.
4) Learn to enjoy yourself sexually while the submissive is withheld.
5) A submissive needs to feel the tug of your proverbial leash. Find ways that work for you.
6) Acknowledge daily to your submissive their role beneath you by telling them in some way they are doing things you want.
7) Tell your submissive as soon as you are upset with something they are doing.
8) Fine things you enjoy and use your submissive to do them.
9) Remember, your submissive feels pleasure when you use them. You are being nice when you give them a chance to do something for you.
10) Being strict is welcomed…

Advice about pegging

In a FemDom relationship… getting the strap-on is not an option.

Don’t let the challenges of the first few sessions deter you. He’ll resist and try to manipulate his way out of it. He’ll talk about how much it hurts and how uncomfortable if feels. He’ll scream like a little bitch the first few times. All of that’s very normal.

But just keep at it. Your goal is to make it a very normal part of his experience. Believe me, he’ll eventually get used to it.

After a while… 2-3 months of getting it pretty regularly… some pretty wonderful things will start to happen. His selfish, argumentative masculine edge will dissipate. He will become much more cooperative and attentive to your needs. His submissive side will come out and blossom. He will become much less concerned with his orgasms, and more focused on yours. His erogenous zone will slowly start to shift from the head of his penis to the opening to his asshole and his prostate gland.