Sadeword: A word serving as a prearranged and unambiguous signal to end an activity.
For example, “No”.
“No” is probably the most commonly used safeword among English speakers. We use it in all kinds of situations, from someone asking for a hug to someone asking for sex.
To practice safe, sane, and consensual kink, you do not need a fancy safeword, there is one built in to the English language.
There are two instances where another word is necessary:
A) One or more people involved in the scene want to establish one.
B) A scene in which “no” is not supposed to mean no.
There’s a lot of people tripping around saying that if you don’t have a safeword, it’s rape. And they are not wrong, but the message that tends to get out there is that if you don’t have a safe word besides “No”, then it’s abuse, and that’s just not the way things work.
Remember, in order for consent to be freely given, it has to be able to be freely withdrawn. Safewords are a necessary component to the free withdrawal of consent.
“No” is probably the most commonly used safeword among English speakers. We use it in all kinds of situations, from someone asking for a hug to someone asking for sex.
To practice safe, sane, and consensual kink, you do not need a fancy safeword, there is one built in to the English language.
There are two instances where another word is necessary:
A) One or more people involved in the scene want to establish one.
B) A scene in which “no” is not supposed to mean no.
There’s a lot of people tripping around saying that if you don’t have a safeword, it’s rape. And they are not wrong, but the message that tends to get out there is that if you don’t have a safe word besides “No”, then it’s abuse, and that’s just not the way things work.
Remember, in order for consent to be freely given, it has to be able to be freely withdrawn. Safewords are a necessary component to the free withdrawal of consent.
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