You Want Your Girlfriend to Become a Domme
What wonderful girlfriend you have. That she loves you is a continual surprise. Your shared life seems the perfection of romantic bliss. Except.
You wish your girlfriend were dominant. Very dominant. If only she would at least spank you. Your unspoken erotic cravings are probably multifarious and lurid.
Dungeon dreams, you dare not confess them to your girlfriend. She would probably call you a sick pervert and the romance would die the day of your confession.
I no more expect a submissive masochistic man to find happiness with a vanilla woman than a lesbian with a heterosexual male. Some pairings are foredoomed to failure.
But I will make a suggestion. In the early twenty-first century, people are more open to sexual experimentation. Kink has taken a few small steps out of the closet.
A submissively oriented boyfriend might tell his girlfriend, he would like her to be more aggressive. Even bossy. Occasionally.
Keep it light and playful. Do not push.
Suggest to her that the two of you role-play at bit. Maybe on the weekends, if only for a couple of hours on Sunday afternoon. You might even ask for a mild over-the-knee (or against the wall) hand spanking.
Maybe she will enjoy the play sessions. Perhaps she will desire to explore rougher activities, longer duration role-play.
Again, do not mention the crazy, weird fantasies you have. There is no crime in having masochistic dreams. In time, you may be able to tell her everything. But you must be patient and give her plenty of time to get used to light, simple F/m play.
Should this miraculously go well you might buy her a copy of Lady Green’s* The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners. The book is available in paperback and as an eBook.
Have you ever tried something like this, did you have success?
* Lady Green is publisher Janet Hardy. Greenery Press has published many books of value for people exploring bondage, domination, power exchange and consensual erotic sadomasochism.
What wonderful girlfriend you have. That she loves you is a continual surprise. Your shared life seems the perfection of romantic bliss. Except.
You wish your girlfriend were dominant. Very dominant. If only she would at least spank you. Your unspoken erotic cravings are probably multifarious and lurid.
Dungeon dreams, you dare not confess them to your girlfriend. She would probably call you a sick pervert and the romance would die the day of your confession.
I no more expect a submissive masochistic man to find happiness with a vanilla woman than a lesbian with a heterosexual male. Some pairings are foredoomed to failure.
But I will make a suggestion. In the early twenty-first century, people are more open to sexual experimentation. Kink has taken a few small steps out of the closet.
A submissively oriented boyfriend might tell his girlfriend, he would like her to be more aggressive. Even bossy. Occasionally.
- Do not ask for a 24/7 Femdom regimen.
- Do not tell her about your extreme fantasies.
- Do not use the word Femdom.
- Do not talk about Female supremacy.
Keep it light and playful. Do not push.
Suggest to her that the two of you role-play at bit. Maybe on the weekends, if only for a couple of hours on Sunday afternoon. You might even ask for a mild over-the-knee (or against the wall) hand spanking.
Maybe she will enjoy the play sessions. Perhaps she will desire to explore rougher activities, longer duration role-play.
Again, do not mention the crazy, weird fantasies you have. There is no crime in having masochistic dreams. In time, you may be able to tell her everything. But you must be patient and give her plenty of time to get used to light, simple F/m play.
Should this miraculously go well you might buy her a copy of Lady Green’s* The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners. The book is available in paperback and as an eBook.
Have you ever tried something like this, did you have success?
* Lady Green is publisher Janet Hardy. Greenery Press has published many books of value for people exploring bondage, domination, power exchange and consensual erotic sadomasochism.
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