False Stereotypes of Female Domination
Dominant women as depicted in the mass media and popular culture is false and misleading
Some authors are under orders to write descriptions of their sessions and many of these are genuine accounts of a session (or lifestyle). The stories are directed to male readers who, it is hoped, will be turned on by the portrayed dominant woman and will contact Her. The dominant women may be attired in leather, brief lingerie, spike-heeled boots or shoes, masks, etc., and are usually brandishing a corrective implement.
There are a few publications in which only dominant woman-authored articles and stories are published; they are authentic and involve discussions on the dominant woman’s point of view. These articles are educational and informative.
It is important to distinguish a hack pulp writer’s description of a dominant woman (first person) and the action in the story. There are certain clues that the reader or viewer can pick up after reading a number of these accounts.
FALLACY: All dominant women are absolutely gorgeous and have non-stop legs.
FACT: dominant women come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Some would not be considered “pretty” by any stretch of the imagination. Some are Amazon-types, imposing, while some are petite, dainty, Women. dominant women are as varied as Women in the general population, with as many varied backgrounds and interests.
FALLACY: dominant women live in 20-room mansions and keep a stable of slaves in the cellar. The slaves and servants work round the clock attending to the household and other chores and duties.
The slaves are kept in cages and chains when not in use and are always being punished for some infraction. These dominant women spend their entire day lounging or preparing themselves for a party or affair. They have 12 closets full of expensive clothes and shoes and their biggest concern is dress and toilette.
Naturally, they are wealthy and haven’t a care in the world because their slaves are doctors, lawyers, and accountants. The slaves, purportedly, hand over their assets and income for permission to live in total slavery in the dominant woman’s castle. The slaves are kept on strict diets of approximately 500 calories a day, and the food is gruesome. This dominant woman is a modern-day Medieval Queen, like the one in the fairy tale “Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs.”
FACT: Most dominant women live in houses and apartments like other Women. Some are married or partnered, have children and lead a rather ordinary life outside of their slave training activities. They may or may not have one or more live-in slaves. Some slaves come over occasionally while others may spend a weekend.
FALLACY: Every submissive male wants to be a full-time, live-in slave. They can dream of nothing more satisfying and exciting than being a full-time slave. If only they could find the right dominant woman who would accept them, they would do anything for Her, submit to degradation and torture. And, of course, EVERY dominant woman is on the lookout for just such a slave.
FACT: Few males are interested in full-time slavery under any conditions. Many are married with families and some have careers that could not possibly include entertaining business colleagues down in the slave dungeon. How could they explain the lousy grub and living conditions to a honcho from IBM? What about a telephone, a fax machine, and the company car?
FALLACY: All submissive males are submissive all the time; they love to submit to a dominant woman whenever She commands and will come to Her at any time, even across five states if necessary. Nothing is too difficult, too embarrassing, or too time consuming for a submissive male when the dominant woman summons him to do Her bidding at a moment’s notice.
Occasionally, some submissive males have to be captured and forced to submit simply because they will not willingly obey the dominant woman’s orders. They are kidnapped off street corners, restrained, transported to god-awful places where they undergo horrid tortures and humiliation at the hands of crazed Women or equally crazed males (bikers, etc.). The most perverted sexual acts, even maiming and castration, ensue at the appointed destination. Nevertheless, the captive slave is always sexually aroused due to the various acts being forced upon him.
FACT: Few submissive males will submit to anything that does not sexually arouse them. Most submissive males will visit a dominant woman occasionally when he’s in the submissive “mood.” The concept of “submission” arouses them but it quickly disappeared once the submissive has satisfied his own needs. Tah tah till next time, my Queen.
Submissive males have all sorts of limits and boundaries which the dominant woman must respect, although the opposite is rarely the case. Thus, the submissive who is “not turned on” by life in a slave dungeon is not going to submit to that lifestyle come hell or high water. The “captivity scenario” is merely the fantasy of true captivation, because this submissive cannot overcome his fear of consensual submission and surrender, a perceived abyss where one never returns to the pre-captive state — finality, the pits.
This fear is the main reason why most submissives will never submit to full-time, live-in slavery or servitude. Even a one sided masochist will not submit to full-time since their pain must be administered in precisely the method and amount they require for the submissive state to overtake them.
FALLACY: All dominant women enjoy sexual intimacy with their trainees and slaves. This may be coitus, cunnilingus, anal worship, etc. Whatever turns on the slave is always what the dominant woman enjoys as well and, in fact, he is there strictly to serve Her needs and whims in this manner. The slave does little else.
Hours and hours of “torture” servicing the dominant woman while rigged up in chastity devices, chains, dildo head harnesses, and various attire such as ladies lingerie. The accounts of slave sexual service could fill 50 New York libraries. The variations are limited only by the author’s imagination, and the slave’s.
FACT: Few dominant women enjoy sexual intimacy with a slave since to do so would reduce their power and authority over him. If a submissive were interested merely in ordinary sexual encounters, he would not seek out a dominant woman. The slave’s orgasms, as well as freedom in general, are controlled by the dominant woman. She alone decides what he does, when he does it, and how. That’s the “turn-on.”
As stated above, many dominant women are married and have no interest in cohabiting with slaves while others consider it demeaning to allow a slave sexual intimacy. In stories where the “scene” ends in coitus, the dominant womantion was a prelude to “vanilla sex”, foreplay. Many dominant women live a life completely separate from slaves and slave training and are not interested in a life partnership with a submissive male of any type.
As stated previously, few submissive males are sincerely willing to fulfill a dominant woman’s real needs and desires if they do not coincide with his own perceptions of what submission should be to him.
FALLACY: All submissive males are wealthy, generous, and there is nothing they wouldn’t do for their dominant woman, even undergoing poverty and starvation for Her. They would hand over their houses, cars, boats, land, pensions, annuities, inheritances, the family jewels, and so on.
They sign a contract that says they are now the dominant woman’s slave property, to do with as She pleases (or banish). The slave “has no choice,” he has surrendered his will to the dominant woman. Right.
FACT: This writer has never seen a valid slave contract that would stand up in a court of law. Non-consensual slavery or enforced servitude by coercion or threat is illegal in most countries today. “Slave contracts” are usually consensual, open ended agreements and cannot be enforced by either party. Thus the slave can run away any time he pleases. It is only by his free will that he remains enslaved, a surrendering of his will to the dominant woman.
Full-time, live-in slaves give up personal responsibility for their actions and would not want to resume responsibility for themselves. A pure freedom. The dominant woman is burdened with the responsibility of the slave’s welfare and needs.
FALLACY: Slaves (live-in or out) spend most of their time tied up or serving the dominant woman in kinky sexual acts. They are always in trouble, so they are always being humiliated or severely punished. They can tolerate tremendous pain and suffering, denial, etc.
Even Attila the Hun could not get this slave to fess up in a pot of boiling oil. The slave withstands hours, days, months in restraints, locked in closets or kept under the bed. The scenarios defy the human body’s limits, are incredible. But the slave always comes out smelling like roses and good as new. No one missed him at home or at work. Naturally, the dominant woman, a wealthy Queen, does not miss his income or services while he is restrained for these long periods of time.
FACT: The tiny percentage of live-in submissives are engaged in typical chores and duties that any well-trained, ordinary male can do at home. They work (some do not), lead ordinary lives (that which is visible to outsiders), and assist the dominant woman with most domestic tasks and general servitude as She requires. They may assist with slave training sessions.
The major difference in a dominant woman-slave relationship, compared to a mainstream hetero relationship, is the total reversal of roles. The slave is not the “head of household,” does not negotiate work-sharing, money-sharing, or anything that remotely resembles a “normal” relationship. The lifestyle dominant woman is a Matriarch and runs the whole house as She sees fit.
The slave (whether solo or stabled) spends his day working (if he works) outside, and then comes home and does some more work like cleaning, cooking, washing the car, and all sorts of exciting things like that. Sound familiar?
No matter how tired and stressed out he is, he will work until he falls into bed exhausted. If he pleases the dominant woman, She may allow him some sexual release, but only if he’s earned that reward and only in the manner which suits Her.
Dominant women dress in ordinary clothes like other Women because only they choose what they will or won’t wear, not the slave!
Dominant women as depicted in the mass media and popular culture is false and misleading
Some authors are under orders to write descriptions of their sessions and many of these are genuine accounts of a session (or lifestyle). The stories are directed to male readers who, it is hoped, will be turned on by the portrayed dominant woman and will contact Her. The dominant women may be attired in leather, brief lingerie, spike-heeled boots or shoes, masks, etc., and are usually brandishing a corrective implement.
There are a few publications in which only dominant woman-authored articles and stories are published; they are authentic and involve discussions on the dominant woman’s point of view. These articles are educational and informative.
It is important to distinguish a hack pulp writer’s description of a dominant woman (first person) and the action in the story. There are certain clues that the reader or viewer can pick up after reading a number of these accounts.
FALLACY: All dominant women are absolutely gorgeous and have non-stop legs.
FACT: dominant women come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Some would not be considered “pretty” by any stretch of the imagination. Some are Amazon-types, imposing, while some are petite, dainty, Women. dominant women are as varied as Women in the general population, with as many varied backgrounds and interests.
FALLACY: dominant women live in 20-room mansions and keep a stable of slaves in the cellar. The slaves and servants work round the clock attending to the household and other chores and duties.
The slaves are kept in cages and chains when not in use and are always being punished for some infraction. These dominant women spend their entire day lounging or preparing themselves for a party or affair. They have 12 closets full of expensive clothes and shoes and their biggest concern is dress and toilette.
Naturally, they are wealthy and haven’t a care in the world because their slaves are doctors, lawyers, and accountants. The slaves, purportedly, hand over their assets and income for permission to live in total slavery in the dominant woman’s castle. The slaves are kept on strict diets of approximately 500 calories a day, and the food is gruesome. This dominant woman is a modern-day Medieval Queen, like the one in the fairy tale “Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs.”
FACT: Most dominant women live in houses and apartments like other Women. Some are married or partnered, have children and lead a rather ordinary life outside of their slave training activities. They may or may not have one or more live-in slaves. Some slaves come over occasionally while others may spend a weekend.
FALLACY: Every submissive male wants to be a full-time, live-in slave. They can dream of nothing more satisfying and exciting than being a full-time slave. If only they could find the right dominant woman who would accept them, they would do anything for Her, submit to degradation and torture. And, of course, EVERY dominant woman is on the lookout for just such a slave.
FACT: Few males are interested in full-time slavery under any conditions. Many are married with families and some have careers that could not possibly include entertaining business colleagues down in the slave dungeon. How could they explain the lousy grub and living conditions to a honcho from IBM? What about a telephone, a fax machine, and the company car?
FALLACY: All submissive males are submissive all the time; they love to submit to a dominant woman whenever She commands and will come to Her at any time, even across five states if necessary. Nothing is too difficult, too embarrassing, or too time consuming for a submissive male when the dominant woman summons him to do Her bidding at a moment’s notice.
Occasionally, some submissive males have to be captured and forced to submit simply because they will not willingly obey the dominant woman’s orders. They are kidnapped off street corners, restrained, transported to god-awful places where they undergo horrid tortures and humiliation at the hands of crazed Women or equally crazed males (bikers, etc.). The most perverted sexual acts, even maiming and castration, ensue at the appointed destination. Nevertheless, the captive slave is always sexually aroused due to the various acts being forced upon him.
FACT: Few submissive males will submit to anything that does not sexually arouse them. Most submissive males will visit a dominant woman occasionally when he’s in the submissive “mood.” The concept of “submission” arouses them but it quickly disappeared once the submissive has satisfied his own needs. Tah tah till next time, my Queen.
Submissive males have all sorts of limits and boundaries which the dominant woman must respect, although the opposite is rarely the case. Thus, the submissive who is “not turned on” by life in a slave dungeon is not going to submit to that lifestyle come hell or high water. The “captivity scenario” is merely the fantasy of true captivation, because this submissive cannot overcome his fear of consensual submission and surrender, a perceived abyss where one never returns to the pre-captive state — finality, the pits.
This fear is the main reason why most submissives will never submit to full-time, live-in slavery or servitude. Even a one sided masochist will not submit to full-time since their pain must be administered in precisely the method and amount they require for the submissive state to overtake them.
FALLACY: All dominant women enjoy sexual intimacy with their trainees and slaves. This may be coitus, cunnilingus, anal worship, etc. Whatever turns on the slave is always what the dominant woman enjoys as well and, in fact, he is there strictly to serve Her needs and whims in this manner. The slave does little else.
Hours and hours of “torture” servicing the dominant woman while rigged up in chastity devices, chains, dildo head harnesses, and various attire such as ladies lingerie. The accounts of slave sexual service could fill 50 New York libraries. The variations are limited only by the author’s imagination, and the slave’s.
FACT: Few dominant women enjoy sexual intimacy with a slave since to do so would reduce their power and authority over him. If a submissive were interested merely in ordinary sexual encounters, he would not seek out a dominant woman. The slave’s orgasms, as well as freedom in general, are controlled by the dominant woman. She alone decides what he does, when he does it, and how. That’s the “turn-on.”
As stated above, many dominant women are married and have no interest in cohabiting with slaves while others consider it demeaning to allow a slave sexual intimacy. In stories where the “scene” ends in coitus, the dominant womantion was a prelude to “vanilla sex”, foreplay. Many dominant women live a life completely separate from slaves and slave training and are not interested in a life partnership with a submissive male of any type.
As stated previously, few submissive males are sincerely willing to fulfill a dominant woman’s real needs and desires if they do not coincide with his own perceptions of what submission should be to him.
FALLACY: All submissive males are wealthy, generous, and there is nothing they wouldn’t do for their dominant woman, even undergoing poverty and starvation for Her. They would hand over their houses, cars, boats, land, pensions, annuities, inheritances, the family jewels, and so on.
They sign a contract that says they are now the dominant woman’s slave property, to do with as She pleases (or banish). The slave “has no choice,” he has surrendered his will to the dominant woman. Right.
FACT: This writer has never seen a valid slave contract that would stand up in a court of law. Non-consensual slavery or enforced servitude by coercion or threat is illegal in most countries today. “Slave contracts” are usually consensual, open ended agreements and cannot be enforced by either party. Thus the slave can run away any time he pleases. It is only by his free will that he remains enslaved, a surrendering of his will to the dominant woman.
Full-time, live-in slaves give up personal responsibility for their actions and would not want to resume responsibility for themselves. A pure freedom. The dominant woman is burdened with the responsibility of the slave’s welfare and needs.
FALLACY: Slaves (live-in or out) spend most of their time tied up or serving the dominant woman in kinky sexual acts. They are always in trouble, so they are always being humiliated or severely punished. They can tolerate tremendous pain and suffering, denial, etc.
Even Attila the Hun could not get this slave to fess up in a pot of boiling oil. The slave withstands hours, days, months in restraints, locked in closets or kept under the bed. The scenarios defy the human body’s limits, are incredible. But the slave always comes out smelling like roses and good as new. No one missed him at home or at work. Naturally, the dominant woman, a wealthy Queen, does not miss his income or services while he is restrained for these long periods of time.
FACT: The tiny percentage of live-in submissives are engaged in typical chores and duties that any well-trained, ordinary male can do at home. They work (some do not), lead ordinary lives (that which is visible to outsiders), and assist the dominant woman with most domestic tasks and general servitude as She requires. They may assist with slave training sessions.
The major difference in a dominant woman-slave relationship, compared to a mainstream hetero relationship, is the total reversal of roles. The slave is not the “head of household,” does not negotiate work-sharing, money-sharing, or anything that remotely resembles a “normal” relationship. The lifestyle dominant woman is a Matriarch and runs the whole house as She sees fit.
The slave (whether solo or stabled) spends his day working (if he works) outside, and then comes home and does some more work like cleaning, cooking, washing the car, and all sorts of exciting things like that. Sound familiar?
No matter how tired and stressed out he is, he will work until he falls into bed exhausted. If he pleases the dominant woman, She may allow him some sexual release, but only if he’s earned that reward and only in the manner which suits Her.
Dominant women dress in ordinary clothes like other Women because only they choose what they will or won’t wear, not the slave!
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