“Training” sounds like something you would do to a circus animal. “Conditioning” might be a better word. The point is that you now have some power to shape him into the man you would like him to be, and he would love the attention and the chance to improve himself. So let’s see how you can go about that.
The first step is to actually decide what kind of man you want him to be. There are several aspects to that question, of course. Physical appearance, FLR qualities, vanilla qualities and so on. Depending on what boundaries you have set for the FLR relationship, all of these may be shapable by you.
FLR QUALITIES
You should definitely train him when it comes to FLR qualities. How attentive should he be, what shouldn’t he ever do or say, how much housework is he expected to do, and how should he do it? What do you like to be served when you get breakfast in bed? The sky is the limit, just don’t give him too many rules all at once, or he’ll have a hard time remembering them.
SEX/KINK QUALITIES
Also an area where you should definitely train him. What do you like, how do you like it, how long, what don’t you like? Turn him into a world class pussy licker, teach him to deep-throat your strap-on, teach him exactly how to lick your feet and suck your toes without tickling you. Again, there is no limit to what you can train him to do in this area.
HOW TO TRAIN HIM
OK, so we’ve established that there are lots of areas where you can train him, but how do you do it? There are plenty of tools at your disposal. Let’s list some of them, starting with some principles:
Try to be consistent. Don’t let him get away with something sometimes, and other times not.
Reward him.
Verbal feedback. Don’t be afraid to let him know when you’re disappointed in him, he will most likely thoroughly enjoy it at some level.
Keep him in chastity longer than usual. Don’t be afraid to add a few weeks every now and then if he doesn’t perform to your liking.
Deny him access to your body. This is extremely effective, and probably the cruelest punishment of all. Use sparingly.
Physical punishment. Unless you have specifically agreed to avoid this, you may want to punish him physically when the infraction calls for it. Keep it safe and don’t go overboard, especially in the beginning, but don’t be shy either.
The first step is to actually decide what kind of man you want him to be. There are several aspects to that question, of course. Physical appearance, FLR qualities, vanilla qualities and so on. Depending on what boundaries you have set for the FLR relationship, all of these may be shapable by you.
VANILLA QUALITIES
Let me give you a few examples of vanilla qualities that you can control. I have set a strict weight limit for my husband, which he is expected to never go above. I have also given him certain guidelines in terms of his appearance (style of clothing, hairstyle etc.) This may seem bizarre to some, but we both want it that way and it’s a great motivator for him. He was somewhat overweight before we started doing this, and had a lot of trouble losing weight, but as soon as we made it an FLR thing he found the motivation and energy he needed, and he has kept his weight limit ever since.
Similarly, I have instructed him to increase his assertiveness and masculinity when interacting with others. This serves two purposes. First, it creates a greater contrast between the man others see and the man I get to experience in private, which amuses me. Secondly, I simply don’t want him to be a servile/submissive man in his vanilla life. I like masculine, assertive men and I want to make sure that that side of him doesn’t gradually fade away. This is individual, of course - others enjoy displaying their submissive male.
Let me give you a few examples of vanilla qualities that you can control. I have set a strict weight limit for my husband, which he is expected to never go above. I have also given him certain guidelines in terms of his appearance (style of clothing, hairstyle etc.) This may seem bizarre to some, but we both want it that way and it’s a great motivator for him. He was somewhat overweight before we started doing this, and had a lot of trouble losing weight, but as soon as we made it an FLR thing he found the motivation and energy he needed, and he has kept his weight limit ever since.
Similarly, I have instructed him to increase his assertiveness and masculinity when interacting with others. This serves two purposes. First, it creates a greater contrast between the man others see and the man I get to experience in private, which amuses me. Secondly, I simply don’t want him to be a servile/submissive man in his vanilla life. I like masculine, assertive men and I want to make sure that that side of him doesn’t gradually fade away. This is individual, of course - others enjoy displaying their submissive male.
FLR QUALITIES
You should definitely train him when it comes to FLR qualities. How attentive should he be, what shouldn’t he ever do or say, how much housework is he expected to do, and how should he do it? What do you like to be served when you get breakfast in bed? The sky is the limit, just don’t give him too many rules all at once, or he’ll have a hard time remembering them.
SEX/KINK QUALITIES
Also an area where you should definitely train him. What do you like, how do you like it, how long, what don’t you like? Turn him into a world class pussy licker, teach him to deep-throat your strap-on, teach him exactly how to lick your feet and suck your toes without tickling you. Again, there is no limit to what you can train him to do in this area.
HOW TO TRAIN HIM
OK, so we’ve established that there are lots of areas where you can train him, but how do you do it? There are plenty of tools at your disposal. Let’s list some of them, starting with some principles:
Try to be consistent. Don’t let him get away with something sometimes, and other times not.
Reward him.
Verbal feedback. Don’t be afraid to let him know when you’re disappointed in him, he will most likely thoroughly enjoy it at some level.
Keep him in chastity longer than usual. Don’t be afraid to add a few weeks every now and then if he doesn’t perform to your liking.
Deny him access to your body. This is extremely effective, and probably the cruelest punishment of all. Use sparingly.
Physical punishment. Unless you have specifically agreed to avoid this, you may want to punish him physically when the infraction calls for it. Keep it safe and don’t go overboard, especially in the beginning, but don’t be shy either.
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